Disneybrides.com RANT!

[Maggimus]

I am not very happy with disneybrides.com. They have very strict rules- whereas on a board like this- they do not. We can come and go from disboards as much as we want- whether we decide to leave a message once a week is up to us (sometimes we get busy and cant post all the time) etc.

Okay- I understand I read the rules there- you must post X amount of times, or else they wont let you be a part of their board. Right now I dont have time to figure out their board (it is different from DISboards and I am busy with housecleaning, packing, doing all my regular-life things that I dont have a lot of time to figure out their system right now- let alone post). So I get an e-mail from the administrator..
It reads as follows...

Hi maggimus,
>
> When you joined the DisneyBride board and agreed to our rules you agreed
>to post weekly. Your last post was on 10/20/06 which was two weeks ago.
>Please post something by Monday 11/05/06 or let us know if there is a
>problem preventing you from posting. We are pretty lenient with the rules
>but we want our members to remain active. If you do not post something by
>Monday night, your account will be deleted on Tuesday morning.
>
> Thanks for understanding.
>
>Tammy
>DisneyBride Admin
> &
> Toni
> DisneyBride Owner/Admin

So I e-mailed them back with a nice letter...

Please do not delete my account. I am leaving next Saturday for my disney
wedding (November 14). I have been very busy getting everything ready (i
am in my final week). For the next 2.5 weeks i will be finishing my planning
and having my disneywedding/disneymoon. I ask that you understand. Thanks!

I get an e-mail back... this is what I am not so happy about (seems it has snotty undertones)

Maggie,
you signed up and also read the rules and signed there that you understood. It takes 5 minutes to log on and post one thing a week. I will give you until wednesday to post something (11/8) or otherwise you will be deleted. Now if you were gone on your wedding/honeymoon, that would be different.

You can post your plans on the board. That way everyone gets excited to read about ur trip when you get back

Sorry but with non active members, our board will not work.

So while we understand you can not post on ur wedding and honeymoon - you can post until you leave.

We have to abide by our own rules and not make exceptions. You haven't posted since the 20th - we have given you more then ample time.

Toni - owner and admin
Tammy - admin

I know it isn't as bad as I have made it sound. But has ANYONE else had this problem? Am I wrong to think this is less than nice?

 

[jojoandhb]

I think their emails are rather professional and fair. If you can't post every week, then let them delete you. I don't really see the problem. The board takes a commitment. You can either make it or not. This board is more relaxed, and everyone is pretty friendly. Why do you need that other board when you have us??

 

[JonetteA]

I personally think you were perfectly polite. Depending on how you take those emails, it is up to you to determine if you still want to be part of that group. Hang in there. That has NOTHING to do with the support you get on here for being busy, trust me I know!! We are here for you and we know how busy you are. Hang in there!

 

[hmgolden]

I think that the email exchange was polite on both ends. Its their board, they make the rules. Its up to you to decide if you still want to be a part of that group. I wouldn't take it too personally. Focus on the important things...8 days until you are getting married in WDW!

 

[kmab00]

I too had joined that board ... but after I received that same e-mail, I did not respond or post. I just let them delete me. I like it here better anyway!

 

[StitchBride]

I think its all in how you perceive it. I don't think its snotty or mean, I think because its a new board they are trying really hard to grow their community. If no one posts, then it doesn't grow. If you are too busy for it, then it shouldn't matter. Their rules aren't too bad, just the posting once a week, even a simple hello. The format is very similar to this. If you need help, let me know. Besides, you are about to get married! But they are a friendly and active bunch so I'm positive it isn't sent with ill feelings, they just want to get to know everyone!

 

[disneybridetobe]

Ughh! I got that too... I can understand where they're coming from, but you attract more bees with honey than vinegar!

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

blahh i know what you mean!

 

[purplegirl247]

I'm pretty sure they made that rule because when the boards first started, no one was posting ANYTHING. They had too many lurkers. So, while I see their point, I don't think it's fair to people who are too busy to post very often. Or who feel more comfortable lurking. I know DIS has quite a few lurkers around here.

 

[Tinkerbellz]

I was on their board too. It's a great place but they are just starting out I think they want to get a following going and so they made rules to get accomplish that. Unfortunately, I was unable to follow all the rules myself, and was deleted. I would love to get back to it, but not until my laptop at home gets fixed.

I was able to get some great graphics, meet some wonderful friends who post here and there, and some plannig help too.

Don't be upset by this, you're under a lot of stress with your upcoming wedding. Let it roll off your back like water off a duck's back. It's not a direct attack on you.

Have a wonderful wedding!

 

[Skylarr29]

I don't think it was unfair at all. I think is was very acceptable and polite. I am sure they understood that you are busy with your wedding but in all fairness to them if you had time to post this whole thing here then you had time to simply post a hello or a well wish over there. It is a tight knit community over there and they want everyone to be friends and to be open with sharing things over there. If that isn't something that interests you then you will be much happier over here.

 

[bessjlj]

I am sorry that you misinterpreted the tone of that email. I agree with everyone else that it appeared professional in nature given that it was merely clarifying the rules to which you agreed when you joined. I understand that this is a very hectic time for you and maybe as such, you wrongly perceived their email as a personal attack. I too am a member over there and I am certain that their intentions were innocent. They are merely trying to form a community of active members and appeared to be taking a genuine interest in your upcoming wedding. Like all boards, they have set rules which must be followed by all members; and although we may grumble at such rules from time to time, they do serve a valid purpose. I am certain they were merely trying to shy away from setting a precedent by waiving the posting requirement in this instance.

Incidentally, just to play devil's advocate, if you posted over here, and found time to respond to their email, was it so burdensome to briefly post over there? Just a thought...please don't take that the wrong way!

I wouldn't let this get to you too much. This certainly wasn't personal by any means. You are so close to your wedding...enjoy this time while it's here and don't let these little things get to you!!

 

[Maggimus]

I don't think it was unfair at all. I think is was very acceptable and polite. I am sure they understood that you are busy with your wedding but in all fairness to them if you had time to post this whole thing here then you had time to simply post a hello or a well wish over there. It is a tight knit community over there and they want everyone to be friends and to be open with sharing things over there. If that isn't something that interests you then you will be much happier over here.

You are right, I did have the time to post the entire thing here. But I have been with these boards for a very long time (enough to tell my story). I joined that board at the beginning of the month and honestly- i dont have time to start from the beginning there- whereas i had already told 3/4 of my story here.

I haven't taken anything by anyone here the wrong way . I appreciate everyones input (otherwise I wouldnt have posted it). Thanks for all the input- I guess I am just a little stressed at the moment. I just thought with me writing back asking for one more shot (clearly showing interest in being a part of them) that they would understand too. I suppose it was just a last ditch effort to get them to understand a little. As someone said early- you attract more bees with honey than vinegar- and thats one more possible person (me !) that could have been a part of their online community.

Thanks everyone! I appreciate everything. I suppose it was just the timing of it all.

 

[Summer-Caitlin]

I have read that email several times now, and I'm sorry but I still find it pretty offensive. I do not see the point of everyone being forced to post a hello every seven days if that is all they can manage. I know that in their rules it states that you must post every seven days but they also say they are quite flexible with this. I don't believe 2 weeks is that flexible! Maggimus is 7 days from her wedding, surely this is a circumstance that they should give more flexibility.

I have scrolled down and read the email again, and I still find it a bit snotty. The tone is completely wrong, it doesn't sound understanding at all.

This board is much better, you do not have to justify your whereabouts if you disappear for days or weeks. It is a given that we are all adults and live hectic lives esp when planning our Wedding. The support on here is much better and I have never felt obligated to post anything. I think sometimes having rules like they do they are alienating many wonderful future members. Personally I lurked here for several weeks before I posted, I wanted to get the feel of the place and people and I don't think there is anything wrong with that.

 

[lindajoan]

I too had joined that board ... but after I received that same e-mail, I did not respond or post. I just let them delete me. I like it here better anyway!

The same thing happened to me! I found that board to be too bureaucratic.

Sorry you were caught in "the system", Maggimus!

 

[jojoandhb]

Even if they did delete you, couldn't you just sign up again later when you have more time to post?
I do agree that having to post every 7 days is silly. If they had a good board, people would want to post, they wouldn't have to be forced.

 

[Skylarr29]

Nevermind

 

[Maggimus]

Skylarr, I do not think anything I have said has given you a reason to attack me personally. You have made this into an issue that just isnt. I came on here- an open website (where we frequently review different vendors and information sources). I have read several negative reviews on (for ex.) Reverend Jack Day and even Tour Guide Mike(and no one got upset with the opinion of that).

 

[Skylarr29]

nevermind

 

[ItGirl753]

I have to say that I also feel it is not right to be bashing someone on a public forum. In the past here on the Dis I have definitely seen posts where people will NOT mention names and will do it only in a PM because this is a public forum. I understand you not being happy with it, or not liking it over there, but I do not think it is appropriate to keep pounding this. You did agree to the rules and you weren't able to follow them right now. I agree with JoJo that if you really wanted to be a part of it then you could have rejoined after your wedding. It obviously bothers you a great deal since you are still talking about it.

You are so close to your wedding. I hope that this whole thing isn't upsetting you. I am sure you have more important details to focus on! Have a great trip!!!