Did you see this: Marie Claire magazine posts "Should fatties get a room?" article.

[FergieTCat]

Nope being gay or black is something you are born as.

Fat is a choice and therefore I have the choice not to like it!

Yes, you've made that clear time and time again.

And it's the precise reason why I don't like bigots.

 

[EllenFrasier]

Never heard of the magazine before today and will never read anything in it after today.
I think most public displays of affection that go beyond hugging and/or a quick kiss are more than I want to see, no matter what the size of the person.
The writer of this article obviously has never had to lose a great deal of weight and was just spouting out the obvious things one has to do in order to lose weight. Duh. I think most overweight people know what their problem is, it's just fixing it that is the problem. It's more complicated than eating right, drinking water and exercising. If it was that simple, like turning off a switch, there would be a lot more people losing weight.

 

[luvmy3]

So if people say they don't like to watch gays together that's prejudiced, but it's not prejudiced to say you don't want to watch the "fatties either"? Either way it's wrong and it's prejudiced.

Its not wrong to not want to see something you don't find appealing. It would be wrong of she was calling the network and trying to get the show off the air and trying to force her opinion of what she finds right on everyone else. You may not agree with her opinion and think its wrong for you to feel that way, but its hers to have and its right for her.

 

[DWGal210]

This post says it perfectly; she is entitled to her opinion, but there was no reason to be cruel. People who are overweight shouldn't feel like lesser citizens.

In full disclosure, I am working on my weight - eating better, exercisng, etc. But I have more to lose so I'll be in this body for a while. Should I expect to be treated poorly because of my looks? Should I shrug it off because my body SHOULD offend people? I say no. But to those of you who feel superior as you jog past me on the track, I feel sorry for you.

I think the biggest thing in her "apology" is that she apparently doesn't understand the difference between supporting healthy weights & attitudes and being cruel to others.

Is obesity a problem in this country? Yes.

Does that mean that we should make "fat" people feel like they are lesser citizens? Absolutely not.

I don't condemn her for her thoughts-that accomplishes nothing. But I do question the intelligence of Marie Claire & Maura Kelly for publishing such an article--even if it's a blog.


ETA: Here's the "response" from Marie Clarie's Editor in Chief: http://fashionista.com/2010/10/excl...s-responds-to-controversial-fatist-blog-post/

Note: they've never actually seen the show. I have, I think it's hysterical. I don't think they make fun of fat people, but do think it addresses the insecurities in all of us.

 

[Robinrs]

Nope being gay or black is something you are born as.

Fat is a choice and therefore I have the choice not to like it!

Hate is ugly no matter where it's directed.

 

[NikitaZee]

Well, I've never seen the show, only a commercial for it. The female character (Molly I guess?) tells the male character "You just might get lucky tonight", or something like that. The mental image in my mind when I heard that was 'yuck'. I wouldn't want to see two obese people making out either, and I have plenty of people close to me - whom I love - who are obese. She could have said it a little more delicately, I guess - but I agree with others who have posted that she has a right to her opinion.

 

[cm8]

There is a difference between not agreeing with someone on a given topic and wanting an apology because you don't agree.

I read things I don't agree with every day but have never thought once that anyone owed me an apology for having a different opinion than I do.

Eh, she is entitled to her opinion whether or not you agree with it or not. I hate when people claim that because they don't agree with an article, statement, interview, or whatever they are owed some kind of an apology. The author didn't want watch fat people make out, so what? Just as she was free to not watch the fatties make out on TV everyone is free to not read the article she wrote about it.

I don't want to watch the obese make out either, should I apologize for that too? I imagine more people don't want to watch it than do. Not wanting to watch them make out doesn't equate to not wanting them to find love, exist, or anything else. It just means you don't want to watch them sucking face.

Some people are a bit too sensitive if they allow what one person they don't know says about other people they don't know bother them.

 

[Magpie]

It takes quite a bit of extra weight to fall into the "morbidly" obese category.

Not really. My husband has two strikes against him. One, he carries his weight all over, and two, he's never been what they call a "normal" weight. I don't think it's even possible. At his leanest, when he's 190, he looks thin. At that weight he's well proportioned from top to bottom and his stomach is flat and his shoulders are wider than his hips. But that weight is actually at the top end of "overweight" according to the BMI charts. At 205, he's "obese" and he gets a little belly. At 240 he's "morbidly obese".

And you know, it takes effort for him to stay down below 200! Gaining 15 pounds is easy. Practically everyone does that at one point or another, even people who find it easy to stay thin. And 45 lbs is not a lot, if you're already inclined toward being overweight.

 

[Pigeon]

One of the things I love about British TV shows is that the actors who play characters actually look like people, instead of the plastic botoxed, surgically enhanced, nipped and tucked anorexics that we insist must play every role.

The writer is a bigot, period. Her apology was bogus.

 

[wenrob]

I think the things she said were hateful and awful but what bothers me more is that a magazine would publish a piece about a show that the author has never seen.
I like the show though some of the jokes between Mike and his partner are pretty tasteless. I think they're pushing for laughs where they're not needed. Anyway, last week's episode was about how uncomfortable Mike was at the thought of Molly seeing him naked. Anyone who has struggled with weight could relate to that and most people who don't could find empathy. I doubt however this "writer" (it's my experience writers RESEARCH what they write about) would have been moved and unfortunately I don't think the show will make it because so many others feel the same way. They don't have that real life edge like Rosanne did in the beginning (I mean come on these guys are cops and they just blow off Molly's sister blatantly smoking pot?) and the supporting characters are a little ridiculous. Who knows though? Maybe this piece did some good and their ratings will sky rocket.

 

[Tinkermommy]

Marie Claire is a fashion magazine. The only have tall, thin women featured. It doesn't surprise me that they published this article. After all they only feature women (sometimes girls) that are extremely thin and not really all that healthy as many of them take drugs or diet pills or starve or are bulimic/anorexic. They are not usually practicing a healthy lifestyle either.

This is one person's opinion. Who cares what she thinks. If someone didn't post it here on the DIS, I would never have probably heard about it or read the article.

She's getting a lot of attention and so is the show. Who knows more people might tune into it watch it and see what it's about.

 

[palavra]

Nope being gay or black is something you are born as.

Fat is a choice and therefore I have the choice not to like it!

It's really sad that you cannot see your own prejudice. No, not all people who are fat are overweight by choice.

 

[FireDancer]

When I Googled bigot I got the following:

prejudiced person who is intolerant of any opinions differing from his own

a person obstinately or intolerantly devoted to his or her own opinions and prejudices

So anyone who is intolerant of the article writer's opinion that she doesn't want to see fatties make out is also a bigot.

In all seriousness just like bullying, bigot is a word that is thrown around way too often. Not wanting to see fat people, skinny people, gay people, straight people, or any other classification of people make out on the television doesn't mean you hate that group. It just means you don't want to see that group engaging in a PDA.

 

[BeenHereB4]

I'm about as likely to take dieting advice from an anorexic as I am an obese person. WTH does she know about being "healthy" if she's dealing with issues herself? She's just the other end of the spectrum of obesity. Neither one is healthy. Her advice may be correct, but don't come off sounding like it's the simplest thing in the world and you can't imagine how people can't see that. Hypocrite!

I agree with you. I mean, she can write what she wants to write, and I can write that I'd rather watch two "fatties" making out than two skin and bone waif looking people anyday.

 

[Dr.Girlfriend]

Nope being gay or black is something you are born as.

Fat is a choice and therefore I have the choice not to like it!

Yeah, my Dad had that choice when he got fat from all of the medicines he was on to help his cancer treatments.

I have the choice not to like you for making comments like that. Is there a block button on the DIS?

 

[PrincessKsMom]

When I Googled bigot I got the following:





So anyone who is intolerant of the article writer's opinion that she doesn't want to see fatties make out is also a bigot.

In all seriousness just like bullying, bigot is a word that is thrown around way too often. Not wanting to see fat people, skinny people, gay people, straight people, or any other classification of people make out on the television doesn't mean you hate that group. It just means you don't want to see that group engaging in a PDA.

Yes, but the author doesn't even want to see obese people walking.

 

[Dr.Girlfriend]

One of the things I love about British TV shows is that the actors who play characters actually look like people, instead of the plastic botoxed, surgically enhanced, nipped and tucked anorexics that we insist must play every role.

The writer is a bigot, period. Her apology was bogus.

 

[wvjules]

I agree with you. I mean, she can write what she wants to write, and I can write that I'd rather watch two "fatties" making out than two skin and bone waif looking people anyday.

How is that attitude any different than the attitude of the author in the article? Skinny people are ok to pick on but fat people are not?

ETA: I don't think either one is right.

 

[Robinrs]

When I Googled bigot I got the following:





So anyone who is intolerant of the article writer's opinion that she doesn't want to see fatties make out is also a bigot.

In all seriousness just like bullying, bigot is a word that is thrown around way too often. Not wanting to see fat people, skinny people, gay people, straight people, or any other classification of people make out on the television doesn't mean you hate that group. It just means you don't want to see that group engaging in a PDA.

Wow, it must be nice to only have to google bigot and never have to deal with it at all.


Must be nice.

 

[FergieTCat]

When I Googled bigot I got the following:





So anyone who is intolerant of the article writer's opinion that she doesn't want to see fatties make out is also a bigot.

In all seriousness just like bullying, bigot is a word that is thrown around way too often. Not wanting to see fat people, skinny people, gay people, straight people, or any other classification of people make out on the television doesn't mean you hate that group. It just means you don't want to see that group engaging in a PDA.

I was using this definition:

A bigot is someone who holds predefined negative views about a class of people.

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=bigot

Assuming, as I did, that the poster considers "fat people" a lower class of citizens.

If the poster considers fat people to be equal to herself in every way, then I apologize. But I doubt I will have the need.