laurabelle
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Shugardrawers - Actually, I think it's a good thing your dh cried, mine never has...and I think he needs to. If your dh will go to counseling, it would probably be a tremendous help. Ask at your hospital, either your social worker or nurse about any family/spouse support groups. It may be different cancers altogether, but really, that doesn't matter (it all sucks!) If your cancer center doesn't have anything, look for just a general cancer support in your area, Gilda's House is one, there are many other groups all over the country. And not only for him, but for you too. Some of them are so cool, they do things like art therapy, ect. If you'd like some help looking, PM me and I'd be happy to do some legwork for you. I have lots of friends in the cancer community. Research has shown that people who participate in support groups have a better survival rate than those who do not...that's enough to get me involved! One of my dear friends who was stage IV, who sadly isn't with us anymore, her dh was interviewed for a book called "Breast Cancer Husband" about his experience. Maybe it would be something your dh would be interested in reading.
Basically, the cancer diet is what we should all be eating (though I'm a terrible offender and am too often a bad girl!) Lots of fruits and veggies - blueberries, strawberries, broccoli and carrots (and there are more) are especially good cancer fighters. Not alot of red meat, some of my friends buy organic, avoid sugar (this it hard for me) and refined/processed foods, low to moderate alcohol consumption (though a glass or two of wine in the evenings does me a world of good, just don't overdo it if you drink) and low fat. I have friends who have done alot of complimentary things with nutrition/vitamins too. I just try to be moderate. There are lots of books around, "What to Eat When you Have Cancer" is one. I try not to make it too complicated or else I won't follow it. Exercise of course is good. If you can get out and walk, in a beautiful setting, even better, it does a world of good.
As far as hair loss goes, my head was really sensitive and hurt sometimes.
I figured my scalp deserved some TLC, so I used my good facial products on it instead of just regular soap and I used moisturizer on it too. Definitely protect it from the sun and you can use sunscreen.
HTH, you're in my thoughts and prayers sweetie...
Basically, the cancer diet is what we should all be eating (though I'm a terrible offender and am too often a bad girl!) Lots of fruits and veggies - blueberries, strawberries, broccoli and carrots (and there are more) are especially good cancer fighters. Not alot of red meat, some of my friends buy organic, avoid sugar (this it hard for me) and refined/processed foods, low to moderate alcohol consumption (though a glass or two of wine in the evenings does me a world of good, just don't overdo it if you drink) and low fat. I have friends who have done alot of complimentary things with nutrition/vitamins too. I just try to be moderate. There are lots of books around, "What to Eat When you Have Cancer" is one. I try not to make it too complicated or else I won't follow it. Exercise of course is good. If you can get out and walk, in a beautiful setting, even better, it does a world of good.
As far as hair loss goes, my head was really sensitive and hurt sometimes.
I figured my scalp deserved some TLC, so I used my good facial products on it instead of just regular soap and I used moisturizer on it too. Definitely protect it from the sun and you can use sunscreen.
HTH, you're in my thoughts and prayers sweetie...
and a ton of booklets and such. Guest was a radiation nurse form the radiation center ( I actually met her week before last when I consulted with the radiologist). Looking forward to week 5 (last one) when the theme/topic is "Feeling and Looking Good" and they have a esthetician come in and you get a goodie bag of make-up and stuff 
One thing that did come out of tonight was that I decided to come home and tell my husband that I DO want him to come with me Thursday. He and I had both been waffling about whether I wanted him to take the time from work... and whether he should/could...and I decided with some "input" from the group that I should just say "Yes I do want you there"...so I came home and said that, and he said "OK of course I will!" 
Time has become my friend!
