Do you or would send a gift to something you did not get an invite to?

[MsDisney23]

 

[SpecialK]

No.

 

[kristilew]

I have. When one of the girls I've mentored or babysat over the years grows up and gets married, I rarely get an invite to the wedding, as I'm no longer close enough to the family to take up valuable "guest space." Yet, I often want to give them a little gift to celebrate and say how proud I am of them.

 

[NEVERENOUGHWDW]

No, although I have.
It was a baby shower & I sent a gift & received no thank you note or call.
Thankyou, is a big thing with me.

 

[wdw4life]

No. I've had a couple people get married in my office and I wasn't invited so I did not give them a gift. I did, however, congratulate them.

 

[curious3069]

It depends?? Say, if a friend was having a very small, family only wedding-yes I would. If a distant relative didn't invite me to a wedding-no.

 

[Rora]

Nope. I might send a card but that's it.

 

[WDSearcher]

Depends on the situation. Sometimes yes, sometimes no.

Depends on why I wasn't invited, what the event was, and a host of other variables. There have been, for example, a lot of cousin's weddings that I haven't been invited to that I've still sent gifts to, just because they're my cousins. And I once sent a "new baby" gift to an old college friend I hadn't heard from in years simply because someone had told me that he was a new dad. I got a nice thankyou note from his wife, but nothing from him, so I let it go at that. I also had a good friend (or, at least, thought he was) who had a huge birthday party where he invited pretty much everyone I knew except for me. I had all sorts of people ask me why I wasn't there. I asked him why he didn't invite me and he said he just figured I'd hear about it and show up. I still have his present. I just figured he'd hear about it and show up, but so far ... nope.

 

[indimom]

Depends on the situation. Sometimes yes, sometimes no.

Depends on why I wasn't invited, what the event was, and a host of other variables. There have been, for example, a lot of cousin's weddings that I haven't been invited to that I've still sent gifts to, just because they're my cousins. And I once sent a "new baby" gift to an old college friend I hadn't heard from in years simply because someone had told me that he was a new dad. I got a nice thankyou note from his wife, but nothing from him, so I let it go at that. I also had a good friend (or, at least, thought he was) who had a huge birthday party where he invited pretty much everyone I knew except for me. I had all sorts of people ask me why I wasn't there. I asked him why he didn't invite me and he said he just figured I'd hear about it and show up. I still have his present. I just figured he'd hear about it and show up, but so far ... nope.

Very funny.
I have to agree that it depends on the circumstances for me also.

 

[HSMndLKfan92]

I wouldn't.

 

[KandD]

I've given baby gifts when I wasn't invited to the shower. Other than that I can't think of another time I would give a gift without being invited...maybe a graduation, depending on who it was.

 

[sbell111]

If I care enough to send a gift to honor an event in someone's life. It makes no difference if I am invited to a party/function that also is related to that event.

 

[Pakey]

If I care enough to send a gift to honor an event in someone's life. It makes no difference if I am invited to a party/function that also is related to that event.

I agree; this is how I've handled it.

 

[lspst8]

My DH and I got married in Las Vegas last summer, and we received a number of gifts after the fact. I'd say 8 to 10 people gave us gifts which was really nice of them. They were all family members or very long term friends.

I gave a gift when I friend of mine got married with only her immediately family in attendance.

 

[MiniGirl]

If I care enough to send a gift to honor an event in someone's life. It makes no difference if I am invited to a party/function that also is related to that event.

This is how I feel about it, too.

 

[Mickey'snewestfan]

I've receive and given those kinds of gifts.

My college graduation I got a couple of gift cards with $20 or so from aunts etc . . . My college allowed me something like 4 tickets to the graduation -- I invited my mom and my brother and gave the other 2 to my best friend so her whole family could come, so they weren't invited. If they had been there's now way they could have afforded the plane ticket and hotel.

I also received baby gifts from people out of town who I didn't invite to the shower.

At the place I work people get married all the time. If I work closely with them I'll get them a gift, even though I am not usually invited to the wedding.

 

[MAKmom]

I had a very small wedding when I married my second husband. I was 30 & we only had our parents & siblings. My uncle & aunt sent me a present. I thought it was awesome of them.

 

[clh2]

We sent a wedding gift one time to a couple we knew who was getting married. Very small, small wedding, only immediate family.

I had a lot of fun with picking out the perfect present - a Victoria's Secret GC and a bottle of champagne. Now - FWIW - had we been invited to the wedding "properly" we would have given them a cash gift. The gift we gave was definitely creative.

The bride gave us a specific compliment - that it was by far the best gift they received!

But this was a specific situation. Generally if I do not get invited, I will not send a gift.

 

[mickaholic4077]

My sisters had a surprise 60th birthday party for my father. I was not told of it nor invited to it. After I found out(after there was one) that there was a party,one of my sisters had the nerve to ask me to help pay for the party. I told her where she could stick that suggestion!!

 

[wdwfan16]

Yes and I have. Last month we sent a wedding card and check to a wedding we were not invited to.