Do You Think 9:00 PM Is Too Late To Call Someone?

Christine

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This has happened to me twice now.

Admittedly, I do to bed early--usually about 8:45-9:00 p.m. as I get up to go to work at 4:30 a.m.

I know that most people don't do this. Even knowing that, I probably wouldn't call most people that I don't know well past 8:00 p.m.

There have been two incidences where my DD (15) friends' mothers have called me. The last was called at 9:30 to talk to me about a get together and one called me last night at 9:10. I was in bed. My DH was still up and explained that I was asleep. I can help but feel a little embarrased.:blush:

But still, I think it is past the acceptable time (unless of course you are good friends with someone and you know their schedule).
 
I'm okay with calls from DD's friends past 9PM, but before 10PM. Unless someone knows me well enough to know I'm up until 10:30-11:00 I don't expect the phone to ring past 9:00PM.
 
Early to bed here, too. I hate calls after nine. I always think there is a problem, because our family knows that we are off limits at that point. Not ever asleep, but reading...etc.
 
9 PM is the cut-off time for us too. Saying that D-SIL never fails to call between 9 and 9:30 most nights.

To the opposite..... what time is too early? The same people (family) that DH won't call after 8PM as they "go to bed early" don't hesitate to call us at 7 or 8 AM. They think that because they get up at the crack of dawn so does everyone else. NOT!!!
 
No, I don't think it's too late. I get up at 4:30am also but I am seldom in bed before 10pm so it really doesn't matter to me:)
 
Other than my immediate family (we are all pretty much up late - past 11PM people) and 1 GF I would never call anyone after 9:00 and some people I will not call even after 8PM because I know they have young children and don't want to take the chance I am waking someone up. So like you said "other than someone you really know," - NO I would not call.

On the AM side, never before 10AM unless I am meeting this person prior to that time and need to reach them (This one drives me crazy - IF I don't have to get up, which is rare, I AM sleeping in...for a change.
 
I think 9pm is fine. When I had my first DD I was so tired...getting up with her, going to work, etc. My friends used to call late, and I was normally asleep, they used to make fun. I was the first of us who had kids. Now, they have kids as well, and are working and in bed by 9pm. I have to laugh, cuz now that my kids are not up all night, I'm up til 10-11pm every night. Even though I was in bed, I don't think 9pm is too late. I would say past 10pm is where I would think its too late. I don't mind people waking me up...when DD was a baby I was just scared they'd wake her up cuz it took forever to get her to sleep.
 
I don't think 9pm is late at all, but, then again, I think it depends on the household.
 
Don't be embarrassed, my DW and I have let our family and friends know that during the week we are in bed by 9 and not to call unless it is an emergency. We both get up early (4:30 and 5:00).

JD
 
I would call people I don´t know until 10 pm, and people I know I´d call even later (if I know they like to stay up late).
 
After 9 is the cut off for us to. DH and I both work and the kids have to get up early for school. After 9 is reserved for emergancies ONLY!

Kelly
 
I don't think 9 pm is too late.

It's sometimes difficult to call people. When you call too early they are not home yet or are having dinner, and when you call them later, they might be asleep.

But 9 pm is still a decent hour. I called someone yesterday at 9.15 pm!
 
9 is my cut off time, too. My two boys (ages 6 and 9) are usually asleep by then and hubby and I are winding down. It really bothers me if anyone calls after 9.
 
I probably wouldn't call someone too much after 9PM unless it was urgent, or unless I knew that the person was not an early-to-bed type. I go to bed about 11PM though, so some of my closer friends will call me 930, 10, even 1030 sometimes.

I will admit that it gives me a moment of pause when the hpone rings ater 10PM, until I look at the caller ID. If it's one of my friends who know I am still awake, then I just figure she's calling to gab.
 
I try not to call people after 9pm or so unless I know their schedule. I stay up late, though, and would prefer a later call to an early morning call. Can't stand it when my phone rings at 7:30am.
 
I depends on who it is. If I don't know them well, I generally won't call past 8-8:30. We get calls until 9 from kids wanting tot alk my my kids. But my kids know that 9 is the cut off and if someone calls later, we will not let them talk.
 
We're early morning people and I agree with you that calling after 9:00 p.m. is too late to call someone you don't know well. Actually, I don't even call people after 8:00.

On a workday, even though I'm here at 7:30, I don't call others until after 9:00. On the weekends, I know not to call my sister until after 12:00 or she's really cranky with me. :rotfl2: She and my mom have no problem calling me at 7:00 a.m. or earlier, though. They know I'm awake.
 
when ever someone calls me past 9pm, I think somthing is really wrong.

I dont let every one know my number though. A very few. Parents and very close friends.

I hate to get sales calls.
 












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