Does anyone else's husband always say no...UPDATE p. 2

[Dan Murphy]

Originally posted by Mimi Q
Dan, I always look forward to the pictures from each of your trips. I knew I had only seen your wife in your trip pictures once and wondered why she didn't accompany you. Looks like you always have a good time. When the girls get older, I am going to plan a solo trip myself.

Thanks, Mimi. I enjoyed taking them.

We always do all our other trips together, Marie just did not get quite at 'bitten' by the 'Disney bug' as I did. She likes it, enjoyed it, had a greattime, says she will go again, just not up for 2 or so times a year, LOL. I always manage to see lots of DIS folks when there, others 'nutty' like we are, LOL. Makes for super fun trips.

And all three WDW trips with her in mind, (Marie is in mind on all my trips, I always ask if she wants to go with) the first of which I postponed, the second we went on and the third she decided not to go on, all were surprises to her.

 

[palmtreegirl]

If my DW came to me and told me she made a reservation months ago for a trip somewhere and hadn't told me until now, I wouldn't be too pleased. But that's me.

So, I guess my answer to your question is NO because my DH would have been in on this decision from the get go.

hehe.....I planned a whole trip to WDW that was a surprise for my whole family, DH included. He LOVED it, thought we were going to a relatives house for the week instead. But then again we're VERY laid back when it comes to most things in our marriage, it works for us and that's what's important.

 

[SuiteDisney]

Happy Anniversary!

Neither one of us would make reservations without discussing it first. But we're DVC members so I expect to go every year.

 

[Mimi Q]

Off topic, but DH just had 15 gorgeous roses delivered to me for our anniversary. He may not be as crazy as I am about WDW, but he is a great guy!

 

[WeirdEyes]

That's nice, Mimi Q. Happy Anniversary!

 

[Mishetta]

No problems in our household over the Disney vacations! Not only does HE make all the decisions about us going to WDW, but he also insists on making all the plans since it makes him start enjoying the trip from the planning stages! Also, he never bats an eye to what I might spend at the Disney Store! Isn't he just the cat's meow????

 

[FOJMO]

Mimi,
The roses sound wonderful and so does your DH. I wanted to wish you a happy anniversary! VAL

 

[Planogirl]

My husband always says "no" to WDW vacations and then he ends up coming along about 1/2 the time. He doesn't really care much for vacations and actually likes working more than taking time off. So I simply tell him that we're going and ask him if he wishes to come along. He prefers this system and while I wish that he enjoyed travel as much as I do, I can't force it.

People simply have to do whatever works best for them.

And Happy Anniversary Mimi!

 

[Mimi Q]

Just back tonight from 9 days in Orlando. Husband said he had a really great time. It was so wonderful to just be able to spend that much time together as a family. Our 2 year old DD was fasinated by Mickey Mouse. I think he was surprised how much she enjoyed WDW and said he wouldn't have missed it for the world. Go figure.

 

[TarraLee]

MimiQ, my DH is alot like yours, from the sounds of it, so I am glad to hear there's hope yet! Also, happy anniversary and glad everything worked out for your trip.

I'm keeping my fingers crossed that DH will fall in love with WDW when he sees it for the first time through his child's eyes (we don't have children now, and probably won't for 5 more years). Right now, he says, lets go other places before we have kids, and then to Disney more often when we do have kids.

His dream vaca is to Grand Canyon or to Colorado to look at red rocks. I can think of nothing more boring except a history museum (he was a history major)..... we also met in college and started dating before I had ever been to WDW, but we went before we were married, and so I can charge him with notice that I'm nuts for the mouse....

Do what works for you! We've agreed to two vacations a year: one to disney and one elsewhere. When we have kids, I can take them or go with a friend or alone as much as I want. That deal works for us!

 

[KathyFP]

I have awonderful DH that says no to most things that I suggest or ask him to do, but always does it anyways.

With him, I know that the nois just a temporary moment of insanity

seriously, I know that is just how he reacts, but is then mostly agreeable.

 

[dianeschlicht]

I'm lucky, DH loves Disney too! It is up to me to decided when! I just asked him this morning if we could plan both an October '04 and a December '04 trip, and he said, "Why not?"!!

 

[snoopy]

His dream vaca is to Grand Canyon or to Colorado to look at red rocks. I can think of nothing more boring except a history museum (he was a history major).....

Are we married to the same man? DH wants to go to Grand Canyon in the worst way, and since I have been allowed to choose vacations since we've been married, I am going to have to cave and do Grand Canyon one of these days. He also loves anything to do with history, his idea of a perfect vacation would be Williamsburg or Gettysburg or Europe touring museums.

My DH would be happy if he never stepped foot in WDW again, but he goes along with the plan some of the time, for the sake of me and the kids. Those times he doesn't want to go, I take the kids by myself -- Orlando is one place where I feel completely safe taking my children without my husband. I'm considering a trip with just me and the kids in January because he doesn't want to use his vacation time for WDW in 2004, seeing how he was just there in 2003. He seems to do well with every other year, and I'm cool with that. As long as he doesn't care if I go (he has never objected) I'm o.k.

 

[mickeyfan1]

Originally posted by snoopy
Are we married to the same man? DH wants to go to Grand Canyon in the worst way, and since I have been allowed to choose vacations since we've been married, I am going to have to cave and do Grand Canyon one of these days. He also loves anything to do with history, his idea of a perfect vacation would be Williamsburg or Gettysburg or Europe touring museums.

My DH would be happy if he never stepped foot in WDW again, but he goes along with the plan some of the time, for the sake of me and the kids. Those times he doesn't want to go, I take the kids by myself -- Orlando is one place where I feel completely safe taking my children without my husband. I'm considering a trip with just me and the kids in January because he doesn't want to use his vacation time for WDW in 2004, seeing how he was just there in 2003. He seems to do well with every other year, and I'm cool with that. As long as he doesn't care if I go (he has never objected) I'm o.k.

Snoopy, the is nothing like the Grand Canyon. It is one of the most AWSOME places I have been. I guess I am lucky that I love history, touring, and WDW! My DH is not a WDW freak, but he is willing to go if he can rent a boat or water sprite, he never knew there was stuff to do besides the parks.

I am also lucky that I can do WDW alone. We do trips together and alone. It works for us.

 

[Poohnatic]

Mimi,

Glad your trip worked out! There is nothing like seeing WDW from your child's perspective, and your two year old will remind you of things done on that trip in a few years (my 4 yo brings up things that we ONLY did the first trip down, when he was 21 months!)

My DH and I have separate checking accounts because of my ex husbands free and easy way with the ATM card and credit cards. Ed knew coming in that I had issues with it (and I didn't want his sterling credit messed up with my horrible mess that the ex left behind). So I can understand the separate account thing...my DH, however, is the one ready to hop in the car any time the possibility of a WDW trip is mentioned.

Shh, I do have a surprise trip planned. His 40th will be spent on a Disney Cruise, only he thinks he might be going to Florida for the week. All I've said so far is that I have a trip planned for his birthday. It'll be so cool to surprise him when we pull up in Port Canaveral.

Suzanne

 

[Rod333]

My wife and I honeymooned at Disneyworld 14 years ago and now for Christmas I am surprising her and my 2 daughters age 7 and 12 with a 3 week trip starting Jan 12....this way I figure my wife has the befit of a surprise which she likes but still plenty of time to prepare which she also likes ......This secret is killing me since I booked the flights Aug 8 Oh well only 19 days to Christmas thank heavens.....any ideas on how to present the surprise?...........I am counting the days

 

[aprilgail2]

One of my firends is taking her 2 daughters to Disney over Christmas and the husband is staying home since he doesn't like Disney.....most of my friends have seperate accounts from their husbands, I really don't blame them I always like to have my own money in my pocket and account. In fact a few of them each chip in evenly when its time for the mortgage payments or other household payments, my best friend and her husband split it down the middle every month and another pays every other months bills while the husband pays the other months. I don't think it so odd to want to vacation without your spouse, you don't have to be glued at the hip to be in love or committed to someone, you are allowed to have your own interests.
My mom used to hate buying my dad Christmas gifts because she didn't work and anything she bought was actually him paying for his own gifts since she didn't have any money that was just hers.

 

[joeokw]

My Dw and I share the Disney addiction, we also loved our 3 week sojurn to the Southwest 15 years ago.. Saw the Grand Canyon, the red rocks in Sedona, Arizona, the Rockies, Aspen, .. we love historic areas... Williamsburg, Gettysurg, We have taken the kids with us all the time.. we went to Niagara Falls, Wash. DC last summer and always go to Tanglewood in the Berkshires to see the Boston Symphony Orch/ Boston Pops. every summer. And of course we do Disney once/ twice a year. We always vacation as a family. I guess that's why we are married and a family in the first place.. We both did not share each other intrests at first ... but we decided early in our relatinship to do so. I didn't know a lick of classical music when we first met and never attended the theatre.. she hated sports and founf history boring... over the years we melded our intrsts and both enjoy our intrsts. If a new intrest comes up with one of us. the other will try to enjoy it too. I think it may boarden your horizons if you to do things together.. We both lost one of our parents early in our relationship and I guess we see how precious being together is.