Do you like your in-laws?

[KathyTX]

I got really lucky in the In-Law department. Mine are sweet people and wonderful grandparents.

No drama at all, just family!

 

[MoniqueU]

Well when I am not throwing a temper tantrum I love my MIL. She and I don't agree much on anything but I have to say she is one of the most supportive people in my life. My FIL was words I can't even say on here and when he died I hate to admit it but I sure didn't shed a tear about him. He was controlling and demeaning to my MIL, only met one of his grandsons and kicked my husband out at age 18 and wouldn't do a thing to help him for any reason and didn't even keep in contact with him until he was diagnosed with cancer.

My husband and I are both only children. We don't have much contact with either sides of our extended family due to distance and we each don't care for the others family much.

Oh well. I am glad I have my husband and kids and am grateful for both our moms.

 

[2BigKIdz]

My MIL has passed but I liked her a lot, very cool lady! I have 2 sil's and I am close with both of them, I love my husband's family, we all get along great.

 

[beachlover9395]

Oh goody, I get to be the big *B* here!

My Inlaws:

MIL: NO, NO, NO

FIL: NO, NO, NO

Husband's siblings: NO, NO, a THOUSAND TIMES NOOOOO



My Parents a.k.a. Husband's Inlaws:

FIL: YES, absolutely

MIL: YES, YES, A THOUSAND TIMES YES!!! "Treated me more like a son than my own mother." -- quote by my husband

Believe me, I know how sad and pathetic it is. But some people never change and such is life. I'm blessed with my husband, two kids who never fail to make me laugh, and my extended family which are good people. Husband lost the "family lottery"; thus, I lost the "Wonderful Inlaws lottery".

 

[HelenePA]

hate is not a strong enough word to desribe how I feel about them. Yes they are offically my "in laws" for anyone who is keeping track they are awful people who blame me and dh (yes dh offically dh) for our falling out... its all their fault.. I & dh gave them every chance we could to "come back" into our family.. they took ever one of those chances to show us how much they don't deserve any more chances.. I wish it were different dont get me wrong but I dont see it changing any time soon...

 

[EeyoreEma]

I love my in-laws, and I like them too. It took time for us to get to this point, but I am so happy that we did. My MIL is becoming a dear friend who I appreciate very much. I like DSIL and DBIL well enough, though they both have certain aspects that drive me nuts. On my side, I like DBIL as well (sister's DH). He's a good guy, and treats her well - how can you not like that?!

 

[PrincessTiffany]

I don't like my MIL. My husband doesn't like her most of the time either, but she has some terrible guilty emotional hold over him (long story). She's a very selfish person with a harsh, dominant personality. She doesn't know what a personal boundry is and treats people, not just our family, badly. I always try to treat her with respect, because she is my husband's mother, but I don't like her. We have been married for almost 16 years and it took me a long time to figure out how she is and accept the fact that she will never change.

My MIL and FIL have been divorced for years and FIL and Step-MIL live out-of-state. I guess you could say they are nice people, but they don't really have much to do with us or our kids. They never call or see the kids on their birthdays and, of course, never send gifts of any kind. We usually see them about once a year.

I'm always so envious of people who say they have great in-laws and are close to them. I will never have that and it makes me sad. It still totally amazes me that my husband turned out to be such a kind, loving and wonderful man with the upbringing he had.

 

[justmama]

My sil, my brothers wife, she's sweet, her and my brother are fit for each other.

The others, short answer, NO.

MIL - It's a complete roll reversal. She calls us for the most random things. She has a weird relationship w/ some man she claims is her boyfriend. She is always a victim. She's always giving our name and/or phone number for those 'listen to this 2 hour lecture/advertisement, etc this trip for free' type things. She's always mixed up in something. She makes very poor choices.

Ex-Step FIL - he's just a goof ball. And when him and MIL separated, he nor his parents ever contacted us again, after sending cards, coming to birthday parties and claiming my kids as their grand/great grand children.

The kicker, my SIL, dh's sister, is 8 as in years old and thats all i have to say about that

 

[etoiles]

My mother in law is a nice person. It just gets hard because she stays with us for five weeks at a time and by the end it is really hard and usually result in an argument. In addition, we both don't speak the same language well so there are a lot of communication barriors. While she is here for the five weeks she never leaves the house or goes anywhere and relies on us for 100% of her needs and entertainment. She doesn't work so she is ready to go shopping and other stuff when we get home from work and we are tired and just want to relax.

I think if we didn't have to spend 5 weeks together at a time, just a day or two and could speak the same language equally well then we would get along much better.

 

[beachlover9395]

they are awful people who blame me and dh (yes dh offically dh) for our falling out... its all their fault..

Yep, same for me too. Of course, they had a magical relationship until the "EVIL DIL" came into the picture. Yeah, right! They all had dysfunction thrust upon dysfunction wayyyy before I came into the picture.

My family wasn't perfect by a long shot, and we had our many moments of dysfunction, but they weren't intentionally cruel like his family. My family were honest, hard-working, salt of the earth-type people. I miss them terribly. But also, it was my fault in thinking I'd be accepted and loved by his family. Ahh, a 20-something's naivete.

 

[perkydizbride]

I love my former MIL. She's a beautiful person. We have never gotten along badly, under any circumstance.
She even lived with me for a year until she had a devastating stroke. (Sad story, I know.)

Now, my dad's girlfriend of 10 years.. this is another story.
If I had a magic wand, I'd probably use it for something absolutely no good towards this woman.
She's manipulative - doing things in order to make sure my life doesn't go down the same path as hers.. (some how getting a free ride from my dad doesn't seem all that terrible of a path?)
She's rude - speaks her mind, with disregard for the feelings of others.

I try my hardest, so that a relationship can be maintained between myself and my father and with my father and my child.. but sometimes, its really really hard to do.

Merry Christmas I will say to her.. with slightly gritted teeth.

 

[indimom]

Love 'em.

My MIL is an amazing lady. I'm fairly jealous, she is one of those people who always seems to know the right thing to do or say without thinking about it. She is compassionate and caring even when dealing with someone who directly confronts every moral/ethical belief in her body. I never know how she manages it. And she has a hold on her tongue like noone I've ever known. She almost never lashes out in anger. She is calm, cool and composed, even under the worst stress. She is a ROCK for the entire family. I have a feeling things may fall apart a bit someday when she is gone.

My FIL isn't quite as amazing, but he is still an all-around great guy. Friendly, helpful, great with the grandkids. About the only thing he does that some would consider a negative is his tendency to "embellish" a bit when telling stories. I can't prove it, but his stories seem a little bit more amazing and outlandish than most. But, hey, they are entertaining!

My BILs are fine, one is a bit boastful but its never said in a hurtful or judgemental way so it doesn't bother me any. He just likes to toot his horn a bit. My SILs both are friendly and considerate. We aren't close, and don't socialize outside family get-togethers or the kids' sports events, but we get along fine. I like them.

My family is a bit more entertaining, but I would have to let my husband give his take on them.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

MIL is OK. She is paranoid schizophrenic. Now in the past she was psychotic however she has been on some good meds for about 15yrs and been as "normal" as she can be.

Of course that means that contact is limited and things are simple with her. But is it a good relationship.

FIL is dead to us for the most part. He split when DH was 5 & married someone who had 6 kids. He blames us for the reason we are not close. Even though he moved 1000 miles away and then would come into to town and never visit. Jerk.

Yes, we could do better and try and build a better relationship with him however we have not done that yet.

DH's oldest sister? Let's just say we are cordial and respectful when we see them and that is about it. They are religious and kicked out oldest son for being gay.

DH's brother and SIL are great people.

So I guess it is a mixed bag.

 

[Andtototoo]

As I said in the other thread, the only reason my dh and I are still together are because we moved away from his parents. He always stood up for me and did the 'right' things, but they were absolutely determined to make my life a living hell so I would leave my dh -- and that was their MO from the moment they met me. The saving grace was that I finally realized that none of their behavior was personal. They would have treated any woman dh married the same way. However, my biggest regret was not realizing sooner that they HATED me with the fire of a thousand suns and nothing I could do would change that.

I truly believe my late MIL was a sociopath. She did the most heinous things (not only to me, but to others) and had no remorse whatsoever. As long as SHE wanted something, it didn't matter the consequences to others, but she was amazingly capable at fooling everyone (but dh and I) that she was always the loving, caring, wonderful person or the victim. Ugh, I could go on forever about her, but to give one example: She laughed when a doctor tried to molest a family member. Yes. She laughed. She thought it was hysterically funny. This is not normal or healthy behavior.

My FIL participated in her crap and while she was alive, my MIL was very very good at manipulating all of us into thinking he was the source of all the nastiness. After she died, the rest of the family started to see things more clearly since she was not here to cloud the issues. I now believe that he was sucked into her craziness and thought it was normal -- like much of the family. After she died, it was like he was slowly swimming up from the ocean bottom and seeing light and now has remorse for (some of) the crap she did. He said to my dh recently that he now realizes what he and his wife did to me and knows that it was unforgivable. And truly it is. There is way too much history, way too many horrible memories there. I look at him and my eye starts to twitch. As he said, he's an example of how sometimes remorse is not enough -- sometimes, you can go too far down a path and there is no turning back.

 

[LuvOrlando]

I LOVE their son, and they seem to love their son, the rest of it can be fudged.

I started to write a list but bailed on it because it was stirring up a hornets nest. Let's just say I have one but want to keep in buried as my Christmas gift to me

 

[deegack]

I tolerate them but my relationship with mil is going downhill fast. They treat my daughter very different then their other grandkids. They live about an hour away but fil could not make it to visit us when dd was born even though she was in the nicu and we weren't sure what would happen. Neither of them called or visited when she was back in the hospital for a week due to rsv at five months. However she has flown across country and now to Alaska at the drop of a hat to visit her other grandkids. She never calls me and the two times she has called me in the last Two year she lectured me. The first was when I was pregnant and on bedrest. I was lectured because my husband went to drop something off at their house and promise to turn around and be right back three hours max. After five hours I called and he was in the middle of running network cables for his father. He ended up down there for nine hours. Mil called the next day to lecture me about family and how we have to help them. Meanwhile I was I. And out of the hospital during the last three months of my pregnancy so if something happened j would have to drive myself to the er. I was lectured this year because I didn't return her one call she made to me on thanksgiving eve because I was getting dinner ready. Dh called her back but that was insulting to her. She also said she was going to just get dd a little stocking stuffer because dd has so many toys. Ninety percent of dd toys are hand me downs. Think little people not some elaborate toy room. But her other grandkids are getting multiple gifts.

 

[Owlpost23]

Absolutely adored my MIL-she passed earlier this year.Love my FIL,but don't see him a whole lot.DH has nine siblings-get along with them all very well.I think Peg Bracken said it best "Of all my husband's relatives,I like myself the best".

 

[Kitzka]

My in laws? I don't care for my mil. Partially because she is a controlling, manipulative witch and partially because she does not treat my DH (her son) like she treats her daughter or even her nephew and niece. DH did not go into a career fieldmthat she approved of (television production) and told him time and time again thatbhe would never get anywhere with the job and that when he failed she would not be there to support him in any way. There wad also the fact that during the 4 years DH and I were dating I was called 'the Asian girl' her son was dating. When we got married she left the wedding about 1/2 way through the ceremony and didn't come back until part way through the reception. we had DD very early on in our marriage, when DH told her 'she told him she was disappointed and had raised him better than that'.

FIL- he is a much nicer person but he supports MIL's ways and doesn't say anything when she make racist remarks about people's ethnicity or religion. So i like him but don't respect him.

They both love DD but I try to limit their interaction as they will say things to her about her being 1/2 Asian and not being raised in the 'proper' religion.

SIL is very sweet but she and I don't have much in common.

bil is also nice but again not a ton in common except for our disdain of MIL.

Lara

 

[cepmom]

my in-laws are the most wonderful, down-to-earth people, and they dote on my daughter. they would do anything for her, or us, for that matter. my family, on the other hand...a real can of mixed nuts. i'd do anything to get away from them.

haha...do we have the same families? I really like my Dh's family but my own....not so much

 

[sweetpea29488]

I Love my in-laws. They are great people and I'm proud to call them my mom and dad. I also have great bro and sis in-laws. I'm truely blessed.