Dilemma - help needed please!

[kayleighnik]

Hey everyone

I was hoping I'd be able to get some input on a situation I've got about my wedding...if you could I'd be completely grateful

Firstly some background:

My fiance, Josh, and I are both 20 years old. We've been together - on and off - since I was 15 years old and we got engaged on March 1st of this year

Josh works part-time at the moment, but will hopefully be getting another full time position, earning at least £11,000/$22000 a year...it's not a great amount, but it's a lot better than the £5000/$10000 he is currently earning. His outgoings monthly aren't a lot, as we live with my mom and my brother at the moment, and she only asks for £100/$200 rent atm

I don't have a job atm, as I am a full time student. In September, I'm going to university to study Law...student loans will cover my yearly tuition fees, and my accommodation, and should also hopefully give me a weekly allowance for food etc. But I will probably end up getting a part time job, so that I can save up for a holiday...and a wedding.

Because of our 'financial situation' we haven't decided when to have a wedding. It probably won't be for a few years...likely after my 3 year degree....that'll give us time to save up. If we save hard, and with a little bit of we could probably amass £17,000/$34,000+ by then...I hope

I love WDW...especially Epcot. Josh has never been, but we're planning on going relatively soon, and I'm sure he'll be as hooked as I am. He has already suggested that we could have a WDW wedding, if I want to.

Thats my dilemma...I have a big family and can't imagine a wedding without a lot of them there Our last two family holidays involved 22 people...but my great-aunt paid for everyone. I doubt she would do that for my wedding though...and I wouldn't really expect her to

I would *love* to get married in WDW, but I also want my family there...as we all live in the UK, that could be a problem as they would have to pay for the travel themselves. A week long trip, for two adults, including the DDP (to make it easier and cheaper). Josh and I would probably give them all park tickets as gifts

...I'm worried that not many people would be able to attend, because its quite a lot to pay, just to attend a wedding :S Would it be better to have a wedding in the UK...because of the family thing? It would cost us quite a lot to get married in WDW, compared to in the UK, but I don't think a UK wedding would be quite as 'magical'

Either way, we're thinking of a black and hot pink/fuchsia wedding..would I be able to customise a WDW wedding to accommodate that?

As you might be able to tell...I'm completely lost!

Any opinions would be greatly appreciated!

Kayleigh

 

[orangetiggs]

we are getting married in disney this sep and we are from the uk. we are having a wishes wedding for around $12000 so around £6000. thats our wedding at the pavillion all travel for us and guests, reception at whitehall room and dessert party in epcot.

We have on top of that 3 week honeymoon £3500/ $7000 2 weeks in disney and a week in mexico.

We are then having a blessing in the uk at a church and a sit down meal and evening buffet just like a second wedding costing around £3500.

So you can get a good amount for your £17000.

Dont give up hope.

Oh we have 18 guests coming to disney, we could of had a escape wedding but we wanted the whole day organsied for us

 

[IndyBride]

Hello! It sounds like you have to decide what type of wedding you want. Have you run your thoughts past anyone? If you really are going to wait a few years that should be time for your family to save some money. But you could still have a lovely wedding in the UK. Good luck with your planning!

 

[B2B-2008]

We where planning a big wedding in the UK with 120 guests, I have a big family. For the meal alone it was going to be £7500. So we was easily looking at spending £30,000 with everything in. I always wanted a Disney wedding so thankfully we changed our plans, My family wouldn't originally fly to Florida.

There are ten of us going and I am happy with that number. We have paid for them to get there which has cost £10,000 but that is staying on Disney property. If everyone was in a villa it would have been cheaper but not many of my family drive. We are having a wishes wedding that is costing approx. £10,000 with outside photography and having it filmed. This would be a lot less if we just had an escape wedding and we have added on lots extras but we are very happy with all the costs as this will be our first family holiday ever and the first time any of them have been to Disney.

All in all what I'm trying to say that it is a lot of money but its less than what we were going to spend on one day in England. And our Disney wedding is going to be ten times better than our wedding in England.

 

[Racey]

Your first step, if you havent already is speak to the people you mainly want if they would travel for your wedding? Then go from there, they may all LOVE the idea and have no hesitation to go disney for it.

If its in 3/4 years time then i'm sure if they save they could get the money together for themselves (if thats an issue).

I personally would love a wedding abroad and when the time comes we are because everyone rips you off in the UK (well, I feel that everyone does).

I want to price up a disney wedding of say 10 people (plus bride & groom), but I know it will always be in my head and its never going to come true so dont want to disappoint myself

 

[LegalGal]

Hi:
Sometimes just mentioning Dinsey World can put a sparkle in someone's eyes! Which is good news.

I too was worried about anyone & everyone when it came time to let everyone know that we had chosen Disney. Although our families distance is no where as great as yours, I was still petrified that the most important people to me, may not be able to share in our day. (Worried over finances, who has new borns, who has special needs, etc.)

The good news is that destination weddings are becoming more and more popular by the second it seems. With enough advance notice, I am sure your family will be more than egar to attend.

I too will be attending Law school (but in 09). We chose to wed prior to my start date because of the intense work load law school is. Waiting until you are done may be benificial not only financially, but for your state of mind as well.
Good luck. You will know when the time is right.