do you hold a

[JasonLyons]

grudge long, I try to stay mad but I just cant do it

 

[scarlett873]

honestly...depends on the grudge!

 

[Tony-NJ]

and will if I feel the need. I really can be quite nasty if I wanna be.

 

[browneyes]

Some people I can easily forgive and forget the anger if I know the person is truly sorry. Others I can easily hold a grudge with forever to preserve myself from futher being hurt by them because of how I know they truly are inside.

 

[Lisa L from MI]

I am VERY stubborn and can hold a grudge forever!!! In fact, it has been 8 months already that I haven't spoke to my sister....(long story). We see eachother at family gatherings...I am not "rude" but just "graciously" ignore her.

 

[jipsy]

Lisa that's so sad. If she died tomorrow, how would that make you feel? Is whatever you are mad at her for really worth it?

 

[dizneenut]

I am very, very stubborn and could hold a grudge forever.

 

[honeywolf7]

It depends on who it is and what they did....If it's bad enough and someone I don't care that much for in the first place, I can hold it for a long time. If it's not that bad or someone that I truly care about, I drop it pretty quickly.

 

[newmousecateer]

Someone would have had to hurt me very, very deeply for me to hold a grudge.

 

[CathyCanada]

Ok, Jason, I was going to ask this very question today, this scares me!

I forgive, but I don't forget. Life is too short to stay angry for long. Especially if it is something that in the grand scheme of things, is REALLY not important.

CC

 

[browneyes]

Originally posted by WebmasterCathyCanada
Ok, Jason, I was going to ask this very question today, this scares me!

I'm beginning to think you are really Jason, CC. Do you eat sandwiches in any non-traditional locations?

Marilyn, me too.

 

[Amy]

I agree with browneyes - if I know the person is truly sorry, I don't hold a grudge. In fact, one of my closest friends today is someone who I never thought I'd ever be close to.

However, if someone does something and I can tell he's not truly sorry (esp. if he refuses to apologize), I WILL hold a grudge, mostly for self-preservation: to remind me not to trust this person should I see him again.

 

[Serena]

It really depends on the circumstances.

Who it was, what it was, how hurt I was, how sorry they are, how many times the same thing happened.
I can and do easily forgive, but I can hold a grudge forever.

The other way around.
I want to know when someone is angry or hurt by me. I would do whatever I could to fix it. I hate it when someone is mad at me and I really hate it if I hurt someone.

 

[Kelsie]

I am very forgiving and sometimes feel like a Yo-Yo going back for more. But, when I reach the point of being hurt one too many times, I finally stop trying.

One thing I despise is someone who cut you off or is holding a grudge against you and didn't even bother to tell you why.

 

[p-nut]

It really depends on the situation. I am Italian And Irish and I can get real ugly when I get hurt. I can be pretty stubborn. I tend to think with my heart instead of my head and that can be bad.

 

[kinlaw6450]

No! ok, well it depends on the person...and the grudge

 

[preshi]

depends on who the grude is against... although even if I do get over it I almost always bring the wrongdoing back up in fights...

 

[ShuisFan584]

I can if I want to since I'm a very stubborn person. Just recently I was in a fight with my friend that I've been friends with for 10 years. It started in September and the whole thing was a big misunderstanding. We didn't talk to each other for 3 months, and I finally realized a couple days ago that I was being stupid and had to apologize. I didn't want to lose a friendship over something stupid. I hate getting into fights with people so most of the time I try to fix things up.

 

[EROS]

I never countenance discrimination or bigotry...........in RL or on the DIS ............ Others here do .........

 

[glo]

I can....Have not spoken to my Uncle and his wife in over 5 years, and have no inclination to start now. I can get mad quickly as I have a latin temper, but usually I cool down within a few days. BUT hurt someone I love and not care, and no way...you are on my you know what list.....