Do you like your in-laws?

[Buckalew11]

I have a wonderful MIL who would do anything for me and my family. We have little in common except weboth love her son, our daughter and God. But she is a fine Chrstian woman and I am blessed to have her for a MIL.

My FIL died several years back and he was a wonderful, kind, loving man who we all miss terribly. I have a wonderful SIL and BIL. My SIL and I have had a few moments but we have both moved on and grown closer.

I have 2 BILs who married my sisters. I get along with both although one is divorcing my sister after 34 yrs. of marriage. He's on my bad list right now and I really need to find some way to forgive him. He's not sorry though as he is continueing forward and that makes it harder for me.

I feel lucky to have no in-laws from heck (except him).

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Mostly, yes. I consider them family.

There is one that irritates me...but I haven't figured out if it is me or her. She's the type that you just cannot tick off or you will feel her silence. Apparently that worked well for her growing up. And it took me a long time to clue into that.. Our personalities clash also. And I don't like how she treats my kids compared to her other nieces and nephew. She also judges my parenting from a childless perspective. That gets annoying. Despite all that, I do like that she can remain civil. Her wrath is more an internal thing and only those receiving it are aware of it. That gets annoying as well.

But I love my parents in law and the brothers and their wives are okay.

 

[mickeyboat]

Mine have both passed, but I loved them like my own parents. They were wonderful to my children and welcomed me into their family with great kindness. I miss them every day.

 

[worm761]

Boyfriend and I are not married but I will answer anyway.
My side:
SIL- one I don't know well, we went to high school but she treats my brother wonderfully and he is still smitten after 14 years so I figure she can't be that bad. The other one is loved by all in the family. We will miss her if she leaves us which she might since my brother seems to be a lying cheat.
BIL- if he wasn't married to my sister I wouldn't like him. He treats her like crap but she takes it so it is her fault. But he also treats the kids like crap and his daughter is treated differently than my niece and nephew. This I have a problem with. All kids are equal. I can't believe that she puts up with it.
My dad- well boyfriend must love him since he lives with us.

His side:
FIL/step MIL- he has a bad relationship with his dad from childhood. I like them both and we both love step MIL. I keep explaining that he is an adult and needs to let go. He is a good grandfather and includes my son (not boyfriends) in everything.
MIL/step FIL- well, his mother informed us over the summer that me and my family do NOT matter. That the only one she cares to see is our DD and doesn't care if we come to visit as long as she gets to see DD. She only (barely) treats my son the same because Boyfriend insists. So yeah, I don't like her much. Oh, and when I am there, her favorite topic is his ex wife. Funny, since she didn't like her either.
His brother and sister- I don't really know well enough to have an opinion on. I love their kids though.

We live in Florida. My family is in Ohio and his is in New York. Thankfully, we don't have to put up with them often.

 

[Handbag Lady]

We're just different.

We're pleasant and I'm sure there is many instances of tongue-biting on both sides.

 

[tink20]

My MIL is wonderful, a very sweet lady and loves DS dearly. Her husband, (married her when DH was an adult, his dad is deceased) he gets on my nerves sometimes. He is fine to us. Somedays he is very friendly and other times he doesn't say two words. He is like one of those 1960's husbands, DH's mom waits on him, she fixes his plate, brings him his drink. One time, he said, "this tea has too much ice in it" I would have dumped it on him.

DH, gets along with my parents, we have actually went on two vacations with them. (one being WDW) They only get on my nerves, when they argue with each other over stupid things.

Now, my first MIL, (my DD's grandma) is horrible. She had me crying on my wedding day and the day DD was born(she got mad at me because I wouldn't let her in the delivery room to video tape the birth). I am so glad she is not my MIL anymore. She is the kind of person that you can never please. (so is her son)

Sometimes I feel like the siblings(on both sides) only call when they want something. But we all love each other and get along.

 

[BriarfoxinWA]

We live 20 miles away and you would think it were 1500 miles. I can count the number of times they have been to visit us on one hand.

Do we have the same in-laws? Mine actually live about 45 miles away but we only see them a few times a year. I love my MIL & FIL to pieces but my SIL... not so much. They've actually vacationed with us a couple of times now, we have another trip planned this spring to Reno and we have alot of fun with them. Provided of course SIL and nephew aren't around. The difference in how they treat her son and my kids is pretty evident. My older DS can't believe how spoiled his cousin is and the things his grandparents let him get way with.

 

[WDWBarb]

I only met my FIL a few times before he passed away, so I didn't really know him (and he wasn't my FIL at the time). My MIL was an amazing person and I absolutely adored her. When she got sick and we spent all day/every day together, she also became my best friend. I miss her and regret that she missed seeing her first grandchild (my DD) by only a few weeks. She would have been the most awesome grandmother.

She was 49 and I was 25 when we lost her, but had I met her without marrying her son, I still would have wanted to be her friend.

 

[JessicaR]

Love my MIL and FIL when he was alive. Love 1 BIL and truly can not tolerate either of my SIL's. UGH!!

 

[LUCiD]

If this one free-loading jerk becomes my cousin-in-law... I think I might drop my pacifist ways for a little bit... (Not being mean, 90% of my family agrees with me.)

 

[Mrs. M. Mouse]

I loved my FIL very much. He was the sweetest kindest guy you could know. Unfortunately he passed on this past summer and will be thoroughly missed! I never got to meet my MIL as she passed when my DH was just a child.

I have never understood all the MIL and FIL problems until I met my sister's IL's lol...they're "interesting" folks for sure

 

[okeydokey]

Not so much. We are completely different with opposite views on pretty much everything. I mostly stay quiet to keep the peace, but they are very closed minded, racist people who see things only in terms of black and white. I have no respect for them.

 

[luvmy3]

Yes, I get along with my IL's, never had any problems with them.

 

[manning]

In the beginning I didn't get along with my MIL. I am half german decent and she was polish who wasn't treated well be the germans in germany during WW2. In the end we worked things out.

In a way it was strange. We had her in hospice and the last night as we were leaving in the lobby I realized I left something in the room that I would not normally leave. I went back to get it. Out of the blue I sat down and held her hand before leaving. That night she died.

 

[MinnieTink]

I like....that my inlaws live in a different state.

 

[luvsJack]

Dh has 5 brothers and one sister plus his mom and dad. My "inlaws" consist of mil, fil, 6 sils and 6 bils.

I LOVE my mil and fil--we are from different worlds and have very different outlooks on life, very different values; but they have treated me like a daughter and my ds's like grandchildren from day one.

Dh's sister I love. We are very close and get along very, very well.

All of his brothers and I get along well. The only differences we have ever had was a difference of opinion in relegious beliefs (even though we are all the same relegion), but it just makes for a lively debate and a hug at the end.

Now, there are 5 other sils. Two I love, one I like, one I tolerate and one I ignore. They may exchange places at any time!

The thing about dh's family is that once you marry into that family you become part of the family not just an "inlaw".

I try very hard to treat my dils the same way, but I have a new found respect for my mil now that I am a mil too.

 

[Disney Doll]

I did get along well with my in-laws/ My late DMIL was a big hearted woman. She could also be "tough"...she was quite strong-minded about the way things were suppsoed to work, so that caused a few dust-ups, but in general, we got along just fine.

I loved my late DFIL too. He always used to tell me I was his favorite DIL. I used to say "But I'm your only DIL". And he'd say "But even if you weren't you'd still be my favorite".

DH has 3 sisters...1 is great and she is the one who lives closest to me thank God. The other one is nice, but can be a bit kooky, but she's OK. The other one is Satan.

My brother's wife, I love. She's great and has been good to my brother for over 20 years...and my brother is sometimes no prize, despite what our mother thinks!

 

[Hemlock]

I really like my in-laws. They are super kind, generous and loving. My only complaint is that they are not involved with their grandchildren very much. They live a few minutes away from all of their grandchildren and they rarely see any of them. My SIL says it's because they don't want to impose. They do have 22 grandchildren, so it would be difficult to see them all regularly, but I would like them to make more of an effort to have a relationship with my children (and their other grandchildren).

 

[MariDisney]

No. Every conversation with them is them name-dropping about who they know and how they can special treatment/discounts/whatever every where they go. If you've done it they've done it better. If you're going they've gone twice, etc. My DH has lived with me since 2003. We're about 2 hours from them. They don't seem to understand you can drive both ways on the highway. They have yet to darken the door of my home. I have a DD from a previous marriage and we're both treated like second class citizens. We'll spend about 4 hours with them on New Year's Day. I'll have a couple glasses of wine and hope the time passes quickly.

 

[rie'smom]

My FIL was stern and not a warm person at all but I got along with him ok. We both liked to read and we both loved history so we had great discussions. I was sadder when he died than my husband or his brothers and sisters were.

MIL is the sweetest woman. I'm crazy about her.

My parents are a little nuts. Mom is manipulative- think Marie Baronne from Everybody loves Raymond. Daddy goes along to get along.