Dreams about loved ones/friends who have passed away

[Virgo10]

I never called this event a dream. It was more like a meeting. The Christmas after my father died, I met him in my subconcious. Yes, I was asleep but I almost never remember my dreams and, if I do, they're not like this was. I can still describe the room we were in in detail some 22 years later.

I came into this room which was all white. He was sitting on a couch and behind it were 3 floor to ceiling windows. He told he how happy he was and put his arms around me.

As far as I know, this has been the only dream I ever had of him. It gave me a lot of comfort at the time and still does to this day.

Roberta

 

[luvwinnie]

I have had many about my mom which I know in my heart are actually "visits". There is a certain warmth and realness to those dreams. I wake up and feel as if I have BEEN WITH HER. In those dreams she is glowing with this joy we can't know here on earth and she is smiling so big! It's wonderful.
I've also had "visits" from my friend Michelle who died in a car accident when she was 19. In one she sat next to me on my bed, sighed sadly and said "I wish they weren't so angry at each other." I later found out her parents had separated. She also came to me about a year before my mom passed and told me that although my mom didn't have long to live, she would okay.

 

[luckywife]

I've had several dreams about my mom since she passed away last year. The first dream I had was the most real one, one I'm sure wasn't just a dream.

I saw her wearing a green robe and she was running. I kept yelling her name and when she finally stopped and turned around, I realized how YOUNG she looked. She looked just like she did when I was maybe 5 or 6 years old. I never got a chance to say anything to her but she looked at me and said "I'm ok!" I woke up right away and found myself sitting up in bed, feeling like I had never really been asleep.

I've had a few other dreams of her since then, some seemed very real, others were just very weird and kind of scared me.

My mom had lung cancer and only lived 3 weeks after she was diagnosed. In one dream I had about her she was standing outside of a bathroom stall in some store. When I opened the door and saw her, I cried and gave her a big hug. She lightly pushed me away and said "You have to be careful because I just had a lung transplant." That dream bothered me a lot so I try not to think about it.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

If anyone cares to read more about it, John Edward discusses this phenomenon in his book One Last Time. According to him, a dream is actually a "visitation" when it's very real and you remember it in detail for years to come. It has something to do with our energy levels being similar to those who have passed when we're in a sleep state and they are able to connect with us then. We just need to recognize it for what it is.

For those who've lost a loved one, One Last Time can be a huge source of comfort. I lost my father in 1986 and had two very vivid dreams of him within the first year, before I understood the difference between a dream and a visitation. I'm still waiting for a new visitation dream (though my mother has them a lot), but he lets me know he's around in other ways. Luckily now, I recognize the signs for what they are and yes, it it comforting.

 

[HollyJoy]

Yes, I have. I have dreams of my Father every so often, and I believe that it's his way of communicating with me. Some may think it's a bunch of rubbish, but I don't care... I believe it. I find comfort in them.

 

[HollyJoy]

I've had several dreams about my mom since she passed away last year.

My mom had lung cancer and only lived 3 weeks after she was diagnosed. In one dream I had about her she was standing outside of a bathroom stall in some store. When I opened the door and saw her, I cried and gave her a big hug. She lightly pushed me away and said "You have to be careful because I just had a lung transplant." That dream bothered me a lot so I try not to think about it.

Maybe this dream was her way of warning you that you need to watch out yourself for lung cancer... ?

 

[Blondie]

I believe that the dreams are visitations as well. I'll have to look for that book!

 

[nrsldy]

I have found comfort over the years from the dreams I have had. My mother died in "83" from lung CA, grandmother in "93" and daughter in "95" from colon Ca. I have had dreams over the years to let me know that they are alright and at peace. Maybe it might be wishful thinking but for whatever reason it has helped with the loss of my loved ones. They are missed.

 

[nrsldy]

When I went to Compaassionate Friends after the loss of my daughter someone told me about the book Hello From Heaven! It talks about the many ways people have had communication from thier loved ones. It might be a helpful read.

 

[gina2000]

Yes, I have dreamed of my father. He always appears in dreams when I am under stress. He never says anything more than a sentence to me. He always looks for my son. I always wake up knowing that everything will be okay.

I've been very comforted by those dreams and it doesn't matter to me whether they are real or not. I feel that they are and that's all that matters to me.

 

[snoopy]

I have dreams about my parents ocassionally. My dreams of them are always happy ones, never when they are sick or dying, Its comforting, and it's nice to have my memory refreshed now and then with images of them as content, loving, and healthy people. Particularly with my father, who had a long and painful death, it helps overwrite the bad memories. But it makes me miss them more, too.

 

[Lachesis00]

I believe this...

My friend Sam passed away in 1994 (I think) and he has come to me several times. Not only in dreams but I smell cig smoke and I believe it's him watching over me.
In the dreams it's always when I am at the height of my stress tolerance and I always feel so peaceful and calm when waking. We never really talk... I don't think or talk much. It's never anything stressful...

As for the smoke, I smell it when I am awake. My husband thought I was crazy smelling it... as he couldn't (we don't smoke and he was closest to a closed window)... one night I had him roll on top of me... and he smelled it... he jumped out of bed and ran to my side and by the time he got there it was totally gone. Now when I smelled it, it was like 10 people were next to me smoking... it was soooo strong. I truely believe it was meant for me to smell, to let me know he's watching over me.

If anyone cares to read more about it, John Edward discusses this phenomenon in his book One Last Time. According to him, a dream is actually a "visitation" when it's very real and you remember it in detail for years to come. It has something to do with our energy levels being similar to those who have passed when we're in a sleep state and they are able to connect with us then. We just need to recognize it for what it is.

 

[inaminute]

Oh Goodness. My Mom passed away eight or nine years ago. We had a very rock relationship due to her problem with alchohol and other emotional problems. Three weeks after her funeral I had dream about her. It took place at a family reunion--but I didn't know anyone there. They were all waiting for someone. No one seemed to notice me at all. It was like I was just watching. Then my mother came through the door with a man on her right. He walked over to the side and just watched. It was like he was guiding her. She proceeded to greet everyone with hugs and kisses. All of a sudden she noticed me and gave a huge smile. She came over and told me she was glad to see me. She told me she always loved me and then gave me a huge hug. I could feel her arms around me as if I were a baby. That was when I woke up. I've not dreamed of her since. I cried the entire day.

To this day, when I think about that dream, I can still feel her arms around me. It was comforting in a way, but really freaked me out. I've since lost my grandmother, stepfather, and a couple of aunts. Every time someone passes I pray that I won't have that type of dream. So far, I haven't and I honestly hope I never do again.

 

[chimera]

My dad died suddenly 3 years ago. We had to go up to GA and take care of his apartment and things. I used to dream that he would show up at my house, wanting to know where all of his stuff was. He always seemed so confused! My DD was 9 at the time, she used to dream about him and a train station.

 

[PrincessaC]

A few weeks after my uncle died I had a dream of him. It's weird because you don't normally dream of yourself still in bed but in this dream I was laying in bed and my uncle was standing at the foot of the bed. There were 3 other men with him. I did not know these other men with him. The other one could of been my grandfather that I never knew. Anyways, the room was very bright. I remember my uncle saying "everythings going to be okay". We did not hug or touch but I remember a very soothing feeling coming over me and feeling very calm. It was a strange feeling. That was the one and only dream I had of him.

 

[catsrule]

I have had many dreams about my Dad, who passed away in Dec 2001. Yes, they have all been comforting. In the dreams he always tells me he isn't really dead.

I've also had dreams about my favorite pet bird that died quite a few years ago.

 

[SideshowBob]

SWEAR... used to have dreams with my cousin "Mickey" who died in tragic car accident in SSB's small town... where he was walking and talking with me. Do believe if someone to escort you to the next world, that he may be my guide. (ok, you all are going to think I am a freak now... oops.... too late! )

 

[Pea-n-Me]

s for the smoke, I smell it when I am awake. My husband thought I was crazy smelling it... as he couldn't

I smell smoke, too, and so does DH. Not always at the same time but sometimes. Then as quick as it comes, it disappears. Strange but comforting(nobody in my house smokes but my father was a chain smoker).

 

[Duchie]

Several years ago, I had a dream about my grandfather. He passed away in 1975. In the dream, I saw him and was so excited to speak to him. I asked him where he had been for all of these years (I don't remember his answer), and told him all about me, my DH, our son and soon-to-be daughter. I felt very calm and serene when I woke up the next morning.

Now here's the freaky part:

I was telling DH about it. He casually asked me when my GF died, and I told him it was July 3, 1975. He sort of looked at me funny and said, "You mean 20 years ago today?" Yep - I had this dream on July 3, 1997. This wasn't a day I thought about every year, so I had no conscious realization that it was the anniversary. It was total coincidence!

 

[Blondie]

Thanks for sharing your dreams everyone!