Doreen's New Way of Life (comments are welcome)

[septbride2002]

Wow you were up late last night! I know your DD appreciated it though. I hope today is stress free for you so that you can get through it without feeling the sleep deprivation to much. Just remember to put yourself first at some point today!

~Amanda

 

[luvmydogs]

Hi Doe!

First thing I need to say is what a caring mom you are, staying up so late to lend some encouragement to your dd. These are the kinds of things my father always did for me, and I never really appreciated it until I had a child of my own. Now I know what it means when they say "parenting is the most selfless job in the world." I'm sure you're tired today, but it was such a sweet thing to do.

I know you feel as though you didn't have the kind of day you would've liked to have had yesterday, but I'm so glad you're making the best of the new day today! I hope dd has a great tennis match and that you have a bright and wonderful Wednesday!

 

[DoeWDW]

I did great until I got home yesterday. My tiredness finally caught up to me and I hit the ice cream a little hard. The good news is...that was dinner, and I didn't eat anything else last night except for a handful of Pringles. I did have other choices available, but I was just too tired and lazy and I took the easy way out.

DD & her doubles partner lost their match but she was happy she got to play and she's feeling that her game is improving. She was home by 6:30, played on the computer until 8 and then I made her do homework. We hung out on my bed and I helped look up Spanish words for the translation paragraph she was doing. Then we read part of her short story homework out loud. I have a feeling that I'll be holding her hand through her homework for the next few weeks. Otherwise she gets tired and lazy like her mom and just doesn't do it.

DS got a part in the school play - he's Prisoner #3 and a Sheriff's Deputy. He's bummed because these guys don't even have names in the script but happy that he got any part at all. I told him he can come up with his own names if it makes him feel better.

Today I'm back at work. I brought my food, including a substantial lunch of an Uncle Ben's Rice Bowl. It's not the best low-carb food or even unprocessed food but it will do. I've given the day to God and am feeling focused and centered and relatively calm.

Tonight, DD has tennis practice and DS has play rehearsal from 3 to 5. Then they have marching band rehearsal from 7 to 9. In between we'll eat the chicken that I remembered to put in the crock-pot this morning (yay for me!!) and do some homework. No wonder my September days are flying by!

EDIT: 1:20 PM
Took my meds & vitamin this morning with my breakfast of an apple with peanut butter. I've been drinking lots of water. I had my Uncle Ben's Pasta Bowl for lunch and I'm feeling pretty full but my mouth has the munchies. I may need to find some Trident gum to avoid the EVM!

 

[toystoryduo]

Good morning Doe

Congratulations to your DS on his roles in the play! When I was in high school, I played a "porter" and a "screaming and obnoxious child". No names for me either. It was a lot of fun though, especially being the "screaming and obnoxious child" because I came in through the back door of the auditorium yelling and scared the audience.

Congratulations to your DD too! Each game that she plays is more experience under her belt and tennis is a fun game.

It sounds like a very busy day for you today. I hope that you have a chance for some quiet, relaxing time for you. Take good care of you and have a wonderful day!

Tracy

 

[lulu201]

Whoa! Marching band rehearsal from 7 to 9 p.m.?!!! That's just too late in my book. When are kids supposed to do their work??
You've got some dedicated kids, Doreen, if they're willing to do that!

Sounds like you have a good start to the day. Kudos to you for putting chicken in the crock pot--you're way ahead of me!

An ice cream dinner, eh? Sounds like a good plan for tonight!
No wait, I didn't mean that. . .I meant I wanted to veggies and fruit. Yeah, that's what I want. Really.

Anyway, take care and have a good Thursday. If today's Thursday, you know what's coming tomorrow!

Erin

 

[luvmydogs]

Good Morning Doe!

My goodness you certainly have a full day (and week, and month, and life)! I for one, think you deserved the dinner of ice cream! Hey, it's got loads of calcium and vitamin D, right? That makes it work in my book! (I am the Queen of Justification)

A big congrats to dd & ds on their respective successes! I think it's great that even though your dd lost her match, she's happy because she's improving. That's exactly what I'm trying to get my ds9 to learn now as he plays Fall baseball with the 9-12 year-olds for the first time. I bet your ds is getting a kick out of being a prisoner in the school play! Last year mine played a weed. ("We're the weeds and we're taking over! No more daisies, no more clover!") Let us know what he decides to name himself!

I know you've got a busy night ahead, but I do hope you get some much needed rest and time for yourself. Dh and I were just saying last night how September is flying by.

Have a lovely Thursday, Doreen!

 

[Strings]

Hi Doreen,

Congrats to DS for getting a part in the play. Which play is it. I was Rizzo in Grease my senior year. The costume didn't fit quite right, and I popped out of the top of my dress opening night. The next two nights we were filled to capacity, and I suddenly became very popular. I hope nothing similar happens in your sons play, but it was funny/horrifying at the time. I wonder if that is why I got all A's? Just kidding.

I think ice cream is a legitimate souce of calcium. If there is fruit or nuts added you have vitamins and protein too. Good for you planning ahead for tonight's meal.
Have a great day,
Beth

 

[DoeWDW]

Oh My Gosh!!!!



Your story has me laughing so hard, Beth!! I just cannot imagine how mortified I would have been if that had happened to me!!

DS is in "The Man Who Came To Dinner" - I'm hoping he won't be wearing any costumes that might suffer a "wardrobe malfunction"!

 

[LAinSEA]

BTW - I know "that" is why I got a "B" in geometry instead of the "C" I deserved.

Doreen: does your daughter have a planner that she can write down all her assignments and due date? The middle school classes I observed on Monday actually print them and hand them out to all of their students. What a terrific idea - it even had helpful hints like the basics of essay writing, geometry facts and the periodic table included too.

She could also use the calendar system on her computer to pop up and remind her what she needs to do.

In high school, I had drill team practice every morning before school for an hour-hour 1/2 and each night (except for performances) for another hour & 1/2, and three hours on Saturdays. I also worked for a couple of hours after school a couple of days a week. I was always doing homework during 1st period band - flute and piccolo have a lot of waiting while the brass plays usually. I least I never had time to get into any trouble!

Weekend is almost here! You are doing great!
-Laurie

 

[wilderness01]

Just stopping by to say hello. You sound busy with the kids and their activities. Have a good, relaxing night.

 

[Auntmeme]

Hi doe-Doe

Sounds like a busy busy schedule! did I hear icecream party? what time I'll be there.

Keep focused and have a wonderful night! pray for sunshine

 

[lulu201]

So, how are you doing today? How come I haven't heard you singing "Thank God It's Friday" yet? Isn't that our theme song for today??!!! I have to tell you, I got a good little chuckle yesterday with the "Please Release Me" rendition, but now I want more!
Strike up the band!

Whatever today brings you, Doreen, remember that you're a beloved child of God. Rest in his love and assurance and stop and smell a or two. Oh, and drink your water.

Love,
Erin

 

[DoeWDW]

What to write in my journal?

My DS is home from school today - a mental health day. He is feeling way overwhelmed and is not a happy camper. I don't want to go into detail, since this is a public forum and he wouldn't want his private life struggles here for all to see. However, any prayers and pixie dust you could send his way would be so appreciated. My heart is aching for him - when our babies hurt, we moms seem to hurt as much or more I think.

I am majorly stressed out at the moment. With things going on at home and a boat-load of work at work and a yucky rainy day, I would love to just curl up with my puppy at home and nap, but that is not possible today. I'm at work and I have a lot that needs to be done, especially since I need to be off on Monday with DS.

While I type this, I am realizing that I'm letting the stress get the better of me. I've been eating EVM food this morning (crackers, peanut M&Ms and a Snickers over the past 3.5 hours). It's good that I've come here, because I can see that this is NOT helping me. I must focus on what has to get done at the office and stop medicating with junk food.

So, for the next half hour, I'm going to focus on getting things ready for the class I'm teaching next Wed. & Thurs. It's the same class I taught before so I know what needs to be done. I must focus on baby-stepping through it. I can do this!

I'll be back with an update later. I'm drinking lots of water and I've taken my meds. I have an Uncle Ben's rice bowl in the fridge for lunch. I do not need any food until then (she said to her tummy and her brain which are both screaming for more chocolate!).

By the way, I AM glad this is Friday - don't think I could take another workday this week. I'm at a loss for a song, though - the only thing coming to mind is "Rainy Days and Mondays Always Get Me Down" - not quite the uplifting song that I need at the moment!

Also by the way, thanks for the words of wisdom, Erin! I AM a beloved child of God. I've forgotten to talk to Him and hand all this anxiety over to Him. I'll be doing that right now!

EDIT: 1:20 PM
Thanks, Beth!

Lunch was my Uncle Ben's rice bowl and a pack of peanut M&Ms. I'm full now and don't think I'll need anything else for a while.

I have no focus and am not getting the work done, but I am trying. Baby steps..... I only have to be here roughly 2 hours.

 

[Strings]

Doreen,

I am sending prayers and for both you and your son. It is so true that Moms suffer along side their children. You are a great Mom, and I know you want to be home with DS right now, but you also have other conflicting responsibilites. You can get through the rest of the day with those baby steps you were talking about. I have faith in you. Just a few more hours and you can be home with your family and DPuppy. I hope you can have a relaxing weekend, and that the shines soon.

and prayers,
Beth

 

[wilderness01]

I am sending gentle to you and your son. You are right we moms hurt as much or more than they do. I hope whatever is bothering him gets resolved. He is lucky to have you as a mom.

 

[LAinSEA]

Doreen:

You are quite the mom to let your DS stay home and recharge. Many parents would not allow that kind of luxury or have that kind of respect for their young adults. Positive enery is on its way for both of you.

I know the feeling - only 2 weeks off meds and I'm craving chocolate too (I'm so hungry today, but I've stuck with what is in the bag...I'm down to only my salad for later). Stress and hormones are not a good combo.

I'm wishing you a chance to relax this weekend and prepare mentally for your class. I know you'll do great!

-Laurie

 

[Strings]

Hi Doreen,

I just wanted to let you know that I am thinking about you. I know you had a really rough week. I hope the weekend treats you gently.
Beth

 

[lulu201]

Just here to offer a . I'm thinking about you all.

Love,
Erin

 

[DoeWDW]

Things are looking up. DS went from very depressed to at least smiling last night after a key phone call. He's been applying at the local movie theater for a job for about 8 months now. They called last night and scheduled an interview for this evening. The ironic thing is that if he had gone to school yesterday, he would have been marching at the football game last night and would not have been home to take the call. We had a good conversation about how "all things work together for good", even those things that don't seem good at the time. I hope his interview goes well this evening - it won't solve all his problems but it would be a real boost for him to get this job.

I'm still in my jammies and it's after noon already! Relaxation is a good thing!

We're headed to the mall to get a baby shower gift for my SIL's shower tomorrow. Then DS has his interview. Later a friend of DS' is coming over so they can tackle a new video game together. Tomorrow is Sunday School and then the baby shower. The weekend has plenty of relax time in it.

I'll be off on Monday. DS has an appointment in the middle of the day that I need to take him to. Long weekends are always nice!!

I'm feeling better today and my food choices reflect that. I just ate a ham & cheese rollup on lc tortilla and took my meds. I don't have the craving for junk food anymore. I'm happy about that - I was really feeling out of control yesterday and I'm glad those feelings are gone. I think being able to sleep in today really helped!

Things are looking up! Thanks for the prayers and positive energy for DS - keep 'em comin'!

 

[wilderness01]

I'm glad things are looking brighter for the two of you. Have a nice weekend.