Don't want to move...........

[The Mystery Machine]

At 25 you can make it on your own. I moved out at 21 and DH was 19.
My BIL was 16....

Sounds like this is the time to make the break.

Move out first BEFORE going to SD. If things don't work out THEN go to SD. Not the other way around.

 

[dzneprincess]

I agree with the majority here. If you dont want to move, then dont. I dont mean to sound mean here, but maybe your parents decision to move is a hint that they feel it is time for you to "fly" on your own, so to speak? I know that even though I love my kids dearly, I would not want my 25 year old child living with me. Will things be easy? Probably not, but everyone goes thru tough times when they are "just starting out". IMHO 25 is old enough to have put one foot in front of the other and started learning how to "walk" on your own. I just cant imagine living with my parents at the age of 25. I had 3 kids by that age....please do yourself a favor and try to make it on your own. It feels so nice to know that you are making your own way in this world without having get help from Mom and Dad. Do you pay your parents rent now? Do you contribute at all to the household? If you do, then moving on your own and getting roomates should not be too much worse, financially.

 

[Kitty 34]

We have very good friends of the family that moved there many years ago and love it there. Good luck in your decision.

 

[JuliaEeyore]

$600 - $800 for a 1BR is horrible? Not where I live.

No kidding! Especially if you had a roommate! Or TWO! I'd have lived free and easy if I could have ever found a place to live that was that inexpensive.

We've all been there... a lot of us moved out of our parents' homes and went to college. And supported ourselves. It's totally possible. You can do it, if you want to. Part-time jobs on campus, even! At 25, there is no reason to follow your parents if you have a good life set up where you are and like where you live. You have your own life now. Enjoy it! And like everyone said - a lot can happen between now and then. Start planning!!!

 

[Dan Murphy]

Good wishes in whatever you do, Sarah. I think you will do well.

 

[HonestAbe]

It's not like anyone is twisting your arm to go. Maybe your parents are running away from you? Your 25 and I guess you parents figure you arent moving out so somebody better..."CYA Honey! There's lasagna in the freezer and Good Luck!"

I know that if I were a parent and my 25 yr old were still living at my casa I would be asking myself "When and How did I screw up with this kid?" I was on my own at 17 and am better for it.

 

[luvmy2sams]

I agree with the majority...seems like the perfect opportunity to strike out on your own. There are plenty of options...a second job...financial aid...roommates...that would make living independently possible for you. Good luck with your decision. At least you have a year to figure out and come up with a plan.

 

[golfgal]

Where in South Dakota are they moving? We lived in Sioux Falls for a while. It was a great town.

$800 in the twin cities will get you a DUMPY 1 bedroom apartment in a not so nice area. It is expensive to live there because the salaries don't match the housing costs. A college student MIGHT get a job making $10-12/hour, but you certainly can't pay rent on that amount.

There are other places that you could live for less money, but then you aren't close to your school.

 

[scoutsmom99]

ITA with golfgal and kejoda. I'm still living with my parents at 24 and I have friends who give me flack about it, but I don't feel the need to pay $600-$800 a month for a cruddy studio or 1 bedroom apartment. I'm saving my money for a down payment on a townhome or 1st home. If you want to live in a nice area rent can be expensive in the Twin Cities especially when you are a student. You couldn't pay me to live in some of the places by the U of MN Twin Cities campus.

 

[SleepyMom]

I've lived in SD my whole life and love it here, it is a great place to live.

But I do agree with most posters here that this may be a sign that it's time for you to strike out on your own. It sounds like you will have plenty of time to make arrangements and either find a place of your own or a roommate. Our niece lives in the Twin Cities area and just got her own apartment after living with roommates for several years, she is only a year older than you and loves her new independence.

 

[disneyfreakjackie]

$600 - $800 for a 1BR is horrible? Not where I live.

That's CHEAP in my area of NJ!!! I bet you couldn't get a 1BR for under $1000 around here!!!

 

[DisneyLovingMama]

You're 25 and thinking of moving with your parents when you're 26?

I moved out when I was 19, in a suburb of NYC. I paid $600 for a studio apartment in someone's basement in a crappy part of town. I walked a mile to the bus stop that took me to a train that took me to work 'cuz I had no money for a car. It sucked, but had to be done and I grew and learned a lot from it.

Are you even sure your parents WANT you to move with them?

Start looking and saving now. There's no reason on Earth (unless a physical or mental disability) that someone in his or her mid-20s wouldn't be able to strike it on their own with proper motivation and planning.

 

[Caradana]

I haven't taken a dime from my mother since about eight years ago ... I mean it, if I use the salt shaker in her house, I stick a dollar bill in her purse ... but, I see a ton of roommate situations in Minneapolis running under $600/month. There's no reason to move unless you're so emotionally dependent on your parents that you can't reasonably function without them. Check it out, Craigslist, this is how many many NYC kids find great roommate situations: http://minneapolis.craigslist.org/roo/

Meanwhile, I think it's time to revisit the college plans. I'm 100% pro-college, but I'm having trouble understanding a child care major that requires years of study? Most day care centers hire with no degree.