Do you think a bony chest (ribs showing above breast) is attractive on a woman?

[disneydragon]

I think it looks more like Marisa Tomei than Lara Flynn Boyle.

 

[snoopy]

I was referring to men in general preferring short-ish women, not just short men, although that makes perfect sense as well. I thought models were only tall because the clothes photograph well on tall women. Go figure.

I completely agree that everyone has their personal preferences, which is a great thing, since humans aren't made with cookie cutters.

I really don't think there is such thing as "men in general".

I guess the point I am trying to make all along is that those attributes that are usually thought of as "ideal", or at the very least not negative (petite, tall, busty, thin......pretty much anything BUT fat) are usually fair game for people to comment on, precisely because they are attributes that are commonly thought of as an asset, not a hinderence. With the example I used, the man who said I was a "tall cool glass of water" could get away with that far easier than had he said I was a "short fat tree stump". Understand what I mean here? Neither are really o.k. to say, but one is considered acceptable, the other not.

 

[disneydragon]

I really don't think there is such thing as "men in general".

LOL. "Men in General" = my mates, co-workers, family --- Which I'm certain would be a different generalization if we were all from a different country or culture, as well. I didn't mean to speak for all men there, since I can't possibly know all men on the planet. I only know my own small cross-section.

 

[dizneenut]

Nope.

 

[jimmalru80]

No, no, a thousand times no!

 

[snoopy]

LOL. "Men in General" = my mates, co-workers, family --- Which I'm certain would be a different generalization if we were all from a different country or culture, as well. I didn't mean to speak for all men there, since I can't possibly know all men on the planet. I only know my own small cross-section.

Well if this thread is any indication, there is no such thing as "men in general". We've heard from men who think bony is ideal, while others think its "ewwww".

But I think you are missing my point...I'm not debating whether or not men in general think shorter women are preferable to tall women, or vice versa. Simply that neither of those attributes are thought of as a negative, at least in American culture.

 

[Jenn Lynn]

I have come to the conclusion that when some makes a comment to a person about their body type/size, etc. it all stems from their own insecurity. Why else would anyone feel the need to make thin OR fat comments to someone's face? Or even behind their back?

I have also realized that some people (in general) are going to say things to you no matter what. All you can do is be the bigger person and try to not let it bother you. I have gotten this my whole life. And I see it in DD's future as well.

*I am not talking about people commenting on this thread because we were asked a question by the OP and can choose to ignore if we wish.

 

[Judy from Boise]

If a person looks in good health, overall I do like a more bony look. I think it comes from Loving ballet! I sort of channel Blanchine!
But, I try to avoid personal comments!No matter how well intentioned they are destined to offend.

 

[grinningghost]

Oh well, it's a photo of Lara Flynn Boyle.

Yeah, and personally, I would have rather seen the red X.

 

[EsmeraldaX]

Hm. I disagree with this. I weighed 150 at 5'7 last March...within the "healthy" weight range, and yet many a doctor said it would be prudent to lose a few pounds.

Now I weigh 129, still within the normal healthy weight range for 5'7 and a medium bone frame and I feel better, am more active and am generally just healthier. My collarbone shows somewhat prominently and I have an outline of chest bones, but nothing skeletal or prominent. I am NOT ill.

I don't think people whose bones show slightly are ill. I thought the OP was referring to women who look sickly. IMO, that picture of Lara Flynn Boyle looks sickly.

 

[MeanLaureen]

Wow, it never crossed my mind that the OP was picking on the appearance of a group of women - it was just a question as to whether people found it attractive or not. Just an opinion. To me, no different than asking if you found red hair attractive. Lots of people don't but I don't get offended because I'm a redhead (I just get even later.. but I digress )

 

[caitycaity]

i think people are getting way bent out of shape. i don't see this thread as a slam at all. no one (that i saw) is making fun of people for the way they look - they are just saying if they find the way people look to be attractive. what's going to happen next: someone will start a thread about brown haired girls not being attractive and everyone will freak out? who cares.

it's my personal opinion that when people's ribs visably show - it's not attractive. it doesn't mean that other parts of them aren't attractive to me or that they're not a good person or something. i find cellulite and fat rolls to be unattractive too and believe me i have them. no big deal.

People who would never dream on commenting about someone being overweight

this pops up ocassionally - if you think people don't comment about people being overweight, try being an overweight person. it happens all the time. frequently to your face, and frequently in a very rude manner.

was referring to men in general preferring short-ish women, not just short men,

it's funny - i don't think you can really make that comment b/c every guy i know except the really short ones like tall girls.

 

[KristiKelly]

Mimi Q,
I agree about Kelly Ripa. We were watching Hope & Faith one night & DH said "Look at her chest, that's gross". I think she has a really pretty face, but she has lost a bunch of weight & she's starting to have that "lollipop" shape - so skinny that her head looks too big for her body.

Babar,
no, they aren't real. On Regis & Kelly she talks about her small "girls" and Regis jokes as well. On the show Hope & Faith - they've pushed them up - a bunch!!!

 

[Luckymommyx2]

If a person looks in good health, overall I do like a more bony look. I think it comes from Loving ballet! I sort of channel Blanchine!
But, I try to avoid personal comments!No matter how well intentioned they are destined to offend.

Ditto to EVERTHING you said!!

 

[disneydragon]

it's funny - i don't think you can really make that comment b/c every guy i know except the really short ones like tall girls.

Not in my world.

 

[TigerBear]

Not to keep this off topic, but there are definitely men who prefer petite women and it has nothing to do with how tall the guy is. I have even noticed some profiles on match where the guys indicates a preference for petite women. Thank God someone likes us!

Edited to add: My ex-h was a foot taller than me and we both thought we fit together perfectly (too bad that was only physically. )

 

[EsmeraldaX]

if you think people don't comment about people being overweight, try being an overweight person. it happens all the time. frequently to your face, and frequently in a very rude manner.

I agree. And you all would be amazed at what some people consider fat. I have known people who have called me fat for being 5 lbs overweight. I dated a guy once who left me because he said I got fat. I weighed approx. 115 lbs at the time. Some people have very strange perceptions of what is skinny and what is fat.

I personally think if a person looks healthy then that is all that matters. Most of the people I've personally known whose bones showed were not healthy looking.

 

[Dizzy for Dsny]

OK everyone - this have become such a big debate and heated at times. It was NEVER my intention to indicate that I think less of anyone who has a bony upper chest. What's important is that a person is happy with how they look, not what other's think about them!!! It is just my opinion (and we are all granted to that), that when I see a family member who has lost so much weight and starting to concave in on the trunk of her body, thus making her shoulders roll forward - that doesn't seem healthy! Besides the fact when I hug her she has absolutely no meat on her bones it feels like.

Now, let me also say that she is in great physical shape, she used to be an actress on Broadway, but I think there becomes a point when its a little too much. For example, Kelly Ripa, she looked great before and still does, but when she's in a dress with her upper rib cage so pronounced - it looks too bony in my opinion. Granted, I know that some people are naturally bony, BUT for woman that want to achieve that look - I personnally don't understand.

Sorry to get everyone so riled up, never my intention. Just curious whether you find it attractive.

Thanks everyone!

 

[Snowwark]

I'm average weight and relatively healthy, but my chest bones show, especially when I raise my arms a little bit.

I wear turtlenecks, a lot.

Maybe I should stop trying to lick my elbows!

 

[SideshowBob]

I'm average weight and relatively healthy, but my chest bones show, especially when I raise my arms a little bit.

I wear turtlenecks, a lot.

Maybe I should stop trying to lick my elbows!

Er, um... SSB wouldn't advise you trying to lick those elbows during your wicked winter.... no telling what could happen! Imagine trying to explain that to the paramedics...