Don't know what to do

[ahutton]

I've also had massive inlaw challenges, but I'll share a happy ending. SMIL really has been difficult on me. Said if we did the WDW wedding nobody in DHs family would attend because it was stupid. Asked DH (when we called to say we were engaged) "why would you do something like that?" and when we shared our excitement (many years later) about a grandchild coming asked why we haven't figured out how to prevent that. But our 10th anniversary was on 12/6. And they sent a nice card. And we've now had 2 really nice holidays with them. I'll joke a little that it is because I have a margarita or two before they come, but reality is she realizes that I'm here to stay.

DH and I in our Evenings for the Engaged talked about parent issues. We committed to each other they would NEVER get between our relationship. They have not so far, and I don't expect that to change. I'm looking forward to many more, very happy years. Surrounded by both of our families.

 

[kimis]

Good luck! You will be in my prayers.

 

[dannirose]

Good luck Steph! We're here for you!

 

[jojoandhb]

I, too have in-laws from hell. My fiance's own mother is not invited to our wedding because of it. The only advice I can give is do not fight with your fiance about his family. He cannot control their behavior. And two, ask your fiance to tell his family once and for all that he loves you and is going to marry you, and that he doesn't want to hear any more negative comments about it. That's it. That worked for us. We have almost no contact with those people because they are not supportive, and we have been dating 8 years! They get a card and a phone call on holidays. That's it.

 

[jojoandhb]

I've also had massive inlaw challenges, but I'll share a happy ending. SMIL really has been difficult on me. Said if we did the WDW wedding nobody in DHs family would attend because it was stupid. Asked DH (when we called to say we were engaged) "why would you do something like that?" and when we shared our excitement (many years later) about a grandchild coming asked why we haven't figured out how to prevent that. But our 10th anniversary was on 12/6. And they sent a nice card. And we've now had 2 really nice holidays with them. I'll joke a little that it is because I have a margarita or two before they come, but reality is she realizes that I'm here to stay.

Reminds me of my future MIL. When I got my engagement ring, we went to her house to show her. I asked her, "Do you want to see the ring?" and held up my hand. She said, "No!" and covered her eyes! Then she went for a walk around the block until we left.