Do you like when people just 'pop in'?

[rbuzzotta]

My door is always open. If the house is a mess, so be it!! If I am not dressed and in pj's, I go up and change................

It doesn't bother me at all...............but then again, it doesn't happen all that often anyways..............most family and friends call!! But if they happen to be in the neighborhood then by all means pop in!!

If I had a sick child or was sick myself then I would have to send the person away...............otherwise, everyone is welcomed at my home!!!

 

[poohtown]

I refuse to let people in if they just drop in! My in-laws used to do this all the time although I told them to call first. One day, my fil walked into the house (they just open the door and come in) while my husband and I were...well you know... and not in the bedroom. That was the last straw. I tell everyone they have to call at least 15 minutes before they come over and if they don't I am not responsible to entertain!!!

 

[Pooh67_68]

No I don't like when people just pop in. Now that we live in a gated community they can't.

 

[sm4987]

No pop-ins. That really makes me angry. I would never do that to someone else and hate when it's done to me.

 

[sue1013]

I don't mind drop ins at all. My friends, family any of my kids friends all are always welcome in my home. If the house is a mess oh well, I hope they are there to see me not inspect my house.

 

[lulugirl]

Originally posted by epcotfan
If you can't be bothered to make some prior arrangements so I can prepare for your visit, then I can't be bothered to open the door.

.....my thoughts exactly! (especially if it's MIL)

 

[mickeyfan1]

No one knows where I live, and I have no family in the state or even with in driving distance, and I know no one except my realtor, so I don't have to worry about drop ins. I only ever had it happen once many years ago, the FIL and SMIL dropped in on Chritmas Eve and MIL was there. It was a nasty divorce, but they were the uncomfortable ones, not me.

 

[minniepumpernickel]

I don't mind if it's a friend, or someone that I'm comfortable with. I hate when those religious people drop by unannounced. I always try to act like I'm not home to scare them away!

 

[jipsy]

Doesn't bother me at all. I grew up in a very close family and we all lived close by and popped in and out of each other's houses all the time.

People aren't coming to see how clean your house is, they are coming to visit with YOU.

 

[Serena]

I hate it too. And people do it all the time. I have to keep my door locked too or they will come in. I figure if they come over without calling first, then what they see is what they get.

Of course, last week an old friend came over, and I was in the shower. I step out of the shower and realize the bathroom door had been opened by my dog. I realize this at the same time I realize I am seeing the friend looking in the window of the front door, searching my front room for ????. I don't think he saw me, but I saw him. I slammed the bathroom door shut and never did answer the door. I was running late for work and didn't have time to chit chat.
Why do people do that???

 

[tonyswife]

The only person that ever does this is my MIL. And honestly, I am always grateful for the extra pair of hands. When she pops in I'll say something like, "Can you hold the baby while I take a quick shower or empty the dishwasher?" Of course, Gramma is always happy to hold the baby. Besides she used to live here...for about 9 months after she sold her house but while she was waiting for her new house to be built so she has seen all of us in various states of undress and has seen my house at it's very worst. She knows that with a 2 year old and an infant that my house will not always be perfect. She's a good MIL anyway, so, no I don't mind when she pops in, I like to talk to her. It would not bother me if it were my parents either, but they live far away so that would never happen.

For other people, I guess it would bother me if my house was messy or I was not dressed properly.

If a sales person rings the doorbell, I don't answer the door. That's a safety issue, many marketing companies hire violent ex-felons to sell magazines and stuff. If I'm not expecting some kind of service person, I do not answer. I look out the blinds to see who it is and walk away if I don't want to talk to them. I don't care if they know I'm home, I'm, under no particular obligation to talk to them.

 

[kadaten]

Originally posted by sue1013
I don't mind drop ins at all. My friends, family any of my kids friends all are always welcome in my home. If the house is a mess oh well, I hope they are there to see me not inspect my house.

And my friends know this, so they do come by unexpected. And they KNOW that the house won't be tidy! With my DD and DS, you have to plan well ahead to have a tidy house! If they catch me early in my pj's...no biggie....they're all frumpy anyway....long pants and t-shirt type....4 different sets of Pooh and some floraly ones .....I'm frequently in pj's with friends...mine are all really lounge-wear types! If we're in the middle of something, I say so but invite them to join in/help out/just sit around and talk while we finish up.

BUT, I know most people aren't as welcoming as I am, so whenever I intend to stop by, I try to call first. The only exception would be if it's someone whose number I don't have in my phone and I'm already on the road. Then I knock, apologize for not calling, and say why I'm there (Wanna come to the park with us? Wanna get some lunch? or whatever) and make sure I don't look like I want to be invited in. If they're game to join me, I wait on the porch or in the car unless they insist I come in. I came to see them, not their house! If I'm intending to visit at their home, I wouldn't do that without calling first, since I know many people don't like it.

 

[mommytotwo]

I hate it when that happens. Espeically when my husband's friends do it. They expect to get served a meal at times, and what am I to do? If we are going out and you just come then what? My husband has these two friends that don't care if we are home or once that I was home and that he wasn't, and they would just come here. One of them wanted to come over and this was just after I had my daughter and my husband's family was going to fly in so we were going to the airport. His friend said that he was close to the house so he was tired and was going to the house to sleep and wait for us to return-hello we are not home, don't come yet. I told him out though about coming when we were busy and that I needed my space with our newborn, and he apologized. For the second friend, he comes takes what he wants from our garden at times and then tells us that he already came to the house while we are rushing to get home cause we are expecting him when he called at the last minute. This is totally unlike me, and to see what these guys do surprises me at times.
If it was my uncle that lives down the road that just comes, that's fine with me.

 

[totalia]

No, I insist that I am called ahead of time because there may be a chance that I just dont want to see people that day. Its much more polite to call me or risk me being in a very bad mood and acting it.

 

[Sheree Bobbins]

My family and in-laws are so considerate. Not once in 20 years of marriage have they just dropped in. My friends are the same! Call me Mrs. Lucky.

 

[CindysGusGus]

I cant stand it...My family always calls first but DH is from a really small town where people just drop in. I remember when we first got married and we were living in our apt. his cousin came over and we were on our way to an appointment. He just sat and watched TV and would not leave. I had to be rude and force him out. He was planning on staying as we left! Not something I am ever comfortable with. I have friends that I would feel more comfortable leaving in my house than parts of DH's family.

 

[Lanshark]

I hate it and most people I know are considerate enough not to do this. In return I never just drop in on anyone either.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by poohtown
I refuse to let people in if they just drop in! My in-laws used to do this all the time although I told them to call first. One day, my fil walked into the house (they just open the door and come in) while my husband and I were...well you know... and not in the bedroom. That was the last straw. I tell everyone they have to call at least 15 minutes before they come over and if they don't I am not responsible to entertain!!!

Sounds like you were entertaining! LOL! Oops. So, did you just have the door unlocked and he walked in or do your inlaws have a key for emergencies? Just curious. My doors are ALWAYS locked.

 

[Lachesis00]

No I hate people popping in Maybe if they were a *best* friend I wouldn't mind but anyone else forget it.

 

[cati]

No, I dont like it either. She should have called you first. She was not being very considerate.