DIS Dads DDC XIII - Zerphonics spoken here!

[IamTrike]

I was going to post this yesterday afternoon, but was in such a food coma that I could barely even see my keyboard. Yesterday for lunch, my group at work went out to lunch to a Brazilian Steakhouse called Sabor. Think Ohana's, but with more meat and a worse view (not that downtown Milwaukee is bad, but it's no Cinderella's Castle).
In addition to the fancy salad bar, they give you a small round card about the size of a drink coaster. On one side it's green and says "Yes, Please". The other side is red and says "No Thank You." If you leave you card green side up, the roving meat peddlers come to your table, and deliver meat from big skewers: Top sirloin, bottom sirloin, prime sirloin, parmesan pork, garlic beef, ribs, leg of lamb, roasted chicken, bacon wrapped chicken, pork sausage.... there might be more, I can't honestly remember.

I didn't eat dinner last night and only had a couple of pieces of toast this morning for breakfast.

The salad bar is a trap.

 

[that's nice]

A while back we were talking about kids being scared about certain rides. I mentioned that in preparation for this trip DD and I were watching all the rides at Disneyland on Youtube.

This is DD on BTMRR at WDW in March.

and here she is last week on BTMRR at DL

Great pictures!!! I'm glad she ended up liking it!!!



Steve- You've done the right thing. We are lucky that both my parents and my inlaws say nothing to us as far as parenting goes. I never fully realized how lucky we are that they stay out of our (parenting) business.



Barry- Pics or it didn't happen!

 

[that's nice]

The salad bar is a trap.

 

[Cinderella's Fella]

I was going to post this yesterday afternoon, but was in such a food coma that I could barely even see my keyboard. Yesterday for lunch, my group at work went out to lunch to a Brazilian Steakhouse called Sabor. Think Ohana's, but with more meat and a worse view (not that downtown Milwaukee is bad, but it's no Cinderella's Castle).
In addition to the fancy salad bar, they give you a small round card about the size of a drink coaster. On one side it's green and says "Yes, Please". The other side is red and says "No Thank You." If you leave you card green side up, the roving meat peddlers come to your table, and deliver meat from big skewers: Top sirloin, bottom sirloin, prime sirloin, parmesan pork, garlic beef, ribs, leg of lamb, roasted chicken, bacon wrapped chicken, pork sausage.... there might be more, I can't honestly remember.

I didn't eat dinner last night and only had a couple of pieces of toast this morning for breakfast.

We have Fogo de Chao, same thing, flip the card red green ect. I get gift card about every three months from a vendor for it. I'm sitting on three right now.

By the way, this thought crossed my mind. You remember a bit ago when Mike (DisneyFed) said he had a busy night. Have you notice that we haven't heard from Dave since then?

 

[BigTikiDaddy]

Love, this Randall! Thanks for encouraging us to challenge our perspectives!

to take this into the theoretical, I wonder, are there more problems like this with divorced grandparents? My parents are both divorced and remarried (both after we were grown) and my DW and I will frequently talk about how we think the non-biological spouse is influencing their disagreement with our parenting. (And if they were still married, there would be more context since they raised their kids the same way). Another reason to stay married! Thoughts on this?

MIL is remarried, but Frank her new husband does not influence her in any way I see, he has his views on parenting and is an incredibly insightful man, but does not push any views on us. Granted his kids are no picnic.. FIL does and says nothing, he's a former biker who is a big whiney kid , too afraid to say/do anything that might upset his daughter. I know who was the one to spoil DW when she grew up.

The salad bar is a trap.

Reminds me of that Simpsons conga line .."You don't win friends with salad! You don't win friends with salad!"

 

[BigTikiDaddy]

We have Fogo de Chao, same thing, flip the card red green ect. I get gift card about every three months from a vendor for it. I'm sitting on three right now.

Why do you keep them under your seat?

Oo..smart-assery ownage!

 

[afwdwfan]

Have you ever had one of those days where you just wish you stayed at work and didnt come home? If not...well I am having one and it is not fun! Lauren got in trouble twice at pre school today and Ethan brought home two math papers with F's. Well, he has been getting lax for the last week or so and I have told him that he has to pay attention or else he might be in danger of having to repat 1st grade...( I cant even think that thought)...anyway the scouts were supposed to go caroling tonight so I told him he had to stay home and work math since he was not paying attention at school we were going to have school at home. Well, my Mother-In-Law was still here from where she watched the kids while we are at school...she chimes in and tells us that we are not being fair...and that obviously we dint want to go this evening anyway...kept going. I spole up and told her that she needed to stop. She kept on and then I told her that I did not appreciate how she was talking to me. after tears from everyone in the house but me she finally goes home and everthing is at Defcon 5! This was a decision that Shari and I made together on the way home from work and she blamed me for it. I told Shari that I did not like to be talked to like that in my house and that she and I were the parents not her Mother. Of course Shari is in the middle and not wanting to cross her Mom (I am the only person who will stand their ground with her and I think that is why we clash now and then). Then Shari's Dad calls to chew my butt out for upsetting Nana..luckily she told him that Nana stuck her nose in where it did not belong. I wish I was on call tonight and could go to work just to get away for a bit. I don't drink but I think I could drink till I dropped tonight! I might even start smoking too if I thought it would help!!! Ok..welll I am going to get off here...Thanks for letting me vent about how I am the worst Husband, Father, and Son-In-Law in the world!~

Sorry you're having to deal with that. Makes that kidney stone look like fun, doesn't it?

I think you did the right thing. You'd be a bad parent if you didn't make Evan work on his math. If MIL is overstepping her bourndaries, she needs to be made aware of it, otherwise it will just continue to get worse. Hopefully everyone will sleep on it, think it over and get over it.

Thanks guys for all the welcome backs. It was also nice to know that I was thought of when the quake hit here back in March. Scary day that day was...I was at work when the class started shaking. I grabbed my 2 students and carried them to the middle courtyard in the school. It was the month are so after that that was hardest. Waiting in line for hours to get things that are daily staples...eggs, milk etc. Stores running out of bread, toilet paper and other things that you take for granted...no gas...no electricity....I even broke down in the middle of the store one day. BUT hey things are much better now...not quite normal...but much better.

Wow... that is awful. I can't even imagine going through something like that. I'm glad you made it out ok!

Yep believe it or not this area is on the same power grid as the nuclear power plant. (it censored the city name).

Ok, sorry... that made me laugh.

Steve - way to stand your ground with the in laws. Mine are visiting now for the week. They used to try and "help" parent our kids, but Bambi gave them a royal a%# chewing and they've pretty much backed down.

Do you make Bambi do all of the dirty work????

The salad bar is a trap.

By the way, this thought crossed my mind. You remember a bit ago when Mike (DisneyFed) said he had a busy night. Have you notice that we haven't heard from Dave since then?

 

[IamTrike]

We have Fogo de Chao, same thing, flip the card red green ect. I get gift card about every three months from a vendor for it. I'm sitting on three right now.

By the way, this thought crossed my mind. You remember a bit ago when Mike (DisneyFed) said he had a busy night. Have you notice that we haven't heard from Dave since then?

I remember Fed saying he was making plans to ruin some bad guy's night. Hope he's okay. ( Fed not the bad guy.)

 

[AirGoofy]

Yep believe it or not this area is on the same power grid as the nuclear power plant.(it censored the city name). When all that damage happened to the nuclear plant it threw things into chaos. That's why Tokyo Disney Resort was closed for over a month and Disney Sea almost two months.

I think we take for granted how BIG the United States is as a country. When New Orleans went thru the hurricane years back, I'm sure what you are describing is similar to the folks who were there. However, some 700 miles North, we were not effected. Glad to see you back and prayers for all those continuing to deal with disaster areas.

 

[Grooovertoo]

2. At the end of the week each child got to pick a pin from their favorite thing. DW was trying to get DD to get a princess pin, but DD would have none of that, she wanted something from Star Tours.

That's awesome. My DD bonded with me a year and a 1/2 ago by taking a liking to Star Wars. Even having a Star Wars birthday!!! I was so proud

and here attacking the Death Star Piñata

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I was going to post this yesterday afternoon, but was in such a food coma that I could barely even see my keyboard. Yesterday for lunch, my group at work went out to lunch to a Brazilian Steakhouse called Sabor. Think Ohana's, but with more meat and a worse view (not that downtown Milwaukee is bad, but it's no Cinderella's Castle).
In addition to the fancy salad bar, they give you a small round card about the size of a drink coaster. On one side it's green and says "Yes, Please". The other side is red and says "No Thank You." If you leave you card green side up, the roving meat peddlers come to your table, and deliver meat from big skewers: Top sirloin, bottom sirloin, prime sirloin, parmesan pork, garlic beef, ribs, leg of lamb, roasted chicken, bacon wrapped chicken, pork sausage.... there might be more, I can't honestly remember.

I didn't eat dinner last night and only had a couple of pieces of toast this morning for breakfast.

So I take it that stall 2 will be occupied here in a little bit? Just remember...courtesy flush

 

[AirGoofy]

A while back we were talking about kids being scared about certain rides. I mentioned that in preparation for this trip DD and I were watching all the rides at Disneyland on Youtube.

This is DD on BTMRR at WDW in March.

and here she is last week on BTMRR at DL

While correlation does not imply causation, it did seem like viewing the rides ahead of time helped.

Great pics.

Steve - ,---Big Thumb!

The rest of you, remember this in the years to come when your kids have kids of their own and they are doing things you don't agree with.

When I read your post Steve, I was trying to remember if I had problems with MIL in rising our DD's, when it dawned on me, am I that kind of FIL? Yea, I probably am, but only in my house. It's a hold over from when they lived with me. I will be more thoughtful in the future because of your post Steve, Thank You!

It bothers me when my dds go to MIL and she feeds them junk food, which is something that a I asked her not to, but that is a grandparent thing. But, one time she fed my oldest dd so much candy that she puked. Life's lessons, and I enjoyed her having to say that I was right.

On the other hand, my parents got to where they would come and watch my oldest child in activities and blow off my younger child. I told them that favoritism was not acceptable and they needed to stop as it hurt my younger child. The last time it happened, my mom blew off my youngest's soccer game to visit her deceased mother's tombstone. There was no symbolic or anniversary date, it was just more convenient for her to drive 1 hr further west, blow off my younger child's game, visit tombstone, watch older child's activity, and go home. This was not the 1st incident, and they had done things like buy the older one a bike and the younger one a tshirt and give them go them at the same time.

So, I asked her to leave. If I'm in anyone's house, then I and my family need to be respectful of certain rules. But, if you cross that line and assume by parenting role or do something harmful to my child, then I will intervene.

 

[AirGoofy]

Steve - way to stand your ground with the in laws. Mine are visiting now for the week. They used to try and "help" parent our kids, but Bambi gave them a royal a%# chewing and they've pretty much backed down.

DW told my dad one time during the holiday, deservingly so, that he could be the Christmas tree topper. I thought it was hysterical.

 

[AirGoofy]

I don't see how I could be matched up against you. I'm not in the Disdads league... maybe next year.!!

You mentioned being up by 60 which was what I saw. Sorry. I'm trying to start an NBA fantasy league. Still need a few more.

 

[AirGoofy]

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and here attacking the Death Star Piñata

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Awesome idea. Death Star piñata.

 

[Cinderella's Fella]

Great pics.



It bothers me when my dds go to MIL and she feeds them junk food, which is something that a I asked her not to, but that is a grandparent thing. But, one time she fed my oldest dd so much candy that she puked. Life's lessons, and I enjoyed her having to say that I was right.

On the other hand, my parents got to where they would come and watch my oldest child in activities and blow off my younger child. I told them that favoritism was not acceptable and they needed to stop as it hurt my younger child. The last time it happened, my mom blew off my youngest's soccer game to visit her deceased mother's tombstone. There was no symbolic or anniversary date, it was just more convenient for her to drive 1 hr further west, blow off my younger child's game, visit tombstone, watch older child's activity, and go home. This was not the 1st incident, and they had done things like buy the older one a bike and the younger one a tshirt and give them go them at the same time.

So, I asked her to leave. If I'm in anyone's house, then I and my family need to be respectful of certain rules. But, if you cross that line and assume by parenting role or do something harmful to my child, then I will intervene.

Let me explain. No, there is too much. Let me sum up.
I don't supersede DD or her husband. And if I disagree with what they are doing, we talk about it in private, not in front of the kids. But I do take on the parenting role at our house, mostly because he doesn't and DD wants me too. She thinks I'm a Great Papa.

 

[jmwest]

Morning gents. I haven't been on the boards for several weeks. My job got crazy (which is a good thing) so I haven't had much time. Thought I'd pop in and see how everything is going. Hopefully I'll be able contribute to the tomfoolery around here a little more often. Hope everyone is healthy and happy.

 

[Bo Duke]

Let me explain. No, there is too much. Let me sum up.
I don't supersede DD or her husband. And if I disagree with what they are doing, we talk about it in private, not in front of the kids. But I do take on the parenting role at our house, mostly because he doesn't and DD wants me too. She thinks I'm a Great Papa.

And i see that as understandable. If we go to my parents or her parents each have rules we may not have at home and we must follow them or there are consequences. At the same time our rules should still be enforced in their house also especially if we are there. I know grandparents tend to spoil grand kids. It's the circle of life. But When they come to our house their rules (or bending of) no longer applies. I do agree if they see something they should discuss it with us away from the children. But favoritism and telling our children it is ok when A) we just said no, and B) we are standing right there, or even if we aren't. Those are some things we deal with. And It also seems as though when my boys stay the night at my MIL the next couple of days they are sooo naughty.

Sorry that was probably just a bunch of keyboard rambling and didn't make any sense.

 

[BigTikiDaddy]

That's awesome. My DD bonded with me a year and a 1/2 ago by taking a liking to Star Wars. Even having a Star Wars birthday!!! I was so proud

and here attacking the Death Star Piñata

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Was she able to destroy the pinata? The exhaust port isn't very big after all, only a couple of meters...

 

[RodBelding]

Thanks guys for all the welcome backs. It was also nice to know that I was thought of when the quake hit here back in March. Scary day that day was...I was at work when the class started shaking. I grabbed my 2 students and carried them to the middle courtyard in the school. It was the month are so after that that was hardest. Waiting in line for hours to get things that are daily staples...eggs, milk etc. Stores running out of bread, toilet paper and other things that you take for granted...no gas...no electricity....I even broke down in the middle of the store one day. BUT hey things are much better now...not quite normal...but much better.

Wow, that's crazy. Def puts things in perspective. Glad to hear you made it through safely.

The salad bar is a trap.

 

[lnevo]

And now for the most dangerous part of your trip... the return to civilization!

Yep, decompressing now... laundry is going, groceries are restocked, and dog has been retrieved (unfortunately). The kid had a good day at school (we had a biting/hitting/paying attention issue) and waiting for nap time now...

So far I'm compensating pretty well. Luckily we return in 3 months so hopefully that should keep the edge off.