Do you need a reason to have a VR?

[bubbasmom99]

I was just surfing the web for info on vow renewals, and I came across a forum where they were discussing it... one person said that it should be for people who have broken their vows and need to renew, or for people who have overcome some sort of adversity in their marriage... or eloped, or whatever. What if you don't have any good reason except that you want to do it? My DH and I had a traditional wedding and reception, about 150 guests, and honeymooned at WDW. We just love Disney and since we are taking the cruise already, decided it might be nice to renew our vows and celebrate our 10th anniversary. At this point, there would be no guests - just us and our kids - though I do plan to encourage any friends who might want to vacation anyway to come Anyway, we have no adversity, no broken vows, etc. I suppose I have no good reason to want to do this, so do you think it's silly or unreasonable to do so, just so we can say "I still do"?

 

[D&R love Disney]

I don't think you need a specific reason to have a vow renewal. I think it's just a romantic idea that you want to repledge yourself to your partner.

 

[Firefly Girl]

If you want a VR then do it!

 

[FutureAshleyDukes]

I think Vow Renewals are great for any couple that are still very much in love. My fiance wants to have our vows renewed every five years. He just thinks it's a great way to celebrate the vows you originally made, and show your devotion to them is still as strong as when they were first made. I think it's a great way to celebrate an anniversary. Congratulations!

 

[jessiangel]

We have overcome incredible adversity in our marriage (and lives), which is why we are renewing our vows. But I think it is a very romantic thing to do just because you love each other. I say go for it and congrats!

 

[debloco]

I have not heard about only doing a VR after overcoming adversity or broken vows. Of course, it makes sense to do it for those reasons, but I have mostly heard about couples doing VR's for "milestone" anniversaries like 10th or 25th or whatever. If you and DH want to do this to celebrate your marriage that's not silly or unreasonable at all! And what a great thing for your children to see and be included in! Especially when so many kids aren't fortunate enough to have parents who are still together and in love. I say go for it and be all mushy and kiss in front of your kids!

CLC Tiger Pom Mom

 

[Janet2k]

My husband and I just renewed our vows in WDW for our 20th anniversary. We had a simple, evening ceremony inside the Wedding Pavilion, followed by a very fun and elaborate dinner party inside the Great Movie Ride (we even had an outdoor dance party and custom fireworks display). Our anniversary party size was 22 people and everyone had the most magical time. Why did we do it? Strictly because we wanted to. We thought 20 years of marriage was worthy of a celebration. (I have a few trip reports on the Trip Reports board regarding the planning of that vow renewal and also about the vow renewal itself -- neither trip report is anywhere near done but I hope to finish them one of these years -- click here and click here.)

 

[barb45]

Go for it! You have a great reason to do it - you love each other. I agree with the other poster that it is great for your kids to see their parents in love. I plan to do this also. I was going to do it every 5 years but they went by so fast that it's not going to work for this year (which is 5) so I'll have to wait until 10.