If not has it always been that way or just now that you are an adult?
Recently I have been more aware of my moms personality and looking back she has always been this way but over the last few months it has gone from somewhat annoying to me completely avoiding her when I can.
Every conversation turns into her putting others down to pat herself on the back. Her hypocrisy is nothing short of amazing.
She will judge others for exact thing she has done, or is doing (but fails to remember it or conveniently justifies her reasons for doing the same thing)and then in the same conversation mention how so and so is so blind because they have double standards! I try to change the subject but it always goes back to how great she thinks she is and how terrible, lazy, self centered, spoiled someone else is. Sometimes I am just at a loss for words.
She throws everyone under the bus, her sisters, her boyfriend, my boyfriend, my brothers girlfriend, her boyfriends daughter usually gets the brunt of it.
Any one that comes to her house or anyone she randomly meets at a party.
For example, this past weekend we went to my brothers for a Halloween party and my SIL's sister was there with her new boyfriend. After a 2 minute meeting with this man she gripes to me the next day about his job, what he was wearing, how much he spent on their costumes, and she didn't like his mouth (he said damn 1 time while we were there) yet HER boyfriend could make a sailor blush with his mouth! Thinking back on that I can kind of laugh at that double standard, but it gets old hearing it day in and day out.
Recently I have been more aware of my moms personality and looking back she has always been this way but over the last few months it has gone from somewhat annoying to me completely avoiding her when I can.
Every conversation turns into her putting others down to pat herself on the back. Her hypocrisy is nothing short of amazing.
She will judge others for exact thing she has done, or is doing (but fails to remember it or conveniently justifies her reasons for doing the same thing)and then in the same conversation mention how so and so is so blind because they have double standards! I try to change the subject but it always goes back to how great she thinks she is and how terrible, lazy, self centered, spoiled someone else is. Sometimes I am just at a loss for words.
She throws everyone under the bus, her sisters, her boyfriend, my boyfriend, my brothers girlfriend, her boyfriends daughter usually gets the brunt of it.
Any one that comes to her house or anyone she randomly meets at a party.
For example, this past weekend we went to my brothers for a Halloween party and my SIL's sister was there with her new boyfriend. After a 2 minute meeting with this man she gripes to me the next day about his job, what he was wearing, how much he spent on their costumes, and she didn't like his mouth (he said damn 1 time while we were there) yet HER boyfriend could make a sailor blush with his mouth! Thinking back on that I can kind of laugh at that double standard, but it gets old hearing it day in and day out.
I don't know what I would do without her!
I've just accepted that although she is in a much better situation now, she's a complainer at heart and the victim dance won't stop. I don't indulge it, I just walk away when it starts. Once in a while we have it out, but it's done and over with the next day.
