Debt Dumpers 2025

[DanceDisney23]

No. 4 - I'm scared about spending. More scared that we don't make enough money. You can only cut so much until you have to start upping income. I'm afraid to talk to my boss about me finding another job cause I'm afraid he'll take that to mean I don't like it and want to leave, and he'll let me go right then.

There is no need for your boss to know that you’re looking for another job until you give your notice to leave for the new job.

If you mean telling your boss about looking for a side hustle, again, unless you plan to go work for a competitor, there is no need for your boss to know.

 

[StitchesGr8Fan]

But everyone has piled on.

That’s because people on these boards have been giving the same advice for a long time. More than a year. And yet you still have been taking vacations, spending money you don’t have, and letting your wife ruin your financially (or use her as an excuse, I’m not sure which at this point). Posters are tired of giving advice that doesn’t get taken.

 

[StitchesGr8Fan]

There is no need for your boss to know that you’re looking for another job until you give your notice to leave for the new job.

If you mean telling your boss about looking for a side hustle, again, unless you plan to go work for a competitor, there is no need for your boss to know.

Exactly. Why in the world would you tell your boss you are looking for another job? You don’t owe them anything. It’s none of their business.

 

[WDW_fan_in_TX]

Honestly, we haven't take a vacation since our work trip to Chicago in July. But I digress. I am changing and doing better. It's just taken a while, unfortunately. I want it to happen overnight and suddenly see all this money in my budget by cutting stuff here and there. I've read and taken a lot of the advice. I think that can be seen by anyone.

That’s because people on these boards have been giving the same advice for a long time. More than a year. And yet you still have been taking vacations, spending money you don’t have, and letting your wife ruin your financially (or use her as an excuse, I’m not sure which at this point). Posters are tired of giving advice that doesn’t get taken.

 

[FreeTime]

Honestly, we haven't take a vacation since our work trip to Chicago in July. But I digress. I am changing and doing better. It's just taken a while, unfortunately. I want it to happen overnight and suddenly see all this money in my budget by cutting stuff here and there. I've read and taken a lot of the advice. I think that can be seen by anyone.

So you cancelled your Disney trip that you were planning to go on a few weeks ago?

 

[WDW_fan_in_TX]

Because that's just the relationship people in my company have. It's an extremely small company (only 6 of us upstairs and 20 in the entire company). I've told him from the beginning that if something was happening, I'd let him know. And he told me if anything was going down that affected me (and my job status), he'd give me a heads up. He said as long as we're honest and up front with each other, then that's all he can ask. It's a lot different here, and I really, really like it. Much more family oriented.

There is no need for your boss to know that you’re looking for another job until you give your notice to leave for the new job.

If you mean telling your boss about looking for a side hustle, again, unless you plan to go work for a competitor, there is no need for your boss to know.

Exactly. Why in the world would you tell your boss you are looking for another job? You don’t owe them anything. It’s none of their business.

 

[Willow Ufgood]

Honestly, we haven't take a vacation since our work trip to Chicago in July. But I digress. I am changing and doing better. It's just taken a while, unfortunately. I want it to happen overnight and suddenly see all this money in my budget by cutting stuff here and there. I've read and taken a lot of the advice. I think that can be seen by anyone.

What about the trip to WDW that you were scheduled to take earlier this month? You know, the one that you had to go on because you got a room thru your niece who is a CM and it was already paid for and you would lose $$ in airfare if you didn't go? Did you take that trip?

I'm curious because if you ended up staying home, did Disney refund the money you paid for the room? And if that's the case, where did that refund money go?

 

[MattB2G]

And he told me if anything was going down that affected me (and my job status), he'd give me a heads up. He said as long as we're honest and up front with each other, then that's all he can ask. It's a lot different here, and I really, really like it. Much more family oriented.

Don't believe him..... I worked at a Family Business for 2 years and planned on working there a lot longer, until the economy slowed down, and I was shown the door on a Friday with no warning.

You owe this person and the company nothing.

 

[DanceDisney23]

Don't believe him..... I worked at a Family Business for 2 years and planned on working there a lot longer, until the economy slowed down, and I was shown the door on a Friday with no warning.

You owe this person and the company nothing.

I also worked at a “we are family” business where the owner and founder still ran the show. It was code for “we’re not very professional here and there is no HR to go to with issues” They paid below market value, too.

They did give people two months notice before a round of layoffs. We had a nice celebration for them in the conference room. Which didn’t really help anything and just made things awkward for these folks who had to keep coming in knowing their job got cut. The rest of us could all see how bitter they were. There was a lot of gossiping. A healthy severance package and a clean cut would have been better, I’m sure.

On the flip side, the owner got mad when someone left with the standard two weeks notice. Demanded at least two months which is very unrealistic. One person had to finish a project after they left, in their spare time, which I don’t think was legal.

WDW_fan_in_TX, if you find a new job, your new employer will expect you to start within two weeks of offering you the job, no matter how loyal you feel toward your old company.

 

[royeheat]

Don't believe him..... I worked at a Family Business for 2 years and planned on working there a lot longer, until the economy slowed down, and I was shown the door on a Friday with no warning.

You owe this person and the company nothing.

I have learned that loyalty is a one way street no matter how long you have been with the business

 

[FreeTime]

As a small business owner, all I ask is that they let me know when they can if they plan on making a change. I will support them and even help them to find a better job for in the community. However, I don’t expect nor try to require a long notice period. My intent would be if we ever had to let everyone go to give them is much notice as possible but I know that may not be realistic based on the situation. So I would not communicate now for something that may or may not ever happen.

 

[sandam1]

Because that's just the relationship people in my company have. It's an extremely small company (only 6 of us upstairs and 20 in the entire company). I've told him from the beginning that if something was happening, I'd let him know. And he told me if anything was going down that affected me (and my job status), he'd give me a heads up. He said as long as we're honest and up front with each other, then that's all he can ask. It's a lot different here, and I really, really like it. Much more family oriented

I've been working at my job for over 25 years and my work place has a similar vibe. That being said, I wasted the first 10 years or so by trying to be the "no problem"/overachiever child, thinking that I would eventually get my due. I was wrong. It was only when I started being more vocal - in growing my skills and contributing to projects as well as advocating for myself - that things changed.

It was an uncomfortable process - I liked working quietly in the background - but it needed to happen. First, I started volunteering for more responsibilities. At the same time, I started doing was paying attention to job listings - not because I was necessarily job hunting, but because it helped me get a sense of what "market rate" was for jobs with similar responsibilities. Once I had some successes under my belt, I started the conversation about the disconnect between what I was making and what someone with my responsibilities should be making. I wasn't talking from an "I need to make more money" position, but a "look at what these other organizations are paying" position. It took some time (our entire organization's pay scale was out of whack), but I finally got a significant increase. And taking on a larger role gave me higher visibility in the organization and (I think) an additional layer of job protection. My goal is for our board members (I work in a non-profit) to know who I am, know what I do, and know why I am a valuable asset. Is my job bulletproof? No. But I feel like I've read the room and made it more likely that I can stay in this job long-term.

 

[barkley]

anyone else doing last minute errands today? today is the annual KFC run for our house-my youngest who is on the spectrum is so NOT a traditional Thanksgiving foodie but we found years ago that KFC fills the bill (just gotta make sure to put it in the garage fridge so it doesn't get consumed ahead of the day). thank goodness for discount codes cuz their prices have certainly gone up! speaking of discount codes-we are taking advantage of Papa Murphy's 1 topping medium pizza for $1 offer today cuz we have pizza toppings on hand so we can supplement (a couple of us in the house each have a Papa Murphy's account so we each took advantage of the one time use offer and went with a topping on each we do NOT have at the ready).