Hey thanks guys for pointing out that I got tagged. I hadn't posted today so I didn't even notice. Thank you tag fairy, I'm not invisible!!
I have a delicate issue that I'm trying to deal with. I'm not sure why I'm having issues with this as nothing has really changed, only my perception. I had my teacher conferences for my older 2 sons yesterday. My 8 year old was first. It started out like all my other conferences as he has had this teacher for the last 2 years. She then starts to tell me that he has solved some difficult math problems in his advanced math group. I was proud of him but didn't think too much of it as he loves math and is always figuring something out. Then she went on to say that he has an extraordinary vocabulary and is always blowing her away. Ok I was getting even more proud, but that embarassing, I don't know how to act feeling was setting in. She then gets up and calls the guidance counseler to have her join us. This was very odd. She is also the coordinator for his advanced math group so I assumed it was to talk about that. Well, apparently, they now consider him gifted and used terms like brilliant to describe him. They actually spent more time talking about there concerns of how my 10 year old was adjusting to his little brother. He is solving 6th grade math puzzles in 2nd grade. To be honest we hadn't noticed what was going on. He never brags or rubs it in to our older son or his classmates. He is very social and he is a very good athelete. The guidance counselor said that he is very advanced accross the board. He has much better hand eye coordination than most boys his age (she was amazed at how he could jump rope with the girls as that is apparently something difficult for 2nd grade boys). I had to laugh as I knew that he was jump roping, but he is doing it cause he likes girls.

. The teachers want us to make sure that the older son gets involved in something that he can excel at. The problem is that they do everything together and there is no competition between them. How do I tell one that they can't try something because the other needs and activity of his own. They wouldn't understand as we have always encouraged all of our boys to try everything and have never told one that they couldn't try. My older son is not atheletic and doesn't care about sports. He does well at school and his teachers said that he is doing his 4th grade work at the appropriate grade level. I'm proud of him as he really doesn't like school. Older son has joined band this year and really enjoys it. I told the teachers that maybe middle son wouldn't like band and we would have separate activities there. They informed me that he they wouldn't be surprised if he could already read music. I know that this is getting long and I'm not bragging or complaining here. If these were your children and they are as close as two boys could be, would you leave things alone and just see what happens or would you start to encourage individual interests at the risk of not allowing one to try something new. I am inclined to forget about what I was told yesterday and go on with life as it has always been. We've always known that He was athletic as he could do head stands at 2 and he was doing 100 piece puzzles by 4. To make things more challenging he would do them cardboard side up. This doesn't bother older brother so why should it bother me. I hope this makes sense as I feel like I am rambling. What would you do?
Deb
PS. We haven't mentioned any of this to either of the boys as I don't think they need to know.