Do you hate your birthday? UPDATE

[Daisy62]

Wow what do the ones that have only had one or two"good" birthdays expect a bday to be? We don't go over the top with bdays but any bday I get to see the kids and have cake is perfect! I don't need a cruise or a diamond tiara to have a great bday. Health and family do it for me. What are you all wanting for a great bday? Lol

 

[bethbuchall]

Wow what do the ones that have only had one or two"good" birthdays expect a bday to be? We don't go over the top with bdays but any bday I get to see the kids and have cake is perfect! I don't need a cruise or a diamond tiara to have a great bday. Health and family do it for me. What are you all wanting for a great bday? Lol

Personally, I'm just looking for no more tragedies.

 

[MamaLema]

I HATE my birthday! It is a week after Christmas. Everyone has stuffed themselves silly at all those holiday parties and spent tons of money. Nobody wants to have a party and spend money a week after Christmas

 

[bethy]

Wow what do the ones that have only had one or two"good" birthdays expect a bday to be? We don't go over the top with bdays but any bday I get to see the kids and have cake is perfect! I don't need a cruise or a diamond tiara to have a great bday. Health and family do it for me. What are you all wanting for a great bday? Lol

Point taken, point taken.

I definitely don't expect all my bdays to be glamorous. Actually I don't expect or really want to celebrate any more of my bdays. I guess I was meaning that those two bdays were so over the top fabulous that I couldn't help but enjoy them a little. That's how much I hate my birthday. Definitely not expecting *anything* at all for future bdays.

Those 2 bdays just happened to fall during family vacations.

Oh, and my DH can't be bothered to get me a birthday cake - that takes way too much effort and planning on his part. Even when I ask for one. I have to get it myself or nada. Oh well.

 

[ronandannette]

"Age is just a state of mind. Don't ask me what state I'm in."

LOL - I'm at an age where most polite people don't ask, and if they do, I've decided to lie. Pretty sure I can still sell 45.

Presents and cake, what's not to love?

Well put! We love to celebrate; we'll celebrate practically anything - it makes life more fun. I do usually plan my own birthday celebration though, as I do for the rest of the family. Sometimes it's just lunch/dinner for DH and I and other years it's a bit more elaborate.

 

[momtosam]

Birthday hater here-
Well, the big day is tomorrow. Since the time I've posted this we've had the attacks on Paris and, more importantly (to me) a high school classmate passed away unexpectedly at the age of 42 yesterday :-( I've decided to embrace and enjoy (try to) this birthday this year. The alternative really is worse.

 

[Snowflakey]

I absolutely LOVE my birthday! Being diagnosed a few years ago with breast cancer at 44 - I welcome and am thankful for each birthday I have!! I love life!!!

 

[nkereina]

Also not a birthday fan here. I've read articles in the past that people subconsciously become depressed and have hormonal changes around their birthdays which can cause you to get weird emotional during that time of year, and I think that's what happens to me. I think people (myself included) also subconsciously set expectations when it comes to their birthday with wanting it to be fun and a good day, and when something goes awry, it sets them off or makes them sad. Similarly, if someone close to you forgets its your birthday that might make you feel sad too. Now that I'll be 30 on my next birthday, I also feel like the years of celebrating it have come to pass and look at it as just another day now!

 

[Kathryn Merteuil]

I absolutely hate my birthday. I do everything I can to hide it because I do not want people acknowledging it. I don't have anything against living...I just don't want people to know how long I have been around.

 

[BadgerGirl84]

I'm pretty indifferent to my birthday. The way I see it, the alternative is worse, so I embrace getting older! I have everything in life that I have ever wanted (good job, a DH, my beautiful daughter and another arriving in a couple weeks) so it's pretty easy right now to be appreciative for what I have. My birthday is 4 days after my 2 year old's birthday, and I am perfectly happy to be never having another big "to-do" for my birthday again, since we will be having a party for her around the same time for the years to come. We typically just go out for dinner with my parents and sister.

I actually get sad at my daughter's birthday...just because she is "growing up so fast." Haven't made it through either one of her Happy Birthday songs/blowing out the candles moments without crying! My 2 year old LOVES birthdays so I've asked DH to bring a small cake and birthday balloons to the hospital when he brings our daughter to visit her little sister for the first time (to celebrate her "birth day"--I'm preparing for the waterworks big time for that moment--I get teary just thinking about it!

I do tend to throw a bit of a party for DH's birthday in September, but only because his family hardly ever gets together and I like to take the opportunity for them to see each other at a birthday dinner we host for him.

 

[bjscheel]

I like mine alright. I tell people ever since I had DD17 two days before my birthday, mine has been overshadowed by hers. In another way, though, since we have a party around that time, maybe I do get more attention by having DD's birthday so close. DD14 was born 3 days before DH's birthday, so we both got upstaged All of our birthdays fall in 5 weeks, so now we just have one party mid-September and celebrate them all (along with a handful of extended family that also fall in that time period).

Like a PP, my grandpa had a 12/25 birthday. He was born in 1898 and he said there were no extra gifts for him at Christmas, for his birthday when he was a kid. I wonder what his siblings got at their birthdays other times of the year- probably not much anyway.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I like it because we go out and the birthday person picks the restaurant.

 

[indimom]

It's never been a major deal for me. My birthday is New Year's Eve so if I wanted I could really make it an event, but.... eh.
Typically it's a date night for DH and I. We go to dinner at a nicer restaurant and follow up with a new movie.

I can certainly understand some of the angst over birthdays close to the holidays though, if they were always treated like an after-thought. I appreciate that my family always treated my birthday as a separate event when I was growing up. The only drawback I ever had to a near-Christmas birthday was the fact that I had a closet full of winter clothes, and very limited summer clothes. lol.

 

[TipsyTraveler]

I love birthdays, just not my birth-date! I'm Dec. 8. As a kid I always had to have an "indoor" birthday party. In high school and college things were gearing up to exams and finals and no one could celebrate with me I also hated having a birhtday the same month as Christmas. Although my Dad (an athiest) would insist that the tree go up AFTER my birthday to separate the two. I also get "happy birthday/merry Christmas" gifts... really??? Even now it's hard to find a good time to go out for my birthday since December weekends fill up so fast! My family really does make the day special and we go out on my birthday. This year I get to go to WDW!!!

I'm Dec. 8, too. It's definitely a suck time of year to have a birthday, that's for sure. My best friend's is Dec. 19. We've both just given up on trying to squeeze birthday celebrations into an already overcrowded month.

 

[Bilberry]

I enjoy my birthday, which is at the end of May when the weather is consistently turning warmer! At least when I was living in the mid-west it was nice that time of year to be able to shed the heavy warm cloths and get outdoors in shorts and a tee.

 

[HelenePA]

I HATE my birthday! It is a week after Christmas. Everyone has stuffed themselves silly at all those holiday parties and spent tons of money. Nobody wants to have a party and spend money a week after Christmas

I can relate.. My bday is Dec 31... never gonna have a birthday party on that day..

 

[Kellykins1218]

I don't like the date, December 29th....I feel bad that my hubby has to buy me a Christmas and birthday gift so I dont ask for expensive things. I would like to celebrate a half year birthday in June but my family won't let me.

Our anniversary is 12/12, my birthday (which I love) is 12/18, and Christmas all within 2 weeks. My husband usually gets me something very nice for my annibirthmas gift

 

[Minnesota!]

What's to hate? I made it another year on this giant spinning ball....


I don't "allow" my husband or kids to buy me presents. Or cards. All I ask is for a simple "Happy Birthday" and maybe someone rub my back that night.

I figure if you have low expectations, you can never be disappointed. And, there are plenty of other days in the year that are disappointments...I am not going to allow "my day" to be one of them.

 

[Chelley00]

I figure if you have low expectations, you can never be disappointed. And, there are plenty of other days in the year that are disappointments...I am not going to allow "my day" to be one of them.

This is how I look at it. My husband is an amazing man but he sucks at gift giving or making holidays special. It's who he is. He's amazing every day of the year other than my birthday, Christmas etc

So now I plan my own thing. I go on a retreat with girlfriends. I go get a massage. Next year we are going to WDW. I don't expect anyone to do anything for me. If they do, I'm grateful. If not, oh well. I've got it