Kim&Chris
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Have any of you ever done this?
We went to an attorney last week to begin the process. Very scary....alot can happen. Different states have different points of finalization (when the birthmother signs away her parental rights), and she can change her mind at any moment prior to that.
Also, in NJ, the birthmother has the right to 'request' things from the adoptive parents, and you are urged to grant her wishes. Most birthmothers will ask for things like maternity clothes, etc., but our attorney was telling us about one girl who contacted several agencies offering to give her baby up for adoption, then was able to hook up with 6 different adoptive parent couples, and milked over $60,000.00 total from them before disappearing.
She was also explaining that very few birthmothers actually know the identity of the father, let alone his health background. She said that many of the babies come from girls that were raped, or used their bodies to earn money and accidentally became pregnant.
Also, the cost is going tis staggering, which makes me really angry.....who's getting this money?? Certainly not the baby!
Just blowing off a little steam (sorry). I haven't been able to sleep for about a week or so, and I'm really, really nervous!
We went to an attorney last week to begin the process. Very scary....alot can happen. Different states have different points of finalization (when the birthmother signs away her parental rights), and she can change her mind at any moment prior to that.
Also, in NJ, the birthmother has the right to 'request' things from the adoptive parents, and you are urged to grant her wishes. Most birthmothers will ask for things like maternity clothes, etc., but our attorney was telling us about one girl who contacted several agencies offering to give her baby up for adoption, then was able to hook up with 6 different adoptive parent couples, and milked over $60,000.00 total from them before disappearing.
She was also explaining that very few birthmothers actually know the identity of the father, let alone his health background. She said that many of the babies come from girls that were raped, or used their bodies to earn money and accidentally became pregnant.
Also, the cost is going tis staggering, which makes me really angry.....who's getting this money?? Certainly not the baby!
Just blowing off a little steam (sorry). I haven't been able to sleep for about a week or so, and I'm really, really nervous!