Dear MIL...

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

I'd hesitate at 2 hours as well. And I'm nowhere near a germophobe.

Yeah you're supposed to let food cool down if it was hot before putting it in the fridge but 2 hrs to me is way too much time without popping it in the fridge.

 

[Diane♥Disney]

That is really horrible

What really?? Why on earth would she do that????

I agree it's horrible and I have no idea why she does it. She is just clueless I guess. It is hard to explain to a young child why Meme didn't get them a present but some of their cousins got one. My kids are older now and they know not to expect anything from Meme. She does the same thing with her kids too. Birthdays are the same way.

Honestly, with that going on, I would probably start staying home on Christmas.

Believe me I wish I could. We go there on Christmas Eve and don't stay very long.

 

[Pixiedustaway]

I agree it's horrible and I have no idea why she does it. She is just clueless I guess. It is hard to explain to a young child why Meme didn't get them a present but some of their cousins got one. My kids are older now and they know not to expect anything from Meme. She does the same thing with her kids too. Birthdays are the same way.



Believe me I wish I could. We go there on Christmas Eve and don't stay very long.

That is truly awful. How sad for your kids. It's not about the physical gift it's the fact that she could not care less about them.

 

[Diane♥Disney]

That is truly awful. How sad for your kids. It's not about the physical gift it's the fact that she could not care less about them.

I keep telling my husband she doesn't have to buy them anything just come over and say happy birthday to them.

 

[MamaBelle4]

I agree it's horrible and I have no idea why she does it. She is just clueless I guess. It is hard to explain to a young child why Meme didn't get them a present but some of their cousins got one. My kids are older now and they know not to expect anything from Meme. She does the same thing with her kids too. Birthdays are the same way.



Believe me I wish I could. We go there on Christmas Eve and don't stay very long.

Next time one of your children asks, tell them to ask Meme. No reason you should have to make excuses for her.

 

[MamaBelle4]

Dear MIL,

As the years go on, I find more and more ways I'm like you. Thank you for being who you are and raising your son the way you and FIL have. I am blessed to have you in my life, no matter how crazy it gets sometimes.

Dear future SILs,

I have told my girls one thing about boys. "You find a boy who treats you the way Daddy treats Mommy and that's all that matters to me." You do that and we will get along just peachy. You've got a lot to live up to, though. If you can do it, this family has a lot of love to give.

Love,
Your future MIL

 

[disneychrista]

OK, what goes bad after two hours on the kitchen counter.

Heck food safety guidelines even allow 4 hours of between 41 - 135 degrees before it is considered unsafe.

 

[3Gsandme]

Dear MIL,

You raised a fantastic son and I love you for that despite your short comings. He's an excellent husband and father and we're lucky to have him. You're not perfect, but you sure did something really right with him.

 

[rigs32]

When you know your DD doesn't keep secrets, perhaps don't say out loud that you wish you didn't have to include me for the holidays.....

 

[VandVsmama]

Heck food safety guidelines even allow 4 hours of between 41 - 135 degrees before it is considered unsafe.

But you haven't met my MIL, for whom all time is relative & flexible. Combine that with a flexible memory in a person who can't quite remember when she took it out of the oven along with watching your MIL give herself food poisoning more times than you can count over the past several years, and you, too, would have a 2 hour rule!

 

[usnuzuloose]

But you haven't met my MIL, for whom all time is relative & flexible. Combine that with a flexible memory in a person who can't quite remember when she took it out of the oven along with watching your MIL give herself food poisoning more times than you can count over the past several years, and you, too, would have a 2 hour rule!

I would just label it and put it away and throw it out later. Say thank you and leave it at that.

 

[jdb in AZ]

Heck food safety guidelines even allow 4 hours of between 41 - 135 degrees before it is considered unsafe.

Depends on the food, and the digestive systems of the people who have to eat it. DH can safely eat a lot of stuff I can't.

 

[Dawnlight]

Dear MIL-

Even though you live in another country, you still have 6 grandchildren in this world that you should love, care about, and acknowledge. You should know their birthdays and send a card at the very least. It would be nice if you sent cards or small gifts for holidays and milestone events such as bar mitzvahs and graduations. In this day and age of computers and social media, there is no reason why you can't reach out and stay in touch with your grandchildren despite how you may feel about your son or myself.

Your once-a-year token call asking if you dear son is CEO of his company yet (he isn't and wont be), whether child x has gotten in to Harvard (he didn't nor did he attempt to), whether we've built an addition onto our too-small-for-you house (want to fund it?), and whether we'll be relocating to your country (not planning on it!) is mean-spirited and hurtful.

 

[DisneyNutMary]

Dear MIL, I'm sorry I didn't get time with you before you passed. But I hope we had enough time for you to see your son is happy.

Dear Future DILs,
I hope you see how much I love my sons and have only the best intentions. I hope when you hold your own son, you will understand the bond I have with mine. And mostly, I hope you don't mind the Disney trips I plan to take you and my grandchildren on, and enjoy our time together while I am still around to enjoy it.

 

[BadgerGirl84]

Dear MIL-

Even though you live in another country, you still have 6 grandchildren in this world that you should love, care about, and acknowledge. You should know their birthdays and send a card at the very least. It would be nice if you sent cards or small gifts for holidays and milestone events such as bar mitzvahs and graduations. In this day and age of computers and social media, there is no reason why you can't reach out and stay in touch with your grandchildren despite how you may feel about your son or myself.

Your once-a-year token call asking if you dear son is CEO of his company yet (he isn't and wont be), whether child x has gotten in to Harvard (he didn't nor did he attempt to), whether we've built an addition onto our too-small-for-you house (want to fund it?), and whether we'll be relocating to your country (not planning on it!) is mean-spirited and hurtful.

Wow. Once a year communication? And a rude call at that? I'm sorry.

 

[VandVsmama]

I would just label it and put it away and throw it out later. Say thank you and leave it at that.

you guys are misunderstanding me a bit and it's probably because I failed to mention that when we've gotten food poisoning from MIL's cooking, it's not from eating her leftovers....it's from eating the food that was "just prepared," only "just prepared" could have been 5 hours ago and it was sitting at room temperature (78-79 degrees) that whole time. And prior to cooking the meat, she'd leave it out on the counter to defrost overnight. Chicken, for example.

We never consume any of her leftovers. Too risky! It's like taking a trip on Mr Toad's Wild Ride through your GI tract! You want to go on a cleansing diet? Forget juicing or eating organic....Eat at my MIL's house! LOL

 

[Pixiedustaway]

When you know your DD doesn't keep secrets, perhaps don't say out loud that you wish you didn't have to include me for the holidays.....

This. This right here is why I started this thread. We should be allowed to say these things on here without everyone carrying on about how grateful we should be.

 

[Tasha228]

Dear MIL,

Thank you for being like a 2nd mom and a true friend to me. Thank you for watching the kids on those rare occasions we get to go away for a day or two. Thank you for showing me that not all MILs are bad. BUT, most of all, thank you for not giving me anything else that I can contribute to this thread except gratitiude.

P.S. Now my previous MIL...she was a doozy. Even more reason I'm thankful for the MIL I have now!

 

[tarheelmjfan]

This. This right here is why I started this thread. We should be allowed to say these things on here without everyone carrying on about how grateful we should be.

A MIL not wanting her DIL to come over for the holidays & a MIL that buys dollar store items, socks & underwear are two very different situations. There's no comparison in them. It appears Rigs32 has a valid reason to gripe about her MIL. I don't think anyone would say her comments are ungrateful.

 

[bigsis1970]

Dear MIL - Thank you for the loving son you created and I married, I am not your ideal DIL but I bite my tongue (as I'm sure you do) from time to time because I (We) love him so..