Do you agree with this?

[KrysiaG]

I agree with all of them for the most part. Maybe I would have reworded some of them, but generally speaking - yes. I agree.

 

[NikitaZee]

I think the schools have plenty of educational issues with which to concern themselves.

My relationship with my husband or any of the other stuff on that list is none of their damn business.

Marital advice from my kids' school - no thank you!

 

[DebIreland]

This reminds me of the old books that I collect to be a good wife and mother, that has hints on housekeeping and how to drink like a gentleman.

I hope you're ironing your husband's shirts while reading this thread.

 

[FlightlessDuck]

I don't get it. How is any of that going to make a child "happy"?

You know what made me happy as a child? Candy and TV.

This is a list of steps on how to be a good parent, which means sometimes making your child UNhappy.

 

[Goofyluver]

I think the schools have plenty of educational issues with which to concern themselves.

My relationship with my husband or any of the other stuff on that list is none of their damn business.

They're not asking.

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Only change I'd make to the list is on #1. I don't have a husband, I have a wife. And if we're going to be giving suggestions to families, we need to be inclusive of all families.

Other than that...

 

[DebIreland]

They're not asking.

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Only change I'd make to the list is on #1. I don't have a husband, I have a wife. And if we're going to be giving suggestions to families, we need to be inclusive of all families.

Other than that...

Now that's a great point.

 

[Anjelica]

I agree with the list - even #1.

Before there were kids it was the two of you. After the kids are grown up it will be just the two of you. I think people get so caught up in being mom/dad that they sometimes forget the basic foundation of their family unit - the husband and wife. A strong foundation can help ensure a strong house.

I have sometimes forgotten that myself as I get so caught up in the day to day items for the children.

 

[MizTink]

i think the part about teaching a 3 year old to clean floors isn't as bad as most people are thinking. a 3 year old couldn't scrub an entire house, but they can certainly be taught to wipe up a spill or something like that! just like when my 2 year old dgd misses when she throws something in the trash and wants to walk away. i stop her, have her pick it up and put it in the trash can, then close the cabinet door before she walks away. if she is walking around eating a cracker or something and drops a piece, i have taught her to pick it up and throw it away, not just leave it there!
in large part, i agree with most of the things on that list

 

[PeterPan09]

I have no problem with any of these.

Me either. Sounds like the teacher is about my age and grew up in a world where a good bit of this was the norm. Most of the kids in my neighborhood had plenty of chores, and those were on top of keeping their rooms neat and clean. I started doing loads of towels in the laundry as soon as I could reach the buttons. I was running the dishwasher and putting the stuff away when it was done before that. I think I started bathroom cleaning a bit later than what she has on her list, but it was one of my chores. Mom worked outside the home and if we wanted to have fun time on the weekends, everyone had to pitch in with chores during the week. It was presented that if we got all the annoying stuff out of the way there would be time for trips to the mall, the beach, the park, or anywhere else fun. There was time for movies, Sunday afternoon football parties with friends-great stuff. Weeks we didn't get the chores done, it was no fun weekend. Powerful incentive!

I totally with number 10. I was taught never to be afraid to set my goals high and then work hard to achieve them. People do rise to a challenge.

I also like #8. I had swimming as a sport in school, but I also had piano. Piano was, and still is a hobby that I love. When I was a little older I picked up guitar as well, which also gives me a lot of pleasure outside of work.

I don't think anyone can disagree that well mannered children and adults are far nicer to deal with in society.

I'm sure it can be off-putting to have someone else telling you how to parent, but I don't think there is any real evil intent behind this. The teacher is just sharing time tested things that do make for happier kids and adults.

 

[OceanAnnie]

I wonder if you came across some teaching or educational articles how it would be received if you sent them in?

 

[luvmy3]

I hope you're ironing your husband's shirts while reading this thread.

And she better be wearing her apron and pearls!

 

[Pea-n-Me]

LOL at some of the responses on this thread.

It wouldn't offend me, but I would take it more as "food for thought" than a directive of how I must behave.

Our schools have also sent home literature about kids getting a good nights sleep, having a good breakfast before school, utilizing a regular place to do homework, having proper school supplies, etc. These were "suggestions" for me as a parent as well.

 

[DisneyCher]

Where does this list say anything about Mom having to do all the housework, with high heels and pearls, while Dad goes out to work each day???? I guess I completely glossed over the mysogyny that is so evident in this list.

And as far as parenting goes, my sister teaches at a school with a lot of at-risk kids with very bad homelives. While I bet 90%+ of those parents would balk at getting parenting advice from school, the sad, sad truth is about the same amount could truly benefit from the advice.

And kids are rude, rude, rude today. The way they talk to adults is on the whole rather disrespectful. Example: some kids from very wealthy families in my neigborhood apparently thought it was funny to taunt my dogs while I was trying to get in their nightly jog. I don't know if they thought I was a teenager or something (I look very young, and there are a lot of high school kids who jog in my neighborhood), but after a deadpan glare those little brats don't do it anymore. I wouldn't have *dreamed* of doing something like that to an adult when I was 8 -12 (which I think is the approximate range of these children). I don't think kids should "be seen and not heard," but they need to be taught to be respectful of others, especially their elders.

 

[FlightlessDuck]

I think it's funny how this seems to be such a touchy subject, especially #1. I'm sure I'd find plenty of take home papers from school with something that would offend someone on the Community Board.

I don't even read them. I see a title "How to Help Your Child..." and toss it in the garbage.

The only one I really have a problem with is #7. When will the "TV rots the brain" myth finally die? My children have so many activities, especially in the fall, that when they get home, I think they should be allowed to relax with TV.

 

[luvmy3]

LOL at some of the responses on this thread.

It wouldn't offend me, but I would take it more as "food for thought" than a directive of how I must behave.

Our schools have also sent home literature about kids getting a good nights sleep, having a good breakfast before school, utilizing a regular place to do homework, having proper school supplies, etc. These were "suggestions" for me as a parent as well.

I wouldn't have been offended, like I said the paper would go right into recycling without a second thought. Our school sends home those same things that you listed, but since they are directly related to performance in school, I could see where people see the sheet the OP is talking about as a related to parenting in generall. Its not just how it would benefit your child as a student, but more how it would benefit your child at home too. I think parents have a right to be offended, just like any teacher would have the right to be offened if they were sent something with tips to make their students happy, and it included things like "make sure you spend quality time with your husband. A happy wife, makes a happy teacher and they make happy student"

Anyway, I like what our school does. Several times throughout the year they offer parenting workshops, each one covering a different issue. Some are strictly for help with the academic issues, and some are for help with parenting issues. It lets parents know that there is help out there if you want it, but it doesn't make them feel like the school is telling you you need it.

 

[Pigeon]

They're not asking.

No, they are telling, which still makes it none of their damn business.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I hope you're ironing your husband's shirts while reading this thread.

Oh no, I am planning the evening meal, which is going to be corned beef in the crockpot or if I consult my grandmother's book, "Marriage Record and Hints on Housekeeping (circa 1935) ....

"A good deal of close observation must be practiced before the housekeeper can herself judge of the quality of the meat, poultry, and fish."

"she must rely upon the probity of her market man"

"Her trust in the dealer should not, as a rule, be carried so far as to allow him absolute freedom in the matter of cutting off meat."

Or here is an ad...

"Good Wives Make.....the Best Husbands"

Jeremy Taylor said- "A good wife is heaven's last best gift to man-his gem of many virtues, his casket of jewels. Her voice is sweet music, her smiles his brightest day, her kiss the guardian of his innocence, her arms the pale of his safety, her industry his surest wealth, her economy his safest steward, her lips his faithful counselors, her bosom the sofest pillow of his care. Of earthly goods the best, is a good wife.

In Every Happy Home You'll Find An Alarm Clock, a Bible, Wilson's Better Milk and Healthy Kids

 

[PeterPan09]

I think it's funny how this seems to be such a touchy subject, especially #1. I'm sure I'd find plenty of take home papers from school with something that would offend someone on the Community Board.

I don't even read them. I see a title "How to Help Your Child..." and toss it in the garbage.

The only one I really have a problem with is #7. When will the "TV rots the brain" myth finally die? My children have so many activities, especially in the fall, that when they get home, I think they should be allowed to relax with TV.

You're making her point though. Your kids do LOTS of things. They don't spend all their free time in front of the TV. TV is not an evil thing, but I don't think anyone can deny that spending every free moment in front of it without exercise or other interests can be unhealthy in a number of ways.

 

[Pigeon]

LOL at some of the responses on this thread.

It wouldn't offend me, but I would take it more as "food for thought" than a directive of how I must behave.

Our schools have also sent home literature about kids getting a good nights sleep, having a good breakfast before school, utilizing a regular place to do homework, having proper school supplies, etc. These were "suggestions" for me as a parent as well.

Our schools also send home this boilerplate junk. It typically grossly simplifies what the research says or just plain overlooks the research in honor of enshrined educational truisms. I wish they'd stop killing trees for this type of nonsense.

 

[luvmy3]

Oh no, I am planning the evening meal, which is going to be corned beef in the crockpot or if I consult my grandmother's book, "Marriage Record and Hints on Housekeeping (circa 1935) ....

"A good deal of close observation must be practiced before the housekeeper can herself judge of the quality of the meat, poultry, and fish."

"she must rely upon the probity of her market man"

"Her trust in the dealer should not, as a rule, be carried so far as to allow him absolute freedom in the matter of cutting off meat."

Or here is an ad...

"Good Wives Make.....the Best Husbands"

Jeremy Taylor said- "A good wife is heaven's last best gift to man-his gem of many virtues, his casket of jewels. Her voice is sweet music, her smiles his brightest day, her kiss the guardian of his innocence, her arms the pale of his safety, her industry his surest wealth, her economy his safest steward, her lips his faithful counselors, her bosom the sofest pillow of his care. Of earthly goods the best, is a good wife.

In Every Happy Home You'll Find An Alarm Clock, a Bible, Wilson's Better Milk and Healthy Kids

Don't forget a list with tips from the teacher!