Does it bug you when strangers touch your baby?

[Mellie2162]

Nope never bothered me at all when mine were babies, but thats just me. I can understand how some would be bothered by it, however, I dont get wanting to pummel someone for it, but hey to each his own.

On the other end of the spectrum has anyone ever pushed their baby on you? There is this one mom at my kids school and every single time we are outside talking she will get the baby out of the carseat and say here you want to hold her and practically shove her in my arms. I mean her baby is cute and cuddly and all but that doesnt mean I want to hold her. I like babies just the kind you look at and say aww how sweet, not the kind you have to actually touch and do something with.

 

[paintnolish]

Both my girls had springy, curly hair as toddlers, too. Older ladies would actually ask me if I curled their hair. I can't imagine anything more ridiculous putting curlers in a two-year-old's hair.

More ridiculous than curlers? Try strangers asking if a toddler has a perm! People used to ask my parents that about me! I had the springy ringlets, too! All modesty aside, though, I have really long, thick curly hair, now people just tell me it is beautiful! Hope your girls grow up to love it! Blessing and a curse, I tell you!

 

[belle&sebastiansmom]

I hate, hate, hate, hate strangers touching my child. No one has permission to and it bothers me that people take offense when I ask them not to touch his face or his hands.

A worker in a local store began touching my son's face. Trying to be polite, I said to her, "I know he's cute, but please, I'd appreciate it if he wasn't touched." She then got snippy and said I was rude, that he was a baby and deservedto be touched and pinched. I then told her she must not be a mother because most moms I knew didn't want their infant touched and pinched by strangers. She gave me a dirty look and walked off.

The worst encounter was with a friend of mine. Her 3 year old son was leaning over my then 3 month olds stroller. Not only was he tipping the stroller, but he was coughing in my son's face and touching his hands and face. My friend was watching all this, not doing anything, as I repeated told her child, "Alright, that's enough, baby needs to sleep, go by your mommy," etc. Finally, I told my friend I didn't want her son hacking, touching and tipping my baby. Her response, "So you think my son is dirty?" I couldn't believe this was coming from another mother. But I guess the reality is yes, your son (and pretty much all kids and people) are dirty, so don't touch.

Btw, some posters have been asked about perming their babies hair. I've been asked quite I few times if I've highlighted my son's. Nuts.

 

[damo]

No, it never bothered me. I always took it as a compliment.

 

[gasperdam]

Yes, it bothered me when all of mine were babies ( and my ds that is still a baby).

One time, when my youngest ds was 3 weeks old I took him out to a restaurant. I absolutely HAD to (even though I was leary) because it was my dmil's 60th birthday celebration and the whole family was going. Anyway,
an older man came up and kissed him on the forehead and patted him for a minute on his bum! I was taken aback that someone was so forward with such a little baby!

 

[Camicar]

My dd was an absolutely gorgeous girly girl of a baby and people were always commenting on and touching her. It got really irritating, especially because little boys were always trying to kiss her. My dh didn't believe me until one day he took her to McDonald's and a little boy tried to kiss her. Dh was very unhappy.

 

[Tiggerlover91]

YES!!!! And I'm going to start getting a little rude if I have to. I touch no one's baby unless he or she is presented to me. I was like this even before Mo got here.

 

[stsomewhere]

It bothered me when my kids were little. IT wasn't a germ thing, it just creeped me out.

Also hated it when people wanted to touch my belly when I was pregnant.

I hated when strangers wan ed to touch my belly, too.

 

[chobie]

No, it never bothered me. I always took it as a compliment.

Me too.

 

[tazdev3225]

I have 3 grown children and 5 almost 6 grandchildren. It never bothered me if someone touched my child/children. I would of course be careful with small children so that they don't hurt the baby. I take it as a compliment that people like seeing them.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

A little old lady wants to touch your child and you want to pummel her. Grow up. My daughter who always goes outside in the cold no coat wet hair around germs God forbid other children has never been sick in her life except once while our friend who is germ phobic her children are always sick

Thanks but I am grown. I don't want people touching ME as an adult so what gives them the right to touch a CHILD? I don't know you. I do not want you touching me or my kids. I don't go to the market and start rubbing your head because it looks soft. Why? because it is innappropriate! I don't know you! The same goes for children.

 

[wardfamily1]

Thanks but I am grown. I don't want people touching ME as an adult so what gives them the right to touch a CHILD? I don't know you. I do not want you touching me or my kids. I don't go to the market and start rubbing your head because it looks soft. Why? because it is innappropriate! I don't know you! The same goes for children.

ITA, and FTR, if that comment from LisaB was aimed at me, and I'm assuming so because I'm the one who used the word pummel, I never said she was "a little old lady" I said a lady - and kind of creepy too. I don't know her from anybody, for all I know she could have been registered on the http://www.mipsor.state.mi.us/ website.

 

[Robinrs]

No, doesn't bother me at all. My son had adorable cheeks and dimples as a baby and he got touched all of the time...

He's had two colds in his life and hardly any ailments at 15.

I've raised 5 of my nieces and nephews and they all have kids now. I never thought of it as an affront till I read this... what the...

 

[Mackey Mouse]

It bothers me when strangers touch my grandson... he is teething and has his hands in his mouth a lot.. why do they always go for his little hand.. We keep our wipes handy and after they leave, rather than humiliate anyone, we wipe him off..

Sorry, just the way it is, with all these germs floating around.

 

[ilisao]

Thanks but I am grown. I don't want people touching ME as an adult so what gives them the right to touch a CHILD? I don't know you. I do not want you touching me or my kids. I don't go to the market and start rubbing your head because it looks soft. Why? because it is innappropriate! I don't know you! The same goes for children.

I agree with you and it has nothing to do with germs. It has everything to do with touching another person. Sorry, but my body is my body and just because you can see it doesn't give you the right to touch it, especially if I don't know you. Same with my child. It's inappropriate. I believe in respecting personal space.

I have a birthmark under my left eye. One day I was waiting for an elevator when a woman reached over and touched it, saying "you have some makeup there." I really wanted to smack her. First, how stupid do you have to be to confuse my birthmark with makeup? And second, I am not an animal in a petting zoo.

 

[crazy4dabean]

What's even worse is when people come up to me since I'm pregnant and touch my belly. I just want to tell them "Back off! You're invading my personal space!"

 

[mushumadness]

I hated when strangers wan ed to touch my belly, too.

I am having this happen to me all the time, and I wanted to take the last persons head off, I didnt even know her. Yes I am pregnant, but so are another million people it happens!

I am not a kissy huggy person on a normal day, but people seem to think me being pregnant makes me everyones property

sorry vent over

 

[Va-bear]

I don't see what the big deal is I don't mind at all if someone touches my baby just to say hello. To each his own I guess!

Ditto (though, I do agree in cases where there are actual immunity issues, etc.....) I actually, liked when people touched my babies in the normal sweet ways they do - it was touching (pun not inteneded) and kind of old fashioned in a nice way. We all are so distant these days and watching people and their excitement w/ babies is a really neat treat. (And it is actually good for babies immune systems to not be kept away from all people, dirt, etc., etc.)

 

[crazy4dabean]

I am having this happen to me all the time, and I wanted to take the last persons head off, I didnt even know her. Yes I am pregnant, but so are another million people it happens!

I am not a kissy huggy person on a normal day, but people seem to think me being pregnant makes me everyones property

sorry vent over

I'm with you! I'm not fair game just because I'm pregnant. There are a million other ladies out there for them to grope. Maybe it's just the hormones

My vent over too

 

[leighe]

Nope. I don't think it's a big deal at all.