Do you like your in-laws?

[figaromeetsmarie]

Inspired by the "In-laws Grrrr thread"......Do you like your in-laws? Why or why not?

It seems like there are so many posts about MIL's this time of year lol

 

[mjkacmom]

I love all of my inlaws a lot, but my FIL is probably one of the kindest people on this planet - absolutely an amazing person. DH's sisters are also wonderful, too, as is his mom.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

Yes, and my FiL is the ideal grandfather.

 

[Pakey]

No I don't really care for my in-laws but I don't complain about them either. I've been married a long time and I am just very different than they are. We have polar opposite beliefs, political viewpoints, interests, etc. We are respectful towards each other; after all we love the same person (my husband). There has never been any overt drama but my husband tries to keep conversations on neutral topics.

Several of my husband's nieces are great and I do enjoy their company. Usually at a family gathering, I try to stick with them and their spouses and keep my distance from my parents in law and brothers/sisters in laws.

 

[MomRN]

I used to adore my MIL and respect my step-FIL. A couple of years ago there was an affair, and an on and off again relationship. Now I think my step-FIL is a piece of crap and my MIL has changed so much... I still love her but she is a completely different person.

My FIL and step-MIL are okay. We really don't see them very often.

My BIL/SIL are awesome. My SIL is the type of person that will do anything for anyone within reason. We don't see them very often either.

 

[Robinrs]

Love all of them except my sister's husband.

 

[metalis4ever]

My FIL is awesome but I definitely have a Wicked Step-MIL. Let me list the ways...

-She planned a surprise wedding shower for my DW and didn't invite her real Mother.
- She wore a white veil at our wedding because my DW didn't (we did not get married in a church).
- She said to my DW when her Mother passed away (43 y.o.) and my DW wanted to take over her Mother's tradition of Christmas Eve dinner, "Oh I thought that since she was dead Christmas Eve was now mine, you need to get over it my Mother is dead too" (died at 89 y.o.) I'm sorry but that is just rude her mother was there for her for virtually her entire adult life my MIL passed away when my DW was 24 y.o, huge difference.
- The first year we were married we didn't have a lot of extra money so we gave her kids $10 gift cards for Christmas and she took offense to it and said that we didn't deserve our gifts so she decided not to give them to us.


So it's not that I don't like my Step-MIL, it's just that she is slightly psycho

 

[ilovepcot]

Love my in-laws.

 

[momof1princess]

my in-laws are the most wonderful, down-to-earth people, and they dote on my daughter. they would do anything for her, or us, for that matter. my family, on the other hand...a real can of mixed nuts. i'd do anything to get away from them.

 

[roscoepc1]

I treat mil with respect and honour her, I even love her, but I do not LIKE her one little bit! She's a sneaky ninja manipulator, immature, nervous, hand-wringy ball of dysfunction. I spend a LOT of time literally biting my tongue or finding an excuse to walk away so I can continue to treat her respectfully when I'm around her....

On the other hand, I will be just as sad as dh when fil passes...unfortunately, it's not too far off, as he's 87 (I mean "not far off" as in not having 20 or 30 years with him, not immediate b/c of illness or anything). He's crusty on the outside, but a marshmallow inside. He's someone I respect VERY much.

 

[bballmom56]

Yes, I do. We come from different worlds, but I have always been treated well. I very much admire my MIL's strength. She is amazing. She is 80, very independent and takes care of my basically invalid FIL by herself.

 

[Suellen]

Hmmm is this a trick question?

My in-laws are ... lets see... what's the word? Fine. I guess.

We live 20 miles away and you would think it were 1500 miles. I can count the number of times they have been to visit us on one hand.

When DD 2 was born they stopped by because they were someplace they consider close (it is actually farther than where the live timewise to get to our house) with out of town relatives..... not to see the baby but to "show off" our new house.

They pretty much keep to themselves and if they call I always ask DH is someone died. Sadly the answer is usually yes.

They've done nothing that makes me not like them.... but on the same side of that they have done little to make me like them either.

2 SILS are really nice. 2 BIL's are also nice enough (they are still young and not married) and then there is his grandmother who planned an intervention to stop him from marrying me.

So I guess I'm pretty neutral.

 

[wenrob]

Hmmn, it's a mix:

I considered DH's mother a friend. We had our moments but overall we got along well. I miss her.

Absolutely ADORE DH's mother's side of the family. Just down to earth good people.

Adore his Dad's oldest sister and his Dad's mother. I truly feel as if they are my grandmother and Aunt.

Get along well enough with DH's sibs. There have been moments with the two youngest but that's purely age difference there. (we're a good ten years+older then they are)

Sister's hubby-hated him in the beginning, love him as a brother now. I've come to accept what I cannot change.

Love my step bro's wife!

Despise my younger half brother's wife. Let's just leave it at that.

Get along okay with youngest half bro's wife. It's bro I have an issue with. Love him but he's a drama queen.

FIL, well, he's never liked me. Not sure why I've always been more then respectful. I think he's convinced I will one day leave DH high and dry. After almost 22yrs together I can see how he thinks that. *sarcasm* I've tried really, really hard over the years and even encouraged my DH to speak to him again after a huge rift between the two but his nastiness has spread to include our kids and well, we are done. (none of this man's children speak to him anymore)

FIL's twin sister-my only issue is her making up excuses for FIL and enabling him to treat people badly. I'm pretty sure she doesn't like me either but she plays nice to stay in touch with the kids. I'm cool with that.

 

[minniecarousel]

I think they would have been wonderful in-laws. My husband's mother died before we were married and his father was in a convalescent hospital and passed away around our 2nd Anniversary.
I used my mom as an example of how to be a supportive mother-in-law. I live in fear of being "Marie Barone"! I love my daughters-in-law and wouldn't dream of being intrusive.

 

[FlightlessDuck]

I love my mother in law almost as much as I love my own parents. My father in law is really a step-father in law. We get along well, but the age difference is so much he is more like a grandfather-in law.

I love my sister-in law, although she gets on my nerves a lot. We don't see eye to eye on a lot of things, and she made some bad decisions in the past that I overreacted to. I dislike her ex-husband but I like her current finance.

My wife's other siblings I like well enough, but I don't see any of them very often.

 

[LovetheMouse12302]

I love my mil. It started out really rough but eventually we put our differences aside and agreed to get along for DH and future grandkids. Seems as though once we had DS we became close and now I'd even consider her a friend, it's nothing for us to chat on the phone for 3 hours. She even prefers to talk to me over DH. I was blessed with good in laws.

 

[MiniGirl]

I love my in-laws. Actually, they aren't my dh's blood relatives. Dh's bio father left them when he was just a toddler. His mother met and married this man who raised my dh as his own son. After he had grown and moved out, dh's mother died. His step-dad remarried. Dh and I have been together almost 20 years, and all this happened before I met him. So... the people I call my in-laws are actually my dh's step-dad and his step-dad's 2nd wife. However, they have always treated all of us very well. Seriously, I only wish they lived closer so we could see them more.

 

[minkydog]

Inspired by the "In-laws Grrrr thread"......Do you like your in-laws? Why or why not?

Meh. Not really. I don't hate them or anything, but I know that if I were not married to their brother/son i would probably never speak to them again, simply because we have nothing in common and very little to talk about. MIL has been a completely self-centered alcoholic ever since i've known her(over 30 years) and SIL is silly, superficial dimwit. She's 57, so i don't think that's going to change. I don't have any trouble getting along with them and we never fight. They just aren't my cup of tea, and i suspect they feel the same about me.

 

[C.Ann]

They're deceased now, but I absolutely loved them - and they loved me.. I'm constantly amazed by some of the IL threads I read here.. Both my ex and my late DH got along very well with my parents - and everyone here knows the very close relationship that my Dson-in-law and I have.. He also adored my late DH and would have (and basically did) do anything for him..

I don't know.. Maybe we were all just a lucky bunch of people.. However we managed to pull it off, I thank God every day..

 

[JimR24]

Let me start this with my favortie joke - Want to the know the difference between in-laws and outlaws? Outlaws are wanted.

My in-laws are really nice people but can be smothering. Do I hate them, no. Do I wish they lived a further away - hell YEAH! The pop-overs after a long day of work make me want to jam a pen in my eye.

I like to say my FIL can be the life and death of the same party. Enough said.