Do you know anyone who's house is so big they can't afford anything else?

Wow, Freyja!!! In Texas, you'd be in a very nice McMansion for that price. With lots of bathrooms. :rotfl:

Same here! A while back, I posted a picture of this big bed and breakfast that's up for sale now at $375,000 -- it's huge and extremely nice.

I don't believe there are any homes in my town for $800,000. Maybe if you built it... I do know of one "McMansion" that ran around $500,000. Some lottery winners bought it, but then couldn't afford to keep it.
 
Wow, Freyja!!! In Texas, you'd be in a very nice McMansion for that price. With lots of bathrooms. :rotfl:

I know. I was once looking into studying in Phoenix. I couldn´t believe the houses I could have afforded if I had bought one there when we sold our house in Denmark instead of buying one here.
 
Exactly. At least I'm upcounty so it's not quite as bad, but I do not know how people buying their first houses do it around here.

Yea...I think I'm going to be a renter here for a while. Housing here is way more expensive than I'm used to, but that's the ONLY thing that is more expensive here.
 
Freyja, here's what that buys in my neighborhood:

$879K in Flower Mound, TX

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5,064 square feet on 1 acre, backs up to park land (Corps of Engineers property), 5 bedrooms, 5 baths, media/theater room, Viking stove and other high-end kitchen appliances, dual staircases, wine cooler... the list goes on and on.
 

Freyja, here's what that buys in my neighborhood:

$879K in Flower Mound, TX

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Back yard
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Outdoor kitchen
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Family room
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Study
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5,064 square feet on 1 acre, backs up to park land (Corps of Engineers property), 5 bedrooms, 5 baths, media/theater room, Viking stove and other high-end kitchen appliances, dual staircases, wine cooler... the list goes on and on.


I´m on my way!!!
 
We've got McMansions out by us (I think of those as oversized suburban homes in a new development) that go for 500-700k. They're located on the fringes of the Chicago area since land is scarce anymore.

Those are bad enough, but what we're really lousy with are the Faux Chateaux or Starter Castles. Those are the ones where someone buys a lot (or two) in a quaint downtown, tears down the exisiting house, and builds a giant monster of a house that fills up the entire lot and comes with all the turrets, etc. Entire downtowns are being taken over by these things. Some are actually nice, but many display waaaay more money than taste.
 
We've got McMansions out by us (I think of those as oversized suburban homes in a new development) that go for 500-700k. They're located on the fringes of the Chicago area since land is scarce anymore.

Those are bad enough, but what we're really lousy with are the Faux Chateaux or Starter Castles. Those are the ones where someone buys a lot (or two) in a quaint downtown, tears down the exisiting house, and builds a giant monster of a house that fills up the entire lot and comes with all the turrets, etc. Entire downtowns are being taken over by these things. Some are actually nice, but many display waaaay more money than taste.

I used to live in on the Aurora, Naperville, Oswego line and I know what you mean.

What drives me nuts with the new $$$ developments that are going up out there is that there is NOTHING but houses. Hardly any trees or interest at all.
 
Wow, Freyja!!! In Texas, you'd be in a very nice McMansion for that price. With lots of bathrooms. :rotfl:
We moved here from TX and more or less knew what we were in for since we lived in Virginia before that, but were still in shock. I really miss the TX prices and wouldn't mind moving back there.


Yea...I think I'm going to be a renter here for a while. Housing here is way more expensive than I'm used to, but that's the ONLY thing that is more expensive here.
I didn't know that you were in Frederick. I'm up there fairly often to go to Costco since I don't like the Gaithersburg store.

Kathy, LOVE that house! :love:
 
I have to say I am really sad reading this. It seems like so many are looking down on others that have bigger homes. Finding fault at an "empty" home. Perhaps they don't want to buy junk and are saving to buy something nice. Maybe they don't care about the same things you do. So does that make you better than them? I just get so sad when I see these kinds of "oh can you believe "they" threads" It really makes it clear how very judgemental the world is.
I don't care what kind of house you live in. If you are happy in it that works for me.
 
I don't see anyone really looking down on someone else for having a bigger house, as much as people pondering those who have different priorities. :)

There is some understandable angst about those who tear down smaller homes in historical or desirable urban areas and then build huge homes that don't fit the neighborhood. Those are the classic "McMansions" that I hear about here, and there's a lot of criticism of those in Dallas.

I know I've had times in my life when I've had more house than furniture. Everybody's gotta start somewhere, and we all make different financial decisions and have different timelines. :)
 
I don't see anyone really looking down on someone else for having a bigger house, as much as people pondering those who have different priorities. :)

I have to respectfully disagree. The op is not the kind of stuff I was talking about. She posted it as a "different priorities" kind of topic. I don't want to single out the ones that I feel took it to the judging side.
But imho when someone talks about the choices others make as being foolish. Or I sure hope they don't forclose on it. Those are the types of comments that make me sad.
 
the neighborhood we moved from-this was pretty much the norm for allot of buyers. since there were cc&r's that were enforced that required window coverings (and they specified what they could not be like cardboard or sheets) that seemed to be the first priority on allot of purchacer's part.

now i understand that there are priorities on people's part-but it just seems common sense that if you are purchasing a home you should at least be able to afford beds for at bare minimum your children who will habitate that home (allot of the homes when they went up for sale had to have furniture rented because the owners still had the kids sleeping on a lone mattress in the bedrooms)-i also think if you have to start selling off your wedding gifts within a couple of months of moving in in order to make the mortgage payment-perhaps the purchase of the home should have waited a while (ours and another neighborhood were popular among garage sale'rs because of the availabliity of high end items being sold at rock bottom prices-and when it's just a couple of china place settings being sold off every month or so, you know it's not a duplicate gift-it's selling off the registry stuff you wanted in order to make the mortgage payment:sad2:
 
However, there is very little furniture. When you talk, your voice echoes throughout the house. I could list all the items in the house in this post and I wouldn't have to number past 20. For example, the master bedroom has a bed. That's it. Nothing else. If you want to put something down you set it on the bed or the floor.

The walls are all white with no pictures or paintings hanging anywhere. There are no blinds or curtains in the house on any windows (I think I would have put up curtains before buying a bed).

This relative has lived in this home over 3 years. Would you ever live like that, or have you lived like that?
I know two people like that - DH and me :)

We bought our first home in November 2003. We probably had about 19 pieces of furniture to fill a 3,500 square foot house. Most of the rooms were empty. We did at least put redi-shades up on all the windows for privacy ;)

We lived like that for over two years. I'm sure many people thought we were house-poor. We weren't - we just chose to save up money and furnish the living room, dining room, family room, entry way, breakfast nook, and kitchen all at the same time, and in cash. I will say, if I had a dollar for every time somebody would come over to the house for the first time and say, "oh, did you just move in?", we could have furnished the house a year sooner! :rotfl: A lot of times people would ask us why we didn't just go to Rooms to Go and finance something or get a piece at a time. Frankly, we really didn't want Rooms to Go furniture (no offense meant to anybody who loves them; we've had bad experiences with the quality) and DH and I don't have the artistic talent to go get one piece of furniture at a time and make it all look good and pulled together the way we wanted.

At the end of 2005, we hired an interior designer to come up with a plan for the rooms and to find furniture. It took a year to fully plan and execute the new design, and we love it. We had 30 pieces of new furniture delivered on the same day. We also added travertine floors, and a built-in and ceiling detail in the family room. The bedroom's still pretty sparse - we have the bed, plus our lovely Target bookshelves, TV stand, and nightstand. We figure that'll be the next big project, so why put a lot of money into throwaway furniture?

In the end, I'm really glad we did it the way we did. DH and I debated about buying the big house right away or going with a starter home like all our friends. We decided we'd rather go to a house that we really felt like we could stay in for a while instead of a home we'd know was temporary and wouldn't want to invest money or time in. We were very lucky that we bought at the time we bought - interest rates were still low and it was before the summer when the market went really nuts down here.

So, while I don't know your relative's particular situation, there can be some good reasons to live in a practically empty house for a few years. It all depends on your priorities and goals.
 
I have to say I am really sad reading this. It seems like so many are looking down on others that have bigger homes. Finding fault at an "empty" home. Perhaps they don't want to buy junk and are saving to buy something nice. Maybe they don't care about the same things you do. So does that make you better than them? I just get so sad when I see these kinds of "oh can you believe "they" threads" It really makes it clear how very judgemental the world is.
I don't care what kind of house you live in. If you are happy in it that works for me.

Frankly I agree with you that I don't care what kind of house anyone lives in. But do you honestly think that people who own a 5000 SF house that has a bed only in the master bedroom, a kitchen table in the kitchen, and some sparse furniture in the family room do that because they want to live simply? No, they are in that predicament because they bought more house than they could afford.

Interesting story...when we were refinancing our mortgage back in the days of 5% interest rates, an inspector had to come and look at our house to value it. I live in a very basic Cape Cod style house...about 1800 SF. He walked in and the first word sout of his mouth were "Wow, a house with furniture!" He went on to say that he had looked at 6 other houses that day, much larger than mine, which were very sparsely furnished, with the owners refinancing and taking out more money so that they "would finally have the money to furnish the thing". And some of these people had lived in these houses long enough to build up a fair amount of equity so they could refinance for more $$$.

I guess for some people it's important to have the McMansion so they have the appearance of having money. Unfortunately, if they invited anyone inisde their McMansion, they'd have no place to sit!
 
honestly, I have no window treatments because DH and I can't agree on anything.

I was wondering who would admit it first :rotfl2:. My DH and I renovated our home and added onto it becasue we did not really want to move. Now we cannot agree on how to furnish the living areas. After two years we agreed on a couch and chair, but only because the old one would not last one more minute. Then DH went into mourning and kept the old thing for another week before we got rid of it. We spent a lot on custom cellular shades and we have not put curtains up yet.

Honestly, we are happy the way we are, don't really care what anyone else thinks, tend to keep things forever once we purchase them so we want to like them a lot when we finally decide. And decision making and agreeing on furnishings are not our strong points :confused3

I never wonder too much about how people furnish (or don't furnish) their homes because I bet there are a lot who are wondering about us :lmao:. When there is a Holiday or gathering though, I always have plenty of room to set up tables and chairs and seat everyone and our home is where our families seem to congregate :thumbsup2
 
I guess for some people it's important to have the McMansion so they have the appearance of having money. Unfortunately, if they invited anyone inisde their McMansion, they'd have no place to sit!

I'm not sure that I agree with you. I cleaned for some people years ago who had bought and restored a home in an historical district. At first much of the main living area was not furnished. They were searching and saving for period antiques to furnish this part of the home, which would be what most people would see when they entered their home. They had the money and when they found what they wanted they spent way more money than if they walked into Ethan Allan. In fact some of their accent pieces cost more than my living room set. Their choice to wait for what they wanted.

My DH and I could afford to refurnish our entire home but have chosen to wait until we find exactly what we want. We waited a long tome to renovate, and I 'm sure that would cause comment but waited so that we did not have to compromise on what we wanted, and not finance the renovation.

Your friends may be like us, we pay cash for most of our major purchases and don't mind waiting. We can take on more debt but choose not to. People all have their own motivation for buying or not, it is personal and not all decisions evolve becasue of lack of funds.
 
I have to say I am really sad reading this. It seems like so many are looking down on others that have bigger homes. Finding fault at an "empty" home. Perhaps they don't want to buy junk and are saving to buy something nice. Maybe they don't care about the same things you do. So does that make you better than them? I just get so sad when I see these kinds of "oh can you believe "they" threads" It really makes it clear how very judgemental the world is.
I don't care what kind of house you live in. If you are happy in it that works for me.
Well I know someone who has a house who is way too big and they have furnished it with JUNK! And NEW junk!!!! They've been in it for a few years now and it is no different now than when I first saw it. Some people want the huge home.

This home is rediculous. They are middle class people who can't even afford a good daycare (they had to pull their kids out of the cheap one since they were being neglected and now have no idea what to do). The house has a 1700 sq ft play room
Yes, a 1700 sq ft PLAYROOM

All the bedrooms have nothing in it but are enormous. In a regular sized house it would look normal, but in this one, it looks rediculous.

They have cheapy sofas in their family room and use a folding card table there as well. The living room has one nice love seat and then a crappy love seat and that is it.

It's rather sad that they wasted all this money on such a huge house (and I mean rediculously HUGE) and have no money left for anything else.

Lack of window treatments don't bother me. We live in an average home and can't decide what we want in two rooms yet.

It's a beautiful home, but they have made it obvious they are living well above their means.
 
Try the reverse and see if it sounds offensive.

Know people with a small home on a tiny lot- full of stuff. Stuff all over the place. Crammed into the basement. Closets are packed. Stuff under the beds. Cars in the driveway and on the street because they can't squeeze their car into the garage. Would you think? Gosh why don't they stop buying all this junk and save some money and they could move into a bigger place to house all their junk.

Maybe I am sensitive because I live in a big house with no window treatments(well I have some in the dining room) I don't like curtains. I think they close up a house. So I chose to not have any. I would like to have nicer stuff in my family room but with 2 dogs and 4 kids right now I am not wasting my money on something that will get destroyed. I guess I think there are lots of reasons why people don't have a cluttered house and not having enough money is only one of the many reasons. Maybe they don't want extra seating because they don't want guests?:rotfl2: We tried that for awhile. Didn't work.

Oh and I don't see investing in real estate as wasting money. Their investment in their home has a better chance of appreciating than their furniture.
 
I bought a fairly big house last year. My living room would cause some people to talk but it isn't worth it to finance the furniture we want now. I am saving to do the room (hopefully) all at once and I want to wait til my youngest gets a little older. I have an old loveseat and chair but no sofa...and I like it that way. We use the living room as a playroom and have lots of space to play in.

My house echoes a little too, but we have high ceilings and I refuse to pack the house with furniture to get rid of the echo. I love all the openness and space.

ETA: the only curtains are in the bedrooms for privacy. I have chosen not to do window treatments. We hvae solar screens on the windows that keep people from seeing in during the day. I hate mini blinds of any kind and don't want to cover my large, pretty windows with drapes.
 
Try the reverse and see if it sounds offensive.

Know people with a small home on a tiny lot- full of stuff. Stuff all over the place. Crammed into the basement. Closets are packed. Stuff under the beds. Cars in the driveway and on the street because they can't squeeze their car into the garage. Would you think? Gosh why don't they stop buying all this junk and save some money and they could move into a bigger place to house all their junk.

Maybe I am sensitive because I live in a big house with no window treatments(well I have some in the dining room) I don't like curtains. I think they close up a house. So I chose to not have any. I would like to have nicer stuff in my family room but with 2 dogs and 4 kids right now I am not wasting my money on something that will get destroyed. I guess I think there are lots of reasons why people don't have a cluttered house and not having enough money is only one of the many reasons. Maybe they don't want extra seating because they don't want guests?:rotfl2: We tried that for awhile. Didn't work.

Oh and I don't see investing in real estate as wasting money. Their investment in their home has a better chance of appreciating than their furniture.

I think you are being WAY to sensitive!!! The person in a house that is busting at the seams needs to rethink their spending before there is not place for them to enter the home.
 












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