Does anyone else's husband always say no...UPDATE p. 2

[Mimi Q]

when you tell him that you are going to WDW? I am planning our fourth trip to WDW in November. I have had the reservations for months but just broke the news to DH last night. He always goes through the same routine. We are not going. Then, it's okay for you and the girls to go but I'm not going. I guarntee you he will eventually agree to go. I don't know why we go through this every time I plan a Disney trip. I have a vacation savings account, so it is not a money issue. Our youngest DD is turning 2 years old the week before we leave. This time he says she is just too young to go, and we should wait until she can remember it. I haven't been in 2 1/2 years and I don't want to wait any longer. Today is our 15 year wedding anniversary, so he hasn't mentioned it today. Oh well, 90 more days for him to come around or the girls and I will go by ourselves.

 

[Dan Murphy]

First, happy 15th!!!!!!

Well, not husband, but DW, Lady M does. When I first popped the surprise on her for our first visit in late '98, it was a no, and understandably. Marie was just finishing her breast cancer treatments of close to a year and it would have been too much for her. Postponed till late '99. We all went. Great time.

Fast forward to '00. Let's go again!!!! What, so soon?? Yes, it was fun. But, so soon? Yes. I don't want to go. Okay. Anybody else? No? Okay.

My 12th WDW/DL solo trip is coming up in Dec.

misspelling edit

 

[Mimi Q]

Dan, I always look forward to the pictures from each of your trips. I knew I had only seen your wife in your trip pictures once and wondered why she didn't accompany you. Looks like you always have a good time. When the girls get older, I am going to plan a solo trip myself.

 

[Toby'sFriend]

Does he ever get to decide on a vacation destination?

 

[peg2001]

DH has given me free reign on vacation planning as long as all he has to do is pack and go where I tell him to go. He doesn't want to have ANYTHING to do with planning. He thinks I'm nuts that I enjoy the planning phase almost as much as the actual vacation.

Peggy

 

[Blondie]

I'm lucky in the fact that both DH and I share in a love for vacations at WDW!

 

[Mimi Q]

Toby's Friend, he doesn't want to decide on the destination cause he doesn't like to go on vacations. He says a real vacation is lying on the couch at home for a week. The only reason I really want him to go is so he can spend time with the girls. He has his own business and works a lot of hours each week. Just want to make some family memories. (and I love WDW)

 

[DelitefulDory]

I have to take a moment here to gush and say I have, quite possibly, the BEST husband on Earth. We live just an hour and a half away from WDW, and not once has he balked at going for me. Even if I ask to go there just for dinner. Granted, he knew very well what he was marrying into, but we go at least 2 times a month. In fact, we're headed there this weekend.
So, even tho he won't be reading this, I will still say
Thank you honey, you really are the best!

 

[Dancind]

MimiQ, I have a solution for you! Don't know where you're staying, but look into rebooking at one of the DVC resorts in a 1BR. They have a couch, and a nice size TV! Diana

 

[Mimi Q]

Diana, I would if I could only afford it. All Star Movies for us I'm afraid, but we've stayed there before.

 

[shep]

I actually told Amanda NO to a mini trip she had wanted to take before the girls started school....I told her no because I wanted to take the FULL trip next year.. ...

 

[FOJMO]

Originally posted by Mimi Q
when you tell him that you are going to WDW?

Maybe I'm in the minority here, but I would never even THINK of planning a vacation to WDW or anywhere else without first talking it over with my DH first. Everything in our marriage from what's for dinner to where we go on vacation is up for discussion.

I also don't understand how/why people get married to others who don't have common interests (i.e., vacation spots, whether to go on vacation, etc.) I'm not putting you down, Mimi, I just don't understand

The other puzzling thing for me is that YOU have a vacation savings account. Where does the money come from for this? I'm also of the belief that all money in our marriage is OURS and there are no separate accounts or funding of accounts by one or the other.

Just totally confused on many points on this end.

So, I guess my answer to your question is NO because my DH would have been in on this decision from the get go.

 

[Steve H.]

You're not alone on this one, FOJMO -- I was going to ask why the OP hasn't told her DH about a reservation she had pending (or, for that matter, why he didn't notice the charge on their credit card to hold the room??)

If my DW came to me and told me she made a reservation months ago for a trip somewhere and hadn't told me until now, I wouldn't be too pleased. But that's me.

 

[WDWLVR]

Originally posted by FOJMO
Maybe I'm in the minority here, but I would never even THINK of planning a vacation to WDW or anywhere else without first talking it over with my DH first. Everything in our marriage from what's for dinner to where we go on vacation is up for discussion.

I also don't understand how/why people get married to others who don't have common interests (i.e., vacation spots, whether to go on vacation, etc.) I'm not putting you down, Mimi, I just don't understand

The other puzzling thing for me is that YOU have a vacation savings account. Where does the money come from for this? I'm also of the belief that all money in our marriage is OURS and there are no separate accounts or funding of accounts by one or the other.

Just totally confused on many points on this end.

So, I guess my answer to your question is NO because my DH would have been in on this decision from the get go.

FOJMO ,

Well if you are in the minority I'm right there with you. DH was hesitant when I first brought up the idea of Disney for our honeymoon, but fell in love with it when we went. I do about 90% of the planning, but we always talk it out first and decide together where and when.

I can't think of a time when I would plan a trip without him.

I did a poll on this about a month or so ago and it was pretty evenly split between those who vacation without spouses and those who do what you and I do and plan and vacation together. To each their own! I'm very glad I have a DH who loves our trips as much as I do.

 

[DelitefulDory]

Way off topic here, but Steve H, that is one handsome young man there! Just had to say it. I'm done now.

 

[Steve H.]

Originally posted by DelitefulDory
Way off topic here, but Steve H, that is one handsome young man there! Just had to say it. I'm done now.

Thanks!

 

[DelitefulDory]

Maybe their marriage just works that way FOJMO. Lots of people have seperate accounts and even take seperate vacations. I cannot imagine doing that myself, but there are as many types of marriages as there are people, no 2 will be the same.

edit to say: You're welcome Steve, I usually don't comment on things like that, but after seeing him I had to..

 

[Mimi Q]

FOJMO, I work part-time about 6 hours a week. My husband and I decided together that I could do whatever I wanted to with the money as we didn't need it for our household budget and it's not that much money. I told him I was going to put it aside for vacations a long time ago. As far as marrying someone who doesn't share my love of WDW, when we met and started dating in college I had never been to WDW. I didn't know how much I would enjoy vacationing there.

Steve H., my husband never looks at my credit card charges. I handle all our household money. He is welcome to do so, but apparently it has worked out okay for him not to do so the last 15 years. He is not a planner, so if you bring up any plans more than 3 months out he won't even think about it. He says that's too far away, talk to me when it's close to time. He is a spur of the moment kind of guy.

 

[mom2boys]

I fully understand making a ressie without DH's blessing. There is a huge difference between making a ressie & actually taking a trip. I also know what he his tolerance level is. I know that he perfers an AllStar. I always make sure I know the cancelation policy. DH is extremely busy. It is sometimes difficult to have a conversation with DH during the week due to his work schedule. We communicate via cell phone during the week. He is also not a planner. He is not afraid to suggest vacation destinations but I am fully expected to make all of the arrangements & plans. I have told him about my Dec ressies. He did tell his sister we were going. Guess I better get on those PS.

 

[Keli]

Mimi Q, My husband is a lot like that. Actually he'll say yes first, then start rethinking it and say maybe we shouldn't, and then he comes around and decides that yes, we should take the trip. I mostly ignore the 'maybe we shouldn't' stage because he always decides he wants to take the trip (ignore as in not actually cancelling ressies or ps' or anything, if he actually said 'We're not going' then I would but the 'maybe' is always vague). The more vacation time David accrues the less he wants to use it, lol.