JVelasquez
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My DS came home from school the other day with some paperwork from his teacher. One of them was a copy of a news article titled '10 steps to raising happy children'.
Step 1- If you are married have a more active relationship with your spouse than you have with your children. Spend more time in the roles of husband and wife than you spend in the roles of mother and father. The reason is bc a child can feel insecure if his/her parents marriage doesn't feel solid.
Step 2- If you are single do not be married to your children. Have an active life outside of your role as mother and father. Be an interesting person to your kids.
Step 3- Expect your child to obey. Expect this calmly, as if you take their obedience for granted. Disobedient children are not happy, obedient children are.
Step 4- Expect your children to be responsible citizens of your family. From the time they are 3yrs old, assign them chores around the home, chores that mean something. Teach your 3yr old to WASH FLOORS. Teach your 4yr old to vacuum. Teach your 5yr old to CLEAN THE BATHROOM. Good citizenship is a matter of making contributions. Too many of today's kids have no meaningful roles in their families. They're just there consuming and the more they consume, the more they demand. Demanding people are not happy people.
Step 5- Teach your child that happiness is not a matter of how much you have.
Step 6- Teach your child that 2 of the most fun things to do are reading and travel, both of which involve the accumulation of memories as opposed to things.
Step 7- Let tv and video games into your children's lives very little, if at all.
Step 8- Help your children develop hobbies. Btw a hobby is not an after school sport. A hobby is something a child can do by himself, eventually without adult supervision.
Step 9- Teach your child good manners.
Step 10- Hold your children to high standards. You show respect for a child by expecting of the child.
I do agree with most of these steps but....
Step 1- I don't think you should spend more time in roles as husband and wife than you do as mother and father. I think it should be equal time.
Step 4- I can see children having some chores... My DS6 helps me fold towels, bring up groceries and clean up his toys but washing floors and cleaning the bathroom??? I don't think so!!! My DS has asked to vacuum when he's watching me and I've let him but I wouldnt make that his job!
So what do you all think? Do you agree/disagree with any of these 'steps'?
Step 1- If you are married have a more active relationship with your spouse than you have with your children. Spend more time in the roles of husband and wife than you spend in the roles of mother and father. The reason is bc a child can feel insecure if his/her parents marriage doesn't feel solid.
Step 2- If you are single do not be married to your children. Have an active life outside of your role as mother and father. Be an interesting person to your kids.
Step 3- Expect your child to obey. Expect this calmly, as if you take their obedience for granted. Disobedient children are not happy, obedient children are.
Step 4- Expect your children to be responsible citizens of your family. From the time they are 3yrs old, assign them chores around the home, chores that mean something. Teach your 3yr old to WASH FLOORS. Teach your 4yr old to vacuum. Teach your 5yr old to CLEAN THE BATHROOM. Good citizenship is a matter of making contributions. Too many of today's kids have no meaningful roles in their families. They're just there consuming and the more they consume, the more they demand. Demanding people are not happy people.
Step 5- Teach your child that happiness is not a matter of how much you have.
Step 6- Teach your child that 2 of the most fun things to do are reading and travel, both of which involve the accumulation of memories as opposed to things.
Step 7- Let tv and video games into your children's lives very little, if at all.
Step 8- Help your children develop hobbies. Btw a hobby is not an after school sport. A hobby is something a child can do by himself, eventually without adult supervision.
Step 9- Teach your child good manners.
Step 10- Hold your children to high standards. You show respect for a child by expecting of the child.
I do agree with most of these steps but....
Step 1- I don't think you should spend more time in roles as husband and wife than you do as mother and father. I think it should be equal time.
Step 4- I can see children having some chores... My DS6 helps me fold towels, bring up groceries and clean up his toys but washing floors and cleaning the bathroom??? I don't think so!!! My DS has asked to vacuum when he's watching me and I've let him but I wouldnt make that his job!
So what do you all think? Do you agree/disagree with any of these 'steps'?
It was more along the lines of expect that they can do something real, teach them how and let them contribute--and I like that.
). My kids really do need more chores (they do put their clothes away and clean their rooms, walk the dog...), but again, those pesky activities. I'm always telling them to read, and I am a big reader.
