Don't want to move...........

[zen1]

to South Dakota. But it looks like I have no choice.
My parents are really wanting to move to South Dakota, my moms brother lives out there and she also has a friend that lives there. Both of my parents went down there this June to look at everything to see if it is somewhere they would like to live and it turns out that they really love it there. Don't get me wrong I think it's great for my parents to want this and I think they should move there if that is want they want. It's just I have worked so hard to get to where I am today and made some awesome friends, that are like sisters to me( that it would break my heart if I had to leave them and everything here, that I have worked so hard for). One of the main reasons why I can't stay here by myself is, that I don't have enough my to move out on my own yet( if I did I could stay here and should be able to live on my own, I am way old enough~25). I am going to college right now for Child care and once I get done with school it's really going to suck all of my money up to be able to do anything. But I know by me going to school is going to better myself and help me get a better paying job, where I can make more money(so I can make it on my own). I have talked to my parents about this and they think it would be a good idea for me to move with them to SD and I can always move back to MN if I wanted to latter on. I am just sooooooo very stressed out about all this and this move to SD would not even happen until June or July of 2006.

Thanks for letting me vent.

With all this stress I am really looking forward to my Best friends trip to Disney World, only 28 more days!

 

[SherryNC]

 

[mtblujeans]

Hey, I think you should stay where you are if you don't want to leave. Become the independent woman you know you can be! You have a year to make other arrangments....jump right in there and get started!

 

[mom2boys]

South Dakota is beautiful. I couldn't live there because of the winters but you are used to Minn. so that shouldn't be a problem for you. If you really don't want to go, save up & get an appt with a friend.

 

[sue1013]

I agree with mtblujeans. You are an adult you can make your own decisions. And you have a year to get yourself ready to do that.

 

[Minnie824]

You don't 'have' to move. You are definitely at an age where you can get an apartment, etc. And, knowing you have about a year until the move, you have plenty of time to look into arrangements for yourself, and save up some money. Get a part time job (if you don't have one) and work at saving. Also, you said you have a lot of friends there....see if anyone else is in the same boat, and wants to share an apartment. That would really cut costs down for you as well. Good luck in your decision, just make sure its your decision, and not your parents.

 

[live4christp1]

Hey Sarah,

Don't stress out to much, a lot of things can happen in almost a years time. {{hugs to you}}

Cristy

 

[Crankyshank]

You've got a year to get an additional job and save some money.

 

[Pugdog007]

I've been on my own since I was 18. I promise you... if you want it bad enough you can make it on your own.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

You've got a year to get an additional job and save some money.

Yep. Time to get ready to strike it out on your own!!!

 

[minniecarousel]

hmmm...you're 25? I'd say that's old enough to take out student loans & get your own apt. Sounds like the perfect opportunity to strike out on your own!

 

[palmtreegirl]

It's one thing to love your family but it's another to live your life for them. I did the latter for far too long and finally did what was best for me and I've never been happier.

 

[mrsdon]

Sometimes moving can be a great experience.
You have the chance to get a good job, and save some money..
Then you can move back to MN
Good Luck
And i truly believe that God has us where we are suppossed to be.

 

[TigerBear]

If you don't want to move I think you shouldn't move!

 

[kejoda]

What you all don't realize that housing here in MN is horrible. If Sarah was to live on her own she would need 2 or 3 roommates to be able to do it.

I don't remember if you said where your parents were moving too. My dh grew up there and going to SD is going home to me. Its a beautiful state with mostly wonderful people. But I do understand your love of MN. I didn't grow up here but I love living here and its a wonderful state to be in if your going into childcare/early ed.

And hey I'll be in disney the same time as you!!!

 

[Minnesota!]

Where in MN do you live now? Housing is fairly cheap in some areas. I know you can get 1 br or studio apts for under $600.

I agree you are at the age where you should strike out on your own and establish yourself.

Start saving $100/week. In a year you will have enough for down payment on rent, pay up utilites for a few months, stock your cupboards..

 

[zen1]

What you all don't realize that housing here in MN is horrible. If Sarah was to live on her own she would need 2 or 3 roommates to be able to do it.

I don't remember if you said where your parents were moving too. My dh grew up there and going to SD is going home to me. Its a beautiful state with mostly wonderful people. But I do understand your love of MN. I didn't grow up here but I love living here and its a wonderful state to be in if your going into childcare/early ed.

And hey I'll be in disney the same time as you!!!

kejoda, am so glad to see someone understands me and where I am comming from. I know am old enough( and I would love to live out on my own) and everything it's just the money issue and that housing here in MN is very horrible( like kejoda just said). I live in the twin city area right now, about 30 to 45 minutes away from the Mall of America. I have looked at different areas in MN and some are a little bit better than others, but not much. For a one bed room in a good area of town goes for about $600 to $800. My best friend lives in Buffalo(she is married and has kids) and the rent out there is a lot better, it's about $400 to $600. I am sure once I am done with college, I will be able to get a better paying job and be able to rent something up where my best friend lives. I guess I can only take one step at a time and try not to get to stressed out about all of this, it's just a lot to think about in not a lot of time. One year will be here before I know it!
kejoda, maybe I will see you in Disney World! Have an awesome trip!

 

[kejoda]

Buffalo is a great place to live, if you don't have to drive to the cities everyday for work.

We live in Crystal. A good friend of ours moved up to the north part of the cities. The drive was going ok until the gas prices went up. The money they were saving in housing is now being eaten up with the drive.

Hoep to see you in DW! I"m there from the 9th to the 14th. Staying at Pop.

 

[TigerBear]

So you will be switching schools?

 

[Crankyshank]

$600 - $800 for a 1BR is horrible? Not where I live.

You have a year. If you don't want to move then you have a whole year to get your ducks in a row. Find a roomie, get a place of your own - heck you could fall in love and elope in that time. You never know. A year is plenty of time to build a nest egg