Do you reward for good grades?

[dejr_8]

Here's the flip side of the "Do you Punish for bad grades" thread.

We give $10 for each "A" and $5 for each "B".

 

[SC Minnie]

We say 'good job'. DD15 had straight A's on the last report card and we took her out to eat where ever she wanted to go. We don't pay her though.

 

[Art 1]

No.

 

[mjkacmom]

We take them out to dinner. Even though ds11 got a B- (forgot to do a part of a project ), we still go. My kids should, and usually do, get straight A's, but if they were B students, and got B's, I'd be happy (dd6 gets A's, but I can already see she's probably not going to get the grades her siblings get).

 

[::Snow_White::]

When I was younger I used to get $10 for every A, now I don't get money for grades. Getting good grades is the reward.

 

[sunlver]

Yes and No
My husband pays for grades, but I dont. What I mean is, I don't feel it is right to pay for good grades and he does. Last year he gave my 10 yr daughter 50$ for getting all A's...Now, I do believe in a special treat, favorite dinner out, or maybe picking out something from the store, within reason.
I think its a child's job to do the best they can in school.

 

[okeydokey]

We do not pay for grades. Doing their best in school is expected. We do go out for ice cream or a meal, and we tell them how proud we are of them.

 

[Holly]

Here's the flip side of the "Do you Punish for bad grades" thread.

We give $10 for each "A" and $5 for each "B".

Yes.
We pay the same amounts, although if it's an AP course a B also earns $10.


I agree that the good grades are also a reward. My kids are probably just as motivated by that as they are the money because the older ones are both college-minded. I like giving them the money because they both work very hard in school.

 

[dislaney]

No I don't pay for good grades but sometimes we will go out to dinner to celebrate a good report card. My mother has occasionally sent money for someone who has good grades or I guess just because she feels like it.

 

[RunningGirl]

We don't. My kids get frustrated because so many of their friends do get rewards for good grades! I am not against it, but honestly we've just never had the need. Luckily they're pretty self motivated school-wise. Their rooms, on the other hand ...

 

[TimeforMe]

My kids are both in college now, but when they were younger we would "celebrate" their achievement. Sometimes that meant giving them money, sometimes it was just using the "special" plate. I don't see anything wrong with either way.

 

[Meriweather]

My kids are all grown now, but we always paid for good grades. I am a believer in positive reenforcement.
DD was valedictorian and DS was 11th in his class. It was worth every $$ if that helped to give them an added push. I couldn't be prouder

 

[Pigeon]

Not in a very formal way. When they get great report cards, we usually take them out for some kind of family treat. And they get to hear a great deal about how proud they make us.

 

[LilyWDW]

$10 for an A
$5 for a B
$0 for a C
-$5 for a D
-$10 for a F

Yea, it wasn't as simple as getting paid for good grades... but I would owe my parents money if I got bad ones.

 

[monkey68]

When I was in high school, I wrote a contract with my dad that he would pay me $50 every time I got all "Excellents" on my report cards. We got 8 report cards a year, 4 cycles and we would get a card at the end of the cycle, as well as mid cycle. I think there was usually around 7 classes a cycle, so it worked out to around $7 for each E, but I only got paid if it was all E's.

 

[Schmeck]

My daughter was also valedictorian, and no, we didn't pay her for getting high grades. I don't understand the philosophy behind it - no two classes are the same, some classes/teachers are much easier to get an A in. What do you do if one child struggles in school, tries hard, and gets all C's and B's, the other kid has it easy, is lazy, and gets mostly B's, and a few A's?

I expect my children to do their best at school, and don't need to bribe them to do so. Working hard, challenging themselves, and wanting to do well for themselves, not the $$$, is what makes them successful.

 

[samshane]

No - I expect them to get good grades. And if I did pay them - I'd be broke. I totally agree with the poster who said getting good grades is the reward.

 

[tigerdragon]

I expect good grades as well, nothing below a B. But I do pay my DS for his good grades. He's only in 3rd grade and gets $2 for A's, $1 for B's, nothing for C's, -$1 for D's, and -$2 for F's. Last report card was only 1 B and the rest were A's. He made $11. I also see it as a way for him to learn about money. He knows how much he has and if he wants to buy something he pays for it himself. I don't see the harm in a little reward for working hard.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Sure do! Always have. Now he's at the stage of wanting a job in addition to everything else. I'm thinking that $ for grades won't hold as much weight with him once he's making money on his own. I'm trying to push that off. Most important are the grades. Enjoy being a kid. Once you're out of school, you'll be working the rest of your life.

 

[JennaTX]

I pay for good grades. I tell my DD (5th grade) that school is her job, the most important thing in her life, so yes she gets paid for good grades.

I understand people who do not want to pay for grades because that is what is expected. But then do you take away their allowance if they have a bad grade? IMO I have found postive reinforcement to work better. I can take away their allowance or other perks for bad grades but they never had them in the first place to miss them so it doesn't bother them so much, KWIM?

I'm sure every parent knows what works best with their own child!