Dealing with The Loss of a Son

[ndloewen]

Oh Stacy,

I wish I knew what to say. I am so very, very sorry.

I was shocked and so very saddened to read this. I am so, so sorry that your husband has made such poor choices. As a grieving mother myself, I know that this is the very last thing you need.

Many prayers for you and your family.

 

[pfishgirl]

Thank You..

He left Florida today to head back to NJ with my stuff. him & a friend are driving. I leave tomorrow morning. I'm flying. Now I wish I would of booked it for today cause I don't want to be here. I feel lonelier then ever. Knowing this was the last time my Husband & I will ever take a trip, or be in "our" house together here in Florida.

Yesterday, he did give me a little happiness. We went downtown for dinner at Rain Forest Cafe. Then to the Grand Floridian to see the Christmas decoration and to see the Gingerbread house. He bought me a Gingerbread man and a shingle, but he also bought one of each for his Girlfriend to surprise her. And he wouldn't eat one with me when I asked. He is saving it to do with Her I suppose.

Which I really don't understand because in 2 weeks he is taking her to stay here in "Our" Home and in "Our" bedroom and to Disney for the weekend. He is taking her to see the Osbourne lights.

 

[DisneyFairytale]

That is such a sad story. You sound like a very tough lady. It sounds like he likely went very quickly, which hopefully brings some peace to you and your husband.
I can only imagine what you are going thru, an it touches me that much more to have read this, as I am also an EMT in our home town.

I have nou doubt in my mind, that he is watching over you both. I send you all my love and prayers to you and your husband.

 

[MagicMe]

OMG Stacey - I just happended over here and read you latest entry. I agree that in some strange/sick way, he is still trying to deal with your loss but this is no way to handle it. I myself (having gone through it) can never understand how someone can willingly have an affair with a married man. And for her to know you personally is just wrong.

I hate to see that you now have this to deal with along with the loss of your son. I know you feel like you are losing everything you held dear. You will get through this and I truly believe that you will find happiness again. In the meantime -

 

[pfishgirl]

Thank You

 

[Planogirl]

Wow, you are one tough lady. I'm so sorry for your loss and everything else you have to deal with.

 

[pfishgirl]

Ughhhhh.... Came to.. I don't even know what... I've been crying for 2 days now and I feel so lost without my son...

I miss my son so much and today and tomorrow are torturing me.. I wish I could of bypassed Christmas all together..

I know my friends and family are trying to help but getting Mad at me because I am not agreeing to go to get togethers is Not helping



Damien.. Please lend me some strength Pumpkin.. Mommy needs it right now

 

[Trentmom]

Ughhhhh.... Came to.. I don't even know what... I've been crying for 2 days now and I feel so lost without my son...

I miss my son so much and today and tomorrow are torturing me.. I wish I could of bypassed Christmas all together..

I know my friends and family are trying to help but getting Mad at me because I am not agreeing to go to get togethers is Not helping



Damien.. Please lend me some strength Pumpkin.. Mommy needs it right now

Very sorry for the loss of your son

I am sorry others are upsetting you.

I Just wanted to send you a big warm hug

 

[MagicMe]

As frustrating as your friends are - keep in the back of your mind that they only want the best for you and want to help. Unfortunately, grief is such a personal thing and each person has to work their way back. I immediately thought of you this morning knowing that this day would be especially hard. These holidays that used to be filled with happiness are now times to get through. The firsts are the worst and the seconds won't necessarily be great but each step makes it a little more bearable. It's not something you "get over" but you learn to live with it. You've heard it a million times and at this point won't believe it but life will get better. In the meantime - know that he would want you to work through the grief and eventually be happy once again.

 

[safetymom]

Sending hugs to you today. Holidays are tough when we remember our loved ones that aren't with us anymore.

 

[TheDisneyGirl02]

Ughhhhh.... Came to.. I don't even know what... I've been crying for 2 days now and I feel so lost without my son...

I miss my son so much and today and tomorrow are torturing me.. I wish I could of bypassed Christmas all together..

I know my friends and family are trying to help but getting Mad at me because I am not agreeing to go to get togethers is Not helping



Damien.. Please lend me some strength Pumpkin.. Mommy needs it right now

(((Hugs)))

 

[MAKHayes-DisneyDiva]

Sending hugs and strength to you. We especially miss our little guy at the holidays too, so I feel your pain.
Here's some pixie dust.

 

[DipsyDoodles]

The profound love you are feeling for your son is your strength. He is sending that to you. Try to Smile when you think of him.

 

[LivinInTheCastle]

I am so sorry to hear of your tragic loss. I hope your new angel can comfort your family.

 

[pfishgirl]

Ugh!!! It's almost over now..

My Husband is closing on his new place early. It was suppose to be Jan 25th. They upped it to next Friday. He will be moving out for good by Saturday..

I won't even really see him this week either.. He is leaving tonight and won't be back til Wednesday. He'll stay here Wednesday & Thursday & possibly Friday but not too sure..

I go on the 19th to the Divorce center to get the process started. Not my choice but he is pushing hard to get it over with..

My heart is so broken and I cry all the time

We should be divorced in March.. He'll be on his cruise with his Girlfriend while I will be in a court room getting a divorce.. Using a Divorce center only 1 spouse has to show up..

This really really stinks and Im so scared.. Ive never been alone before. I always at least had Damien by my side.. I miss my son so Much and the Holidays were just horrible without him

 

[dee47]

You will make it. You are a strong lady with a big heart. It isn't easy and won't be for a while, but you will go on and keep your son's memory alive.

I'm sorry you have to go through all this.

 

[MAKHayes-DisneyDiva]

You will make it. You are a strong lady with a big heart. It isn't easy and won't be for a while, but you will go on and keep your son's memory alive.

I'm sorry you have to go through all this.

Hang in there! You know we're all here for you.

 

[Jenvenza]

UGH! My heart is breaking for you!!! I am so sorry you are having to go through all of this.

 

[MagicMe]

You are strong and you have a special angel by your side to help you through this. It will take time but you will get used to this new stage of your life and may actually come to enjoy it. But all that will take time. In the meantime, know that you are in our thoughts.

 

[TammyAlphabet]

Ready to finally tell the news.... Still hoping on a miracle and hanging by a thread it will change..

We are heading down to Florida for a few days.. but not for anything good.. I will be cleaning out my stuff from "Our Dream Home" "Our Future Retirement Home" the home, I just finished decorating..

My husband and I will be divorcing. He has been having an affair with our son's Best Friend for a few months now. I'm beyond devastated, shocked and was blindsided by this. She just turned 20 He will be 40 in January..

I treated her like a daughter.. I can not believe she can do this to me. She knew my husband was hurting because we both talked to her when we took her and our son's other Best Friend to Disney for 2 weeks in the summer to give them a break from dealing with things before school started again.. He told us how he was hurting and felt lost.. And she totally took advantage of the situation for herself.. I don't get it.. She doesn't feel an ounce of guilt, remorse or anything.. She even went with me to a Support Group meeting for Grieving parents..

How do you sleep with your best friend's father and break up your best friend's parents marriage??

He wasn't even gone 6 months when the affair started..

And same for my Husband.. How do you sleep with your son's best friend, a girl he took to Sr prom? and someone who is young enough to be his daughter..

He says they are in love and are planning their future together

Why is it everyone else deserves happiness but me? What did I do to deserve all this pain, hurting, and devastation??

He never once said he was unhappy!!! He said the opposite.. Said he felt closer then ever to me.. I was getting flowers once a week right up until the day I forced him to confess..

Ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

This is unbelievable! I just happened upon this thread and I was blown away. I lost my husband in Feb. 2008, he was shot in a robbery. Now I am having problems with my teenage son and drugs. I want to send out a virtual hug to you and tell you to hang in there.

I have a friend who lost her daughter and soon after she also got a divorce from her husband. Similar scenario. His excuse was that she was not being nice to him anymore and he was tired of it. Excuse me!! She was dealing with the loss of her child!!!!!! How insensitive they can be sometimes.