DH is just never going to "get" our Aspie!

[missypie]

DS is 16 and rides his bike to school. DH was driving car pool and needed a phone number. He called DS' cell phone after school and told him to call him with the number when he got home. DS asked if he needed to go home right away. DH said, "Absolutely!" DS rode home, and called DH the phone number.

Then DS said, "Boy, I hope I don't get in trouble for missing the first Jazz Choir sectionals!"

DH had no idea that DS had a school commitment; he could have had someone else give him the phone number. But in DS' mind, his dad asked him to do something, he double checked, and he did it.

DH is never going to understand the Aspie mind!

 

[pcparamedics01]

DS is 16 and rides his bike to school. DH was driving car pool and needed a phone number. He called DS' cell phone after school and told him to call him with the number when he got home. DS asked if he needed to go home right away. DH said, "Absolutely!" DS rode home, and called DH the phone number.

Then DS said, "Boy, I hope I don't get in trouble for missing the first Jazz Choir sectionals!"

DH had no idea that DS had a school commitment; he could have had someone else give him the phone number. But in DS' mind, his dad asked him to do something, he double checked, and he did it.

DH is never going to understand the Aspie mind!

I have a HFA son 9. I think it's most husbands at times!

 

[Luv Bunnies]

It's tough, isn't it? My DH does way too much talking to our son with Asperger's. He wants to give these grand lectures on the importance of this and that and why he needs to pay more attention, etc. After a few sentences, he's lost him and then DH gets frustrated. He wants to spend all this time explaining why he needs to do something or why he can't do something. All our son needs is a few well-chosen words and then leave it at that. My son's psychologist has told me numerous times to keep things short and simple and don't confuse the issue. I'm trying to get DH to do the same thing but it's hard for him. I think us Mommies tend to "get" our kids the best.

 

[Schmeck]

Could you have your son's psychologist talk directly to your husband? I know that works out well for my husband - I could tell him this and that, but I'm just nagging... If I have someone else tell him, it's attended to immediately.

 

[missypie]

DH knows DS' diagnosis and pays lip service, but has never really become educated about it. When DH tries to get DS to do something that is very difficult for him (e.g. turn off that video game IMMEDIATELY!!!), and I try to quietly explain WHY it's difficult, DH says I'm always making excuses for him.

 

[tacomaranch]

I was told by the autism specialist that autism is being a male to the extreme!

DS also goes on long explanations. After 3 words DS is just lost. I think it makes DH feel better to rattle on. I don't think DH really understands.

I hope your DH will be able to understand what happen someday.

Blessings, April