DIS Ladies Only Trip 2007 WISH!

[JennaTX]

Kat I spent about 1 1/2 hours yesterday with the kids playing soccer and volleyball, it was good for all of us!!!

 

[TDC Nala]

cabbage soup...eww..

I just had two cups of soup instead of one because I'm a bit wrecked about the whole thing at my alma mater and it was better than having a drink.

I have to weigh in tomorrow I guess.

 

[TinksPixieDust]

cabbage soup...eww..

I just had two cups of soup instead of one because I'm a bit wrecked about the whole thing at my alma mater and it was better than having a drink.

I have to weigh in tomorrow I guess.

At least you only went for soup and not something chocolate or even yes a drink or two.

I myself am not looking forward to getting on that scale. I have not exercised as much as I should have. Tomorrow will tell the tale I guess.

 

[AdventurerKat]

cabbage soup...eww..

I just had two cups of soup instead of one because I'm a bit wrecked about the whole thing at my alma mater and it was better than having a drink.

I have to weigh in tomorrow I guess.

Catherine, I don't think anyone would blame you for having a drink or two.

I wouldn't have the cabbage soup either. Ick.

Well, I stayed the same this week. I guess that's what two heaping bowls of spaghetti and a bunch of bread will do to you.

 

[AdventurerKat]

Kat I spent about 1 1/2 hours yesterday with the kids playing soccer and volleyball, it was good for all of us!!!

That's a good workout Jenna!

 

[TinksPixieDust]

I had a pleasant surprise this morning when I was on the scale. It read that I lost 1 lb.

 

[AdventurerKat]

Come on ladies, its Tuesday! Where are ya all???

 

[TinksPixieDust]

Come on ladies, its Tuesday! Where are ya all???

Hi Kat! How have you been? I havent seen much of you lately.

 

[IMGONNABE40!]

I had a pleasant surprise this morning when I was on the scale. It read that I lost 1 lb.

Way to go Wendy!

Come on ladies, its Tuesday! Where are ya all???

I'm here, Kat. I will PM in a few minutes with my weigh in. I skipped last week, and I am still up a bit this week, but not back to where I started...yet.

Sorry I missed the exercise challenge. I was not on here at all. Life is really getting in the way of my dis-ing! Not in a bad way, but I do miss keeping up.

I like the idea of soup. I once lost a bunch of weight on my soup and cereal diet. All I ate was soup and cereal. BTW-- I like cabbage soup. Must be the Irish in me.

 

[AdventurerKat]

Way to go Wendy!




I'm here, Kat. I will PM in a few minutes with my weigh in. I skipped last week, and I am still up a bit this week, but not back to where I started...yet.

Sorry I missed the exercise challenge. I was not on here at all. Life is really getting in the way of my dis-ing! Not in a bad way, but I do miss keeping up.

I like the idea of soup. I once lost a bunch of weight on my soup and cereal diet. All I ate was soup and cereal. BTW-- I like cabbage soup. Must be the Irish in me.

Cereal is good. Even the bad stuff makes a much better snack for you than something like ice cream.

 

[kelsco99]

Hi ladies


It's been rough for me since Easter. I gained one lb last week and another lb this week. I go through this every time I try to eat healthy... I get bored and now I need a turning point where I get back on track instead of continuing with the bad stuff.

Why can't the thought of being thin and healthy be enough motivation?????

Congrats to you losers and those of you who are holding and good luck to us gainers this coming week

 

[mommaU4]

Hi ladies


It's been rough for me since Easter. I gained one lb last week and another lb this week. I go through this every time I try to eat healthy... I get bored and now I need a turning point where I get back on track instead of continuing with the bad stuff.

Why can't the thought of being thin and healthy be enough motivation?????

Congrats to you losers and those of you who are holding and good luck to us gainers this coming week

I don't know Kelly. Actually, I do. It's because for so many overweight people food is their drug. It's an addiction. I know some people scoff at that, and that's fine but it is for me.

I don't drink or smoke but food is my drug of choice, and right now it's got me in a firm grip. I haven't weighed in for 2 weeks. 3 if you count today since I didn't weigh in today either.

I don't know how to get motivated again. I go to sleep with all these good intentions for the next day. All these plans. Then I wake up and food is one of my first thoughts of the day. And all my good intentions are shot to heck.

I just don't care at that moment when I am on a binge, how it will feel later. Nothing matters. All reasonable thoughts go out the window. If that's not the actions of an addict, I don't know what is.

That's why I haven't been here much. Too embarrassed to try and encourage anyone else when I cannot even control my own habits.

 

[kelsco99]

I don't know Kelly. Actually, I do. It's because for so many overweight people food is their drug. It's an addiction. I know some people scoff at that, and that's fine but it is for me.

I don't drink or smoke but food is my drug of choice, and right now it's got me in a firm grip. I haven't weighed in for 2 weeks. 3 if you count today since I didn't weigh in today either.

I don't know how to get motivated again. I go to sleep with all these good intentions for the next day. All these plans. Then I wake up and food is one of my first thoughts of the day. And all my good intentions are shot to heck.

I just don't care at that moment when I am on a binge, how it will feel later. Nothing matters. All reasonable thoughts go out the window. If that's not the actions of an addict, I don't know what is.

That's why I haven't been here much. Too embarrassed to try and encourage anyone else when I cannot even control my own habits.

Thank you Beth... you always have wise words.

Right now I am feeling like 2 people... one who is intelligent and knows when to say "enough" and then this other idiot that is loud and aggressive that says "that was good...gimme more". When the idiot talks, I can't hear or I choose to ignore my other more intelligent self.

I also think it has to do with being busy and overwhelmed with work and home. I am going all day eating normal amounts of healthy food. I barely think about it until true hunger forces me to. Then I get home and I reward myself for being good all day by eating extra dinner (usually unhealthy cause there is no time to cook a healthy dinner) which leads to dessert which leads to snacking, etc. etc.

 

[mommaU4]

Thank you Beth... you always have wise words.

Right now I am feeling like 2 people... one who is intelligent and knows when to say "enough" and then this other idiot that is loud and aggressive that says "that was good...gimme more". When the idiot talks, I can't hear or I choose to ignore my other more intelligent self.

I also think it has to do with being busy and overwhelmed with work and home. I am going all day eating normal amounts of healthy food. I barely think about it until true hunger forces me to. Then I get home and I reward myself for being good all day by eating extra dinner (usually unhealthy cause there is no time to cook a healthy dinner) which leads to dessert which leads to snacking, etc. etc.

Nights are always the worst for me too. I can do well all day and then binge at night.

That "other idiot" talking, is your addiction. It's the same with me. I know what I need to do, I know how to do it. I just can't sometimes. Most of the time actually.

When I stop and look at my self and my lifestyle, it scares me. I am so heavy, and get almost no exercise. I keep telling myself if I continue on like this, I will not live to see my kids grow up. Period. I am at risk for numerous health problems. I am hardly ever in pictures cause of they way I look.

And yet, with all this, knowing all of that, I still cannot lose weight. I still cannot control those cravings and urges to binge. It's that strong.

It is no different than the cigarette smoker who knows they need to stop but can't. Have you ever seen those smokers who already have a hole in their throat as a result of smoking, and still continue their habit??? That's a true addiction.

And over eating is just as bad. We are putting our health at risk, but we don't stop. It's worse than being an alcoholic. I may make some people upset by saying that but to me it's true.

If you are an alcoholic, you don't have to go into a bar, you don't have to drink. You can stay away from friends who are drinkers. What are you supposed to do if you are a foodaholic? Not eat? Not grocery shop? Don't cook dinner for you family?

Or course not. We are surrounded by food. Everyday. Think about it. So much of our lives are centered around food. Every event I can think of is as much about the food as the event itself.

Football games= tail gate parties and food
Baby showers= food and cake
Summer picnics and BBQs= food
Office potlucks and parties = food
Holidays= lots of food

You cannot escape it. The key is to learn to deal with it, but how does an addict learn to just have one piece of pizza or just one serving of their favorite dish when all they want is more.

And so begins the cycle. The craving is too intense to ignore, so you over eat. Then you feel bad. So you eat more to squash those bad feelings. Then you figure heck, I've gone this far, why not eat more. Then you feel terrible, guilty and totally out of control over something that should be so simple.

I wish I had the answers. I don't know. It's something I fear I will deal with for a long time to come. All I can say is, at least you know you are not alone.

Geez, I yakked ALOT!!!!!!! Sorry.

 

[mommaU4]

I just thought I would share this questionaire with anyone who wants to read it.

I used to go to OA Meetings back when I lived in Burbank. Only for a short while. They were good. I wish I'd kept going. I know I am a compulsive overeater. I'm not saying anyone else here has this problem. But I know I do.

The funny thing is, most of the people in the meetings I went to were skinny!! lol But they would still overeat, and that's why they were there.

I'd go back if there was one here, but there isn't.



Are You a Compulsive Overeater?

Welcome to Overeaters Anonymous. This series of questions may help you determine if you are a compulsive overeater.

1. Do you eat when you're not hungry?

2. Do you go on eating binges for no apparent reason?

3. Do you have feelings of guilt and remorse after overeating?

4. Do you give too much time and thought to food?

5. Do you look forward with pleasure and anticipation to the time when you can eat alone?

6. Do you plan these secret binges ahead of time?

7. Do you eat sensibly before others and make up for it alone?

8. Is your weight affecting the way you live your life?

9. Have you tried to diet for a week (or longer), only to fall short of your goal?

10. Do you resent others telling you to "use a little willpower" to stop overeating?

11. Despite evidence to the contrary, have you continued to assert that you can diet "on your own" whenever you wish?

12. Do you crave to eat at a definite time, day or night, other than mealtime?

13. Do you eat to escape from worries or trouble?

14. Have you ever been treated for obesity or a food-related condition?

15. Does your eating behavior make you or others unhappy?

Have you answered yes to three or more of these questions? If so, it is probable that you have or are well on your way to having a compulsive overeating problem.

I answered yes to more than three.

Anyways, here is a link to their website:
http://www.oa.org/index.htm

I think once we move, I will try to go to meetings again. They did help. And there are lots of them in Vegas.

 

[IMGONNABE40!]

The hug is for all who are struggling. I too am struggling with my lack of progress towards my goal of losing weight.

Thank you for speaking of food as an addiction, Beth. In my job, I work with chemically dependant people every day. Since I work for the county, I am not permitted to talk to my clients about God or any of my religious beliefs. However, when I see one of my clients truly make a spiritual connection, and ask God to take their addiction from them, I see truly amazing things happen.

Coincidentily enough, today I decided to actively pray to the Holy Spirit to give me strength to resist food when I should and to become healthy again. Then, I come here and read Beth's words from last night. I believe that God can take our addictions from us. Hey--it worked for me with smoking! I don't know why it has taken so long for me to give this to Him as well.

I know not everyone believes what I do, and I am not trying to offend. I offer this for those who believe.

To all!

 

[AdventurerKat]

Very poignant words Beth. I know alot of us are struggling. I can't tell anyone what to do to fix it all when I am doing so myself but just to say keep trying.

 

[TinksPixieDust]

Beth, your words described exactly how I feel. I know that I have an eating disorder. When DH and I talk about my health etc. he doesnt seem to understand how I feel. People that dont have this going on just dont understand what it's like. They think that you can just control yourself and that should fix it.

I can not tell you how many times I have fought in my head with my "idiot self" over getting something to snack on.

I have to say though that when I was keeping my food journal it helped me somehow.

I just want to say that every addiction can be kicked. It just takes a lot of work. Obviously all of us here are dealing with some sort of food addiction or we wouldnt be in the position we are today. Just remember we are all here for each other. Whether we have a success or a failure.

I have heard it said that if you start helping others you tend to forget about your own problems. I'm ready to do that. It'll be good to get the focus off of me for awhile. I dont mind being called if someone is going to go on a binge. I'm usually up pretty late, even if I am not online.



It's good to see some activity over here again.

 

[mommaU4]

The hug is for all who are struggling. I too am struggling with my lack of progress towards my goal of losing weight.

Thank you for speaking of food as an addiction, Beth. In my job, I work with chemically dependant people every day. Since I work for the county, I am not permitted to talk to my clients about God or any of my religious beliefs. However, when I see one of my clients truly make a spiritual connection, and ask God to take their addiction from them, I see truly amazing things happen.

Coincidentily enough, today I decided to actively pray to the Holy Spirit to give me strength to resist food when I should and to become healthy again. Then, I come here and read Beth's words from last night. I believe that God can take our addictions from us. Hey--it worked for me with smoking! I don't know why it has taken so long for me to give this to Him as well.

I know not everyone believes what I do, and I am not trying to offend. I offer this for those who believe.

To all!

I think that's great and I don't think anyone would be offended. We all have to do what works for us.

I am not a very religious person. At least not in the traditional sense of the word. In OA they talk alot about a higher power so it's not talking about God and religion per se, just something bigger than ourselves.

That's one thing I liked about it.

And way to go for stopping smoking.

 

[mommaU4]

Very poignant words Beth. I know alot of us are struggling. I can't tell anyone what to do to fix it all when I am doing so myself but just to say keep trying.

I agree. Keep trying is all we can do.

I was so tempted to just give up when I remembered this one lady who spoke at one of the meetings. She said how she woke up that morning and didn't want to come. She was tired, lazy, didn't want to get dressed and drive over to the meeting.

Then she said she thought about all the times she had gotten a craving or was in the midst of a binge and would get dressed and go back out late at night to order some fast food, or get some junk from a grocery store.

And she realized she had to at least be willing to do for her recovery, what she did for her addiction. And so she got dressed and came on in.

That stuck with me because I like to make excuses about walking or working out. I don't have time, I am too tired, etc. But if someone said "hey let's go out to eat at your favorite restaurant" well, you best believe I'd have the time and suddenly have the energy.

So I personally have to be willing to do as much for my recovery as I would do for my addiction.