Don't call me Sam unless I know you...ARGGG

[NEE's SS]

I tend to always be formal. That would annoy me.

 

[Magalex]

My name is Mary Alice...not Mary and it is not my middle name, I don't have one. I went on an interview at a temp agency and when the receptionist told the interviewer that I was in the waiting room she replied I don't have a
"Mary Alice" scheduled but a "Mary" for an interview. Duh! Thankfully the receptionist told her "I think she goes by Mary Alice". Of course my DS is doomed also. We named him "Alexander" and he is an "Alexander" not "Alex". He is 7. My rule is for school age children if I hear the mother call them repeatedly by a given full name I stick with it. When someone calls him "Alex" it is a different person not our DS. But in most instances it is the adults that shorten his name not other children. Luckily his 1st grade teacher realized to call him by his given name.

 

[MOMTOMOOTOO]

Someone needs a and some !!!

Or maybe a little - who knows!?

Have you been talking to my DH?

 

[MOMTOMOOTOO]

Why do people feel the need to post this?

I think it is so rude to the OP when someone says this. What bothers one person may not bother another, so if you think it's nothing to be upset about just move on to another thread. I just don't get it.

 

[mrsmom]

My youngest dd is named Bethany and alot of people call her Beth, She doesn't like it and neither do i .But she corrects them all the time.
Kim

 

[addicted_to_WDW]

I have the exact opposite problem. My name is Jennifer but I don't go by that (no one not even my parents call me Jennifer), when I introduce myself to people its always Jen or Jeni. However lots of people end up calling me Jennifer.

Same here! I never go by Jennifer. I don't ignore people when they call me that, but I also don't necessarily recognize that they are directing their comments at me because I don't think of myself as anyone other than Jen.

 

[Kama89]

It's funny. While shortening my name or the use of a nickname doesn't bother me, what will eventually begin to annoy me once I know the person knows me well enough to know better... is repeated "creative" spelling and mispronunciation of my name. Why people, after being told repeatedly the correct pronunciation continue to butcher a name, is just beyond me. My maiden name. Agh! You'd think it was rocket science trying to understand it. How hard is it really to say I instead of A and drop that S you keep sticking on the end? As far as my first name... eh... it has so many nick name possiblities I guess I've leaned to roll with that one a bit.

 

[Sthronds]

With the name Susan, I get Sue and Susie all the time from people I know and that's fine. I don't like being called Sue but I can handle it. I always introduce myself as Susan though but this one guy at church always says "Hi Sus". Now I think that is a little to familiar of a nickname for someone I've never had a real conversation with.

 

[5Slays]

My youngest son's name is William. We call him William, but everyone seems to want to shorten it to Will, Willie, etc... I don't mind family calling him by nicknames, but everyone else should call him William!

My oldest DS's name is John Avery and that is what we call him. I hate when people drop one of his names. I don't even let family get away with that one.

 

[Freyja]

Not rude in my opinion but very presumptious.

 

[bumbershoot]

I don't know if it's rude, but I think it's weird. One should call a person what the person has just called him/herself.

It would be just as weird if I said "Hi my name is Molly", and someone knew that Molly was sometimes a nickname for Mary, and decided to call me Mary.

People call my husband Rob all the time, but he never introduces himself as that, he is Robert in his adult life. Which I'm glad for, as my brother is Rob and my stepdad is Bob...I do not need the confusion of Robert being Rob!

I hate when I first meet people and I am introduced to them as Samantha and they immediately start calling me Sam...Did I say they could do that???

It's rude is it not?

Everyone here on the DIS can call me Sam as I did introduce myself as Sam with my user name and you all feel like family.

If I meet a Michael, I don't call him Mike unless he tells me to.

I had an employee this Summer named Christine. I call her Christine...She recently told me that she usually is called Chris...I can't do it yet, but I will if she wants me to.

So my question is...IS THIS RUDE?

Heck, DH calls me Samantha most of the time. I love it.

 

[willis37862]

OP I know what you mean and I hate it too. I am Nichole not Nikki No offense to anyone with that name but it doesn't suit me and I would prefer you use my correct name unless you are family and the nickname they use is for them to use only.

 

[mickeyboat]

I am Denae, DH is Keith. People don't shorten it much, except little kids - and I love it when they do that!

BTW - I wanted to name my girls Danielle and Samantha, and all them Dani and Sam. DH vetoed it. They are Hannah and Emily, and we have lots of nicknames and shortented names.

Denae

 

[PhotobearSam]

I think it's silly and nothing to worked up over. And isn't just as rude if someone prefers to be called Chris, yet you keep calling them Christine? Even after you said that you would call the person whatever they prefer?

I am not saying I am refusing to call my employee Chris...It's just I got used to calling her Christine and I am having a hard time changing this habit. I try, sometimes I still call her Christine, but I am really trying but she told me she does not care either way...Sorry I mistyped.

 

[bumbershoot]

Dh's name is Patrick... we call him Patrick.. I HATE the name Pat.. yet when werid people call on the phone usually stupid call they ask for Pat.. I have started to say.. i'm sorry no Pat lives here but there is a Patrick or I'm sorry his name is Patrick not Pat.. I can't help it annoys me and its not even MY name! DD1's "real" name is Abigail but we NEVER call her that.. we introduce her as Abby.. because that's what she goes by... please dont call her Abigail she doesn't even know that's her name. I wish I could go back and just put Abby on her birth certificate!

My mom was Judith who went by Judy. Her mom wanted to name her Judy, but that just *wasn't done* back then, so Judith was on the birth certificate but she was always Judy.

So when i showed up, she named me my name. Officially a name that's a nickname (well, at least in Ireland...not really sure if the biblical Mary was ever called Molly, LOL...), but it's not a nickname for me!

She tried to do that with my brother, and for YEARS he was Robin (not anything else), but then he switched high school, states, and friends, and by the time he was in college he legally changed his name to Rob...so my mom's naming didn't 'stick' for him.

A friend of mine was originally named Mandy (yes, after the Manilow song). The grandparents on both sides flipped out, and as a child, they legally changed her name (she had the choice between Amanda and Miranda). She chose Amanda, but has never been called that, not even by her grandparents who caused this namechange to happen. Now she knows telephone solicitors, b/c they call her Amanda and NO ONE else does.


Lastly, the ONLY nicknames I will respond to are "Mol" by my brothers, and "Miss Molly" by, well, anyone. Miss Molly seems to be so impossible to deny that everyone has called me that at least once. I was on the phone to disneyshopping the other day, obviously on satellite link to a call center in India, and at the end of the call, she called me Miss Molly. It's impossible for people to resist, even by those you wouldn't think had heard the old song!

 

[mylightshines]

I can't stand my family's names to be shortened. I think your name on your birth certificate should be what your called. For instance, if I wanted to name my child Becky I would put Becky on the birth certificate not Rebecca. My husband is Michael -- not Mike. My sons are David and Stephen. Not Dave and Steve. My name is Tracy. And my DD, well, she's Elizabeth. Not Liz. Not Beth. Elizabeth. When she was born in December, my SIL (who we have never had the best relationship) brought her a stocking that she had specially made with the name BETH on it. I said thank you and boxed it up as soon as I got home. She explained how she wanted to give her something special to last for years. Well, then why did you have someone else's name put on the stocking? As soon as we found out she was a girl, it was Elizabeth, not the baby or him or it. ELIZABETH. When she was born instead of announcing it was a girl, he announced it's an ELIZABETH.

Now the worst part. Everyone is calling her Eli. Apparently she was late to class two years ago and signed her name Eli instead of Elizabeth. She's also a big sports fan/player and she likes Eli Manning. So know she's known as Eli and it drives me crazy. This summer during softball we had another Elizabeth on our team and they are both catchers. So it was okay that they called her Eliz. That way I knew which one they were referring to. But I was not happy when my husband when call her Eli at home. I had to explain to him AGAIN it was okay on the field, but DO NOT call her ELI at home!!

So now she has a new volleyball coach (who will also be her basketball and softball coach) and she calls her Eli.

Oh, and when my oldest DS was born it was my first marriage. His mother's name was Johnnie and his grandfather's name was John. My dad's name was David and he never had any boys. So we decided to name him John David. I am not originally from the south and was clueless about this two name thing. We always called him David. Well, his family and my aunts/uncles/cousins (they all live within few blocks of each other) all called him John David. It drove me nuts. Well, we got divorced and I remarried. My DH adopted him when he was four. So we changed his name to David Andrew. Well, he's 24 and my distant family and his biological dad's family still call him John David!!!

 

[chris1gill]

Our son is Andrew & he will quickly correct anyone who tries to call him Andy, he doesn't go by it, has never gone by it, and does not like it when someone calls him it.... So? I don't think people should call you Sam unless you tell them to... JMHO!

 

[maelstrom]

My name is Kristen. Pretty simple, I think. But most people can't seem to handle that and feel the need to call me Kristine, Kristina, Kristian, etc. No, it's Kristen. I don't mind if people call me Kris; my dad and some other family members have been doing it my whole life. My mom calls me Cookie. My friends have given me various nicknames over the years, including Krissa, Kiki, Kit, and Krissie. I don't mind if you call me by a nickname, as long as you know my name is actually Kristen.

My mom's name is Robin. She has always been Robin. Except one time at a job where all of the other nurses had K or C names, at which point they nicknamed her Krobin. But otherwise, she is Robin (with an I, not a Y).

My dad's name is David. Most folks call him Dave. My mom sometimes calls him Davey affectionately. His sister called him Pickle when they were kids, because she didn't know his real name.

My ex fiance's name is Andrew, but he goes by Andy. If you call him Andrew, he will tell you his name is Andy. He isn't a Drew, either. Just plain old Andy.


I do tend to shorten the names of friends and family members, but no one has seemed to mind and other people generally call them a shortened name as well:

+ Caitlin = Caitie (my little cousin; I am responsible for this nickname and spelling)
+ Cassidy = Cass or Cassie (another little cousin; responsible for the name Cassidy)
...yes, I'm very involved with my cousins...
+ Emily = Em
+ Mitchell = Mitch
+ Nicholas = Niko or Nikol (another little cousin; his mother chose these)
+ George = Duffer (another little cousin; long story on that one)
+ Trine = Treeni, Treen, Tree (my best friend; her name is pronounced Tree-Nuh and she prefers that most people realize that; only friends get to call her by nicknames)
+ Samantha = Sam or Samma

One of my older cousins names is Cassandra. She likes to be called Cassandra; not Sandy, Cassie, Candy, etc. Family members sometimes call her Sanj or Sanjra, but that's it. I don't know why it has that spelling, but it does. She's having a baby next month and his name is Sebastian, nickname Seb. Her MIL wanted to call him Sebby. Needless to say, this child will NOT be called Sebby. Sanjra doesn't get along with her MIL, haha.

I have a friend whose name is Chris. She is female. Her name isn't short for anything. The name on her birth certificate is Chris. Her parents couldn't decide between Christianie and Christiana, so they just put down Chris on her birth certificate and figured she'd choose a spelling when she got older. She's still Chris.

 

[JVL1018]

PS This is exactly the reason why I named my children names that I liked ALL the variations of.
You never know what your kids will want to be called when they get older.

My DD is Julia, she is called Julia or Jules by her friends, the same plus Jule and J by me.
I love them all.

My son is Matthew, because I love Matthew, Matt and Matty.

People laughed at me because I was so adamant a bout liking the name plus the nicknames, but now I will never be one of the moms compaining that their kids are called by a shortened version of their name.

The only thing I hate is when people call DD Julie, because that is a separate name on its own. It's only happened twice and both times it was my FIL. He says Julie an my husband and I both immeditaly said UH! It's Julie-UH!

 

[LisaNJ25]

My DH is a RICHARD not a Rich, Rick or Dick...RICHARD!!!

I hate it when people try to give you a nickname that really does not fit.

I hear you.. I hate when people call my younger 2 Izzy or Willy. Its Isabella and William or Belle and Will. No Izzy, Willy,Bill or Billy lol

My dad knows I hate it so much he fills out their cards to Izzy and Willy.

and why bother shortening Lisa to Lee?