Disappearing PJs

[Mermaid_Ariel]

I know some people cited personal reasons for deleting their PJs (not wanting certain people they know snooping around, etc).. but has anyone actually had a problem that came from someone on the DIS? Like stalking or something? I'm getting kinda nervous about it..

 

[OceanGdss]

I'm feeling the same concern. Its got me worried about what I post. Whats going on out there??

 

[Lindsay22]

Me too. I went thru my PJ last night and took out anything that had our last names on it.... DF thinks I should delete the whole thing, but my family reads it and it's a great way to keep them informed. I might delete my ticker though.... the whole world doesn't need to know that we are away from home for an extended period of time.

 

[hiwaygal]

Anything posted on a public message board is open to all kinds of potential problems (I know you know this).

I have seen a few people who's PJ's and TR's were scrutinized and I'm sure there was a lot of anxiety over that. And sometimes people go just a little too far. I don't know of any specifics but it certainly could happen.

You probably shouldn't worry too much but know to be extra cautious. You might want to make sure anything you post doesn't show your full name (first names are okay). You may want to be careful about showing your location or even be cautious about the pictures you post.

Mostly just be aware of the normal "safety precautions" to take on the 'net and you should be okay.

If however, you are having any problems, contact the moderators via PM or you can try contacting admin@wdwinfo.com

Sometimes I think we all get maybe a little too comfortable sharing information here with friends. It's not always a bad thing but you never know who might be reading.

Just be careful!

 

[Keira1387]

That's basically why I deleted mine. I started with pictures, but then I realized how many details I had really given away. I haven't had any problems my self, but I don't want to take any chances.

 

[Mermaid_Ariel]

Anything posted on a public message board is open to all kinds of potential problems (I know you know this).

I have seen a few people who's PJ's and TR's were scrutinized and I'm sure there was a lot of anxiety over that. And sometimes people go just a little too far. I don't know of any specifics but it certainly could happen.

You probably shouldn't worry too much but know to be extra cautious. You might want to make sure anything you post doesn't show your full name (first names are okay). You may want to be careful about showing your location or even be cautious about the pictures you post.

Mostly just be aware of the normal "safety precautions" to take on the 'net and you should be okay.

If however, you are having any problems, contact the moderators via PM or you can try contacting admin@wdwinfo.com

Sometimes I think we all get maybe a little too comfortable sharing information here with friends. It's not always a bad thing but you never know who might be reading.

Just be careful!

Thanks for the tips! I did try to make sure there was nothing in my PJ that would give anything away - but I guess I got really nervous that there seemed to be a trend of people deleting their PJs so I wondered if something "bigger" was going on, you know? Like you said, we do get comfortable sharing information with our friends here - but you're right, we don't know who's reading.

I just hope nothing bad ever happened to anyone.

 

[DecemberBride]

I'm glad you asked because I was wondering the same thing... I was getting super nervous. Now I'm heading over to my PJ to delete anything that is too much information. Thanks for the tips!

 

[Fantasia Sam]

Well I never had a PJ on here but I pretty much get recognized every time I got to WDW by another DISer because they've seen me on here - I don't mind that so much and so far on here it hasn't been to what I would call a "stalker level".

Like Denise says, I do think that many of us do get carried away with the excitement of sharing our wedding plans and forget that these are public boards and therefore pretty much anyone can read.

I remember when I wrote my wedding recaps the ones I posted on here were different to those I posted on private communities - whilst I'm a bit of an "open book" character there were just some things I didn't want the "world and his wife" reading.

Of course the other point that I wanted to remind you of is that given that this is a public community your wedding planner and/or other staff from the Disney Fairytale Weddings Department can read what you post too and it's not always too hard to work out who we all are

 

[DisneyBrideToni]

Wow you know you never think of this when you type away on this board. Really it feels like we are all friends on here and sharing our happiness planning. Its sad that there are creepy people out there that may be stalking you or looking up information. I don't want an uninvited guest coming to my wedding. Maybe I should get rid of any dates that I have posted.

 

[Fantasia Sam]

Oh and I just wanted to add that I've been a member of the DIS for many years now and I've met some fabulous people from all across the forums here on the DIS, some of whom became my good friends and came to our wedding celebrations both here in the UK and in WDW.

I myself haven't met anyone from this community that I wasn't happy to meet, you know?

I know the internet can be viewed as a "scary place" and sometimes people aren't always what they seem online but the DIS members I have met have yet to disappoint me but I do understand why some of you would be wary of posting personal information.

 

[ccoleman]

I understand that once you register you are not allowed to change your user name. Does anyone know if this is correct? I was just ready to start posting
more about my daughter's up coming wedding (she says she is too busy with school to get addicted to a message board --what an excuse!) --but now I'm
nervous about doing so unless I change my user name. If anyone knows how to do this I would appreciate it. Thanks!

 

[hiwaygal]

I understand that once you register you are not allowed to change your user name. Does anyone know if this is correct? I was just ready to start posting
more about my daughter's up coming wedding (she says she is too busy with school to get addicted to a message board --what an excuse!) --but now I'm
nervous about doing so unless I change my user name. If anyone knows how to do this I would appreciate it. Thanks!

You understood correctly...

If you want to change your user name, just re-register with a different one.

And

 

[ccoleman]

Thanks so much for the reply and advice.

 

[StitchBride]

I didn't post a PJ on here because I didn't feel comfortable with anyone able to access that information, plus the planners and vendors can view all of it and it would take very little effort to figure out who is who. I'm sorry that there is anyone who's actually had problems due to their PJ but I'm not totally suprised. There are some wacky people out there. I love that the Dis is such a community, but for my wedding and having something so personal being planned, I joined a couple of the private wedding boards which were a wealth of information and I think people were more comfortable being more open with stuff (if you want info on them, let me know)

I just wish it didn't have to be that way!

 

[JaxTeach]

It is sad that so many are deleting their PJs. Without past brides' PJs, TRs, and words of advice, I would not have had such a fantastic wedding! I felt very comfortable having my PJ and TR up-- but I didn't include much personal information. I would never vent about any family or friends because they all know about the DIS. Anything I posted about DFTW was all things I said to them directly. It has concerned me in the past when I've seen people's real names (especially last names) and their locations. I always keep in mind that the Internet is as public as it gets. Sometimes it may seem anonymous and distant from behind the keyboard. I've been on the DIS for years and we visit WDW at least once a month. I can say I've seen a handful of DISers out and about in that time. I think this is becoming much more of an issue than it needs to be. If everyone is mindful of the information they post, I do not believe there is any reason to worry or be concerned.

 

[BayouPrincess]

It is sad that so many are deleting their PJs. Without past brides' PJs, TRs, and words of advice, I would not have had such a fantastic wedding! I felt very comfortable having my PJ and TR up-- but I didn't include much personal information. I would never vent about any family or friends because they all know about the DIS. Anything I posted about DFTW was all things I said to them directly. It has concerned me in the past when I've seen people's real names (especially last names) and their locations. I always keep in mind that the Internet is as public as it gets. Sometimes it may seem anonymous and distant from behind the keyboard. I've been on the DIS for years and we visit WDW at least once a month. I can say I've seen a handful of DISers out and about in that time. I think this is becoming much more of an issue than it needs to be. If everyone is mindful of the information they post, I do not believe there is any reason to worry or be concerned.

I think you hit the nail on the head JaxTeach. If we are mindful of what we post, then the PJ's and TR's could continue. I couldn't agree more with the fact that if there weren't so many great PJ's and TR's out there we would not know what to expect, or who to book, or any of the great information we've gotten here. I too would not post things about family that I would not, or have not said to their faces. I will continue to post in my PJ and I hope that others do the same. Just don't be ouber specific. I think it's a great place to come and chat about our weddings/VR's and other events. I think it's a great "check" for planners and Vendors to be able to access comments here. They will know how they stand. I also would say that when we vent, use some maturity due to the nature of these boards and if your issue gets resolved--post that too. I totally understand the safety issue, really I do.

I attempted to join one of the more private boards and never heard back from them after I gave all of my information. So even with a referral from a DISbride, I didn't get "accepted".

I'm sorry for the rambling post. This PJ thing has just been eating at me for the past several days.

 

[StitchBride]

I attempted to join one of the more private boards and never heard back from them after I gave all of my information. So even with a referral from a DISbride, I didn't get "accepted".

I'm sorry for the rambling post. This has just been eating at me for the past several days.

If you are interested in the forum, I suggest you maybe trying re-emailing. Sometimes the response gets sent to your bulk mail and awhile ago there was one having some problems with their emails. There isn't a reason to not be accepted if you're a current or former Disney bride

HTH!

 

[BayouPrincess]

I may do that, if I get the time to find the emails again. I'm sure it's a nice place. I'm kinda partial to here. Your siggie pic is lovely. I'm wishing to win the lottery so I can just go HOG WILD planning our VR!

Then I could start a DIS Brides Carriage Wish Fund! For all of us who really want the carriage but have to cut it for the sake of the budget!

 

[DisneyBrideToni]

I think that names and dates are probably not the best idea to put on here. its just so hard to not have your countdown though

I am more interested in just puttting the things that I am doing for the wedding down. I really don't see harm in that. Just no personal info. I will have to change my signature and see if anything else is in my PJ that may not be good.

 

[Ember]

I didn't want to do a journal as I was afraid of just this sort of thing... But I don't mind sharing or posting photos from the wedding if they will help someone.

Oh, and if the planners DO read this: I thought my cake was very expensive (but, oh goodness, it was yummy!), I didn't like my bridesmaid bouquets, but I loved my wedding and thought the world of my planner. She deserves all the credit for my day, and I constantly tell people that she was truly my fairy godmother! There, now it's all out in the open.