Hello from a fellow SAHM. This may come off as a bit sarcastic, but I truly don't mean it to be. It's just my story and how I know we can work as hard as we want but due to unforeseen circumstances, we can't break even EVER!
We too live off of one income right now but I did work full-time from the age of 19 and I am now 37. Oh, I might add that I didn't have much of a choice as my first husband decided to end his life prematurely in 1990 which came as a total surprise. My son was 14 months old. I lost my house and my car because his death was not accidental. My whole world just kind of crashed for awhile. However, I continued to work hard and live paycheck to paycheck. In 1993, I realized I was going nowhere fast so I went to college and became a teacher working as much as I could in the meantime and paying for daycare etc. along the way. It was just my son and I for 6 long years. In 1996, I found a good man who treated both me and my son very well. We married in 1999. We paid for our entire wedding on our own by the way. Things are still really tough at times. There are some months that are too long if you know what I mean. My husband is a VERY hard working man who works 51 weeks of the year. 6 days a week. We have been to Disney 3 times so far with another trip planned this year. A lot of people criticize us for doing this but we happen to love Disney and we save for two years each time we go. I try to plan the most cost-efficient trip that I can. These trips keep me going. On the off years we plan a a different less costly kind of trip like to a national park.
Within the last year, I quit teaching and I have stayed home with our daughter. She will start school this fall and I will probably go back to work this year as well at least part-time. The funny thing is, living on one income, we actually have more money. We are saving on daycare and gas and my clothing budget has gone down to minimum since I'm not teaching. I also don't have any of the extra expenses we had when I taught. If you are a teacher, you know which ones I mean unless you live in a very good district that pays for all of your classroom materials. I taught in SD and that is not the case here. Do I miss teaching? yes! But I wouldn't trade this year with my daughter for nothing in the world!
Anyway, I guess what I am saying is, I did work full-time for a long time and anyone who doesn't think that being a SAHM isn't working is obviously doing things way differently than I am. We are working, quite hard but the pay is just not always in the form we would like it to be in. For those moms out there that have done this for a long time. I have a lot of respect for you and I am pretty sure that your kids will really appreciate you someday if they don't already. There is NOTHING that beats time spent with your kids and family. You cannot ever get these years back.
Yes, we live beyond our means when we choose to go to Disney. That money probably could be going somewhere that will benefit us more in the future. My DH and I simply feel that the memories we create my going to Disney now when our daughter is still young, is priceless. I didn't mention my son because he is now 17, on the high honor roll at school, works part-time and is very active in the performance arts. He is also a really good kid with pretty awesome values. So I guess I didn't do too bad raising him so far. (I hope we are as lucky with my daughter who will be 5 this month.) However, my son has informed us this year that he is too old to hang with us at Disney again. As much as this breaks my heart, it makes me very thankful that we were able to take him the last three times when it was still cool for him to vacation with his family. If someone offered for me to trade all those memories in exchange for all the money we would have saved by not going those three years. I would have told them in no uncertain terms to leave and not let the door hit them on the way out.
Well, I think you get the idea of what I am trying to say. Some people do work (really hard) but still can't seem to break even. They live paycheck to paycheck and have to scrounge a bit here and there and have garage sales and things like that so they can go to Disney. There is nothing wrong with us. We are good people who deserve as much respect as anyone else.
Do I read these boards and wonder if I will ever be able to afford a 10 night stay or to stay deluxe at Disney, heck yeah!! However, I really feel that if I had to choose between deluxe and a couple extra nights, I would take the extra nights and stay at good old POFQ! Someday, when the kids are on their own, my DH and I will then stay for a night or two at the Polynesian. Hey, a girl can dream right??
I hope that I did not offend anyone here. I didn't mean to. I just wanted to share our story. I don't want anyone ever saying that we don't earn or deserve our trips to Disney. We do!! I think there are a lot of us out there on the DIS. Hard working, blue collar, middle class families unite!! Ok, time for me to do some good old laundry
and think about supper for my fantastic family.
Have a Disney Day, Renee