Don't call me Sam unless I know you...ARGGG

[helenabear]

It depends on how close I am to someone. I never call them by something else unless I am close and even then I judge and see how they react to it.

For me, I get nicknames off of my name all the time. The most used and the one I really actually think of myself as more than even Elaine is Lainey. That one started in HS by a couple of great guys... they "mutated" it to Lainers, and I think they were the few to call me that.

I have some nicknames I hate; just plain "E" and "Laine" really grate on me. Anything else (El, Ellie, EJ or my last name) doesn't bother me.

So I think it is a bit rude to do it w/o someone either okaying it or you saying "my name is X, feel free to call me Y"

 

[Feralpeg]

Most people call me Peg. I'd really prefer Peggy, but it isn't a big deal. They could certainly call me something much worse. Why sweat the small stuff? There are so many bigger things in life to worry about. Let it go!

 

[wowsmom]

DH used to work with a guy named Mike. Not Michael, just Mike. Yet people were always calling him Michael.

 

[ChrisnSteph]

I hate when I first meet people and I am introduced to them as Samantha and they immediately start calling me Sam...Did I say they could do that???

It's rude is it not?

Everyone here on the DIS can call me Sam as I did introduce myself as Sam with my user name and you all feel like family.

If I meet a Michael, I don't call him Mike unless he tells me to.

I had an employee this Summer named Christine. I call her Christine...She recently told me that she usually is called Chris...I can't do it yet, but I will if she wants me to.

So my question is...IS THIS RUDE?

Heck, DH calls me Samantha most of the time. I love it.

I think it's silly and nothing to worked up over. And isn't just as rude if someone prefers to be called Chris, yet you keep calling them Christine? Even after you said that you would call the person whatever they prefer?

A lot of people call me Steph instead of Stephanie, and honestly I don't care either way. Actually, when I hear Steph I think it sounds more personable and friendly!

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Well at least they are in the ballpark of your name. My name is Jennie. Plain and simple rhymes with Penny. It seems that every single person I meet decides that my name is Jeanie as in Genie in a bottle. I correct them a million times but they just don't get it. I had a pre-school teacher call me that the entire year no matter what I did to correct the situation short of calling her out on it like a big nasty Mom.
Now my one son is Nicholas but we call him Niko. Not Nick or Nicky. If I introduce him as Niko or Nicholas then that is what you should be calling him. It annoys me to no end. I feel like telling these people "Okay Fartknocker" and no matter how they correct me I will re-name them Fartknocker.

 

[Chattyaholic]

My name is Yvonne, and most of my family (except my parents) and friends and co-workers call me Von. I never introduce myself as Von, but I don't mind people shortening my name.

What I do mind is when a stranger calls me "hon", "honey", "sweetie" or "dear." It seems to happen quite often in restaurants, where the wait staff will do that and I really don't like it.

Plus I am a waitress myself and I don't use terms of endearment to speak to my customers. I don't know them well enough to do so.

 

[Rozzie]

Everyone in my family has a nickname. Rozzie is mine (for Robyn). I have been called Rob, Robi, Ra, and everything in between. It never bothers me. I guess it's because everyone in my family does the same thing, and it's a term of endearment between all of us.

That being said, I don't shorten other people's names, or I try very hard not too. I can see how some people could be upset by making the assumption.

 

[MOMTOMOOTOO]

If that is the most upsetting thing in your life right now, consider yourself blessed.


Call me anything, but I will only answer to a few.

 

[SC Minnie]

My name is Mona and most of the time I am asked if it is short for Ramona or Monica. Uhhh, no, Its just Mona- as sad as that is. I had one teacher in Jr High that refused to believe that my name wasn't Monica.


DD's name is Catherine and she does not shorten it. She will correct people if they call her Katie or Kate. He friends at school call her Cat though.

My brother was Timmy growing up and started going by Tim when he was around 20. His wife never knew him as Timmy and finds it so funny when our family calls him Timmy. He has always been Timmy to me.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

My name is Mona and most of the time I am asked if it is short for Ramona or Monica. Uhhh, no, Its just Mona- as sad as that is. I had one teacher in Jr High that refused to believe that my name wasn't Monica.


DD's name is Catherine and she does not shorten it. She will correct people if they call her Katie or Kate. He friends at school call her Cat though.

My brother was Timmy growing up and started going by Tim when he was around 20. His wife never knew him as Timmy and finds it so funny when our family calls him Timmy. He has always been Timmy to me.

I had the same thing happen in Jr. High. The teacher insisted that my birth name on my certificate was Jennifer. Uh no. I was named after my Grandmother who's Italian name was Giavanna and we called Jennie. But thanks for telling me at 11 years old that I don't know my own name. I remember that she kept insisting. It was so annoying. She was an English teacher too!

 

[CathrynRose]

I wish I could go back and just put Abby on her birth certificate!

I get that! My son's name is Daniel - but has never ever gone by Daniel, and when my ex-MIL kept calling him Daniel, I wanted SO BAD to go back and just put Dan on his BC. I dont even LIKE the name Daniel - I liked Dan/Danny.

I feel like telling these people "Okay Fartknocker" and no matter how they correct me I will re-name them Fartknocker.

I cant stop laughing. Fartknocker!

"No problem, ButtNugget" lololol

If that is the most upsetting thing in your life right now, consider yourself blessed.

I dont think it's a huge deal - but I do find it ODD that Ive never told anyone my name is Cat, and that is now my name. Doesnt bother me...just odd.

 

[Chattyaholic]

If that is the most upsetting thing in your life right now, consider yourself blessed.

Why do people feel the need to post this?

I think it is so rude to the OP when someone says this. What bothers one person may not bother another, so if you think it's nothing to be upset about just move on to another thread. I just don't get it.

 

[ScorpioJeni]

I have the exact opposite problem. My name is Jennifer but I don't go by that (no one not even my parents call me Jennifer), when I introduce myself to people its always Jen or Jeni. However lots of people end up calling me Jennifer. I usually pretend not to hear them until they call me by my preffered name.

 

[lulugirl]

If that is the most upsetting thing in your life right now, consider yourself blessed.

I don't think anyone suggested it was the most upsetting thing in their life

 

[CathrynRose]

Why do people feel the need to post this?

I think it is so rude to the OP when someone says this. What bothers one person may not bother another, so if you think it's nothing to be upset about just move on to another thread. I just don't get it.

Yeah - I dunno either.

But not singling out the poster - Ive seen way too much of that around here lately. I dont get it.

Someone needs a and some !!!

Or maybe a little - who knows!?

 

[Arielle22]

I have a niece who's name is Elizabeth. My brother is her step-father and she was 6 when she came into our family. To try and make her and her sister feel like family, my other brother decided to give them nicknames. He changed Elizabeth into Lizard Breath. She thought it was funny until about 2 yrs ago (when she was 17) and asked us not to use that name.

 

[Gaspode]

I usually pretend not to hear them until they call me by my preffered name.

I used to do that too lol.

Another thing I dislike is when people get my name wrong and call me Melanie (normally this stems from someone introducing me as Mel and then the other person assuming incorrectly). At my first workplace one girl thought it hilarious to call me Melanie all the time as she knew it bugged me She did it so much that the boss once sent out an email to over 100 people saying they could reach me at melanie@companyname.com because he just got used to it! Of course there was no melanie@companyname.com so a hasty retraction and correction email had to be sent out

Cya,
Gaspodé

 

[apirateslifeforme]

My brother was Timmy growing up and started going by Tim when he was around 20. His wife never knew him as Timmy and finds it so funny when our family calls him Timmy. He has always been Timmy to me.

I have an uncle Dwight, who has always been called Whitey. He is currently in his 18th year as mayor of his town, and no one had ever heard him referred to as Whitey until we visited. Then they all looked at us like we had two heads. My mother said, "He's not Dwight to us, he's Whitey."

His ex-wife really got bent out of shape about it, though. She once glared at my grandmother and said, "His name is Dwight." Uh, yeah, my grandmother knows; he's her son...

 

[JVL1018]

I would never shorten anyone's name, if I had just been introduced to them, but friends and family, almost all shortened.
I thik it may be a NJ thing.
Some of my friends are:
Alisa:Lee
Annmarie:Am
Evangeline:Vange
Mary Louise and MaryAnn: Mare
Lori: Lor
Lynda:Lyn
Kerry:Ker
Sheila:Sheil

Heck I call my daughter J 1/2 the time instead of saying Julia.

Most of the time people people call me Vick. I don't mind at all, doesn't even register, call me Victoria, Vicki, Vick, it's all good-I even have one friend who calls me Em for my middle name Emma, also fine with me.

None of the above friends mind, every one of our close friends calls them that, I consider it more like a sign of closeness.
I have two friends, Christine and Beverly, and they both prefer to be called by their full names and I always do. To call someone a nickname after they've asked you not to, is rude.

 

[wendy46001]

I get that! My son's name is Daniel - but has never ever gone by Daniel, and when my ex-MIL kept calling him Daniel, I wanted SO BAD to go back and just put Dan on his BC. I dont even LIKE the name Daniel - I liked Dan/Danny.

DH is Danny everyone at work calls him Daniel,
he's always saying ...actually they named me danny...

so i guess you cant win