Disneybrides.com RANT!

[Disney-For-Life]

Although the response sounded "okay" (not exactly PR material), their rules make them sound like rookies in the industry. They will be hard pressed to find brides who can continue to log in week after week, that is just not realistic. Nor is the expectation that you will be popping back on right after you return from your wedding/honeymoon. The very rules they have self enforced to keep people on are pushing people away. The last thing a bride wants is more stress!

 

[Skylarr29]

Of course they don't expect you to pop right back in on your wedding or honeymoon! That is just silly. And just so everyone knows the posting requirements are as such

The ranks and posting requirements are as follows:
# of posts --------- Rank --------------posting requirements
1-49 posts weekly
50-149 posts weekly
150-499 posts Biweekly (at least once every 2 weeks)
500-999 posts Triweekly (at least once every 3 weeks)
1000+ posts monthly

I don't think that is too hard to do. The more posts you have and the more you have contributed the less posting you need to do. And the rules also state that if at anytime you go through something and you wont be able to post just to email the mods and then they will assess your situation.

I don't think it is pushing anyone away. There is an absolutely fantastic group of people there so it is really your loss.

 

[StitchBride]

The girls who run it are, in fact, not rookies in the industry. What they do not want on THEIR board are people who are going to continue to lurk without being an active member of board. Thats it. The 7 day rule isn't strict or hardfast, you won't get any sort of warning after 7 days, it is simply a guideline. But the OP didn't post for 2.5 weeks, which, and this is my opinion, seems to prove disinterest in the board. Obviously she has a lot going on and thats fine, maybe it was just the wrong time to join. I'm sure after the wedding if the OP wanted to, they would be happy to welcome her, provided their guidelines are met. They are not hard pressed to find brides who want to post and share the excitement of their wedding. I think its just the opposite, what bride doesn't want to tell everyone every detail of their planning to people who are actually interested. If you took 2 minutes to join, you would find an extremely active, extraordinarily happy community who wants to help brides, not stress them out. They don't expect you to post the day you get back from your honeymoon, but hope you would WANT to share in the following days. And believe me, these people know a thing or two about planning an amazing event and I am happy every time I have a question that their "resources" are at my disposal.

 

[Skylarr29]

The girls who run it are, in fact, not rookies in the industry. What they do not want on THEIR board are people who are going to continue to lurk without being an active member of board. Thats it. The 7 day rule isn't strict or hardfast, you won't get any sort of warning after 7 days, it is simply a guideline. But the OP didn't post for 2.5 weeks, which, and this is my opinion, seems to prove disinterest in the board. Obviously she has a lot going on and thats fine, maybe it was just the wrong time to join. I'm sure after the wedding if the OP wanted to, they would be happy to welcome her, provided their guidelines are met. They are not hard pressed to find brides who want to post and share the excitement of their wedding. I think its just the opposite, what bride doesn't want to tell everyone every detail of their planning to people who are actually interested. If you took 2 minutes to join, you would find an extremely active, extraordinarily happy community who wants to help brides, not stress them out. They don't expect you to post the day you get back from your honeymoon, but hope you would WANT to share in the following days. And believe me, these people know a thing or two about planning an amazing event and I am happy every time I have a question that their "resources" are at my disposal.

Very well said

 

[Maggimus]

I have to say that I also feel it is not right to be bashing someone on a public forum. In the past here on the Dis I have definitely seen posts where people will NOT mention names and will do it only in a PM because this is a public forum. I understand you not being happy with it, or not liking it over there, but I do not think it is appropriate to keep pounding this. You did agree to the rules and you weren't able to follow them right now. I agree with JoJo that if you really wanted to be a part of it then you could have rejoined after your wedding. It obviously bothers you a great deal since you are still talking about it.

You are so close to your wedding. I hope that this whole thing isn't upsetting you. I am sure you have more important details to focus on! Have a great trip!!!

If you read my previous post (before Skylarr started saying I was childish) you will see that I didnt try to continue to bash those people. I said maybe it was just me and that i appreciated everyones imput. I will say it again, i am appreciative of all of the respectful imput given.
I am sorry if some of you have misunderstood this. I stopped posting after thanking people for what they said. Others have chosen to continue to post and I left it alone only until Skylarrs not so nice message.

I do appreciate those of you who have understood my position and been helpful- because yes, im not alone in thinking this is rude- and no, im not the only one who has used names on this forum, or even here recently. I simply asked- as you will read if you look back, if this has happened to anyone else. I didnt say I was crying over it or that it was ruining my wedding plans, anything (not that anyone has said that i have, or imposed this). I said i thought there was little understanding in the e-mail and asked if anyone else also had lack of understanding coming from that board.

I am here defending my position and wont feed into the name game or anything else (although "FLAME AWAY" wasn't the nicest way to end a post). I didnt say they were horrible people, I didnt say their board is horrible or that the ideas there were bad. I simply said that in my opinion- they didnt seem to be very understanding of my situation.

 

[Luvndisney]

i have to agree with skylar and stitchbride here. there are rules for a purpose and they are not for some. Having these "rules" is more of a regulation to ensure people stay active. Can we think to a club or something where there are rules???? its the same concept people. Some boards allow for posting once or twice..just lurking and not sharing and that is fine for some but on disney brides it is important to share information to make it work. these ladies are not "rookies" and i take offense to that one. while it is a new board these ladies have what it takes to make it last and make it strong. its a strong community over there and it might not be for some.

And i manage...even after being married to stay active and give support to the newer brides coming in....thats what its all about.



i hope this thread can end soon and that brides can keep an open mind about this disneybrides baord - it is great.

enjoy your weddings ladies.

 

[Skylarr29]

nevermind

 

[Maggimus]

skylarr, you are manipulating the situation. I never dwelled on this until you started name calling. I have thanked everyone for all the posts- just not the disrespectful ones. There is a tact way to go about things. I do not care about that board anymore, the e-mail, nothing. I am just defending the fact that i SAID i thought it wasnt very understanding. The question wasnt- do you agree that its a good board... it was if this has happened to anyone else.
Im sorry that you have wanted this to get where it has. Everyone was respectful except for you- and i did appreciate those who opposed to what i said before you came along.

 

[starseed]

While I'm also part of the Disneybrides community and agree and abide by the rules on the board, I think that all angles of this argument have been aired and it is time to let this thread end. Perhaps a moderator will step in.

It's safe to say that there are those of us who agree to disagree.

Maggimus ~ I hope that your upcoming wedding is everything you hope for and more.

 

[JonetteA]

Well I have stayed out of it until now. We at the Dis do not tolerate attacking of any sort from anyone. Please make nice with each other, or the moderators will consider locking this thread. I really encourage you guys to view each others side and to apologize and make up. We are a great community HERE and are supportive of one another. I feel that this discussion has gone the wrong way.

 

[Summer-Caitlin]

Hmmm, I obviously missed alot on this thread as I see some people have deleted their posts. I have always thought the DIS was a friendly and supportive board and I think many people have taken Maggimus the wrong way. She was disappointed with the email she received. Not at any point has she personally attacked the people that run Disneybrides.com nor the site itself.

As I previously said I think the email wasn't as understanding as it could have been. Maggimus now has 6 days til her Wedding and I'm sure she is extremely busy, she only asked for some leeway. Maybe she did sign up at the wrong time but probably never thought she wouldn't have the time to post.

Recently on this board there have been several threads where the OP has been personally attacked, me included. We are all adults and should not revert to name calling or bullying tactics just to get our point across. We all welcome differences of opinon, but please don't assume you know everything about a situation just by reading a small passage on a page. I will no doubt get flamed for my response but it seems that this thread is going the wrong way and I don't want to see it get any worse.

 

[Fantasia Sam]

I'm actually going to step in here and stop anyone from being flamed on this thread and lock it.

I truly understand that all are allowed to express their opinions on this subject but I just feel that all points have been made by the Original Poster.

Many thanks