DDA Chapter 4

[tink2020]

I'm in need of some advice. Long story short, I found out that Nicholas had taken a $50 bill out of Alyssa's money and put it into his. I confronted him, he readily admitted to it, and when I asked why he said he wanted to get enough money to get a Wii. I had the whole stealing talk with him, how I'm not proud of him for this, if he were older he would go to jail for it, and that I've lost trust in him. I have no clue how to punish for this. Taking away video games for a week or two just doesn't seem to do it justice. I considered having him pay a "fine" to Alyssa, since she is the one he stole from, but I'm not sure about that either. Anyone have any suggestions or have had this problem with your kids?

I don't have any advice for you, but I wanted to give you all a big hug! I can only imagine how you and Nicholas are both feeling -- I know it's tough when kids let their parents down (in any aspect), on both sides! Thus far, it sounds like you handled it well.

 

[Blueeyes101817]

So....i have to tell you guys something that I havent told anyone...After chatting with some of you guys---and some of my friends---i have finally been convinced to sign up for an online dating site...
Then, as i was thinking about it, there was a post on the community board talking about some free ones..so i signed up and figured what the heck...i just signed up this morning, but have talked to one guy on instant messager.

So that was a big step for me..now we just see what happens...but i had to tell SOMEONE!

 

[tink2020]

So....i have to tell you guys something that I havent told anyone...After chatting with some of you guys---and some of my friends---i have finally been convinced to sign up for an online dating site...
Then, as i was thinking about it, there was a post on the community board talking about some free ones..so i signed up and figured what the heck...i just signed up this morning, but have talked to one guy on instant messager.

So that was a big step for me..now we just see what happens...but i had to tell SOMEONE!

I think this is a good place to share! Not only do we care about you..... but we have at least two satisfied online dating "customers" who frequent the thread!

 

[Tammi67]

Thanks. When I was talking to him I was telling him that when adults steal from other people they can go to jail for that. Then I said maybe you should have to go to jail....home from school and straight to your room. I told him he could come out for dinner but then back to his 'cell'. Then I explained that the only things prisoners could have in their jail cell were books and pencil and paper to write letter. He didn't like that suggested punishment at all!

 

[tink2020]

Ok ladies, I'm headed to bed. Have a great night!

 

[Blueeyes101817]

I think this is a good place to share! Not only do we care about you..... but we have at least two satisfied online dating "customers" who frequent the thread!

and thats why i told you guys..im sure nothing will come out of it, but it was just a big step for me to sign up..haha

 

[Blueeyes101817]

Ok ladies, I'm headed to bed. Have a great night!

it was nice chatting with you today! have a great night!

 

[Tammi67]

So....i have to tell you guys something that I havent told anyone...After chatting with some of you guys---and some of my friends---i have finally been convinced to sign up for an online dating site...
Then, as i was thinking about it, there was a post on the community board talking about some free ones..so i signed up and figured what the heck...i just signed up this morning, but have talked to one guy on instant messager.

So that was a big step for me..now we just see what happens...but i had to tell SOMEONE!

Good for you, Jen! I was really nervous about it at first, and as long as we were emailing or IMing it was fine. When I had to make or take that first phone call I was petrified. The thing that attracted me to Bob right off the bat was how easy he was to talk to on that first phone call. We hit it off from the start! Good luck to you! But just be careful. Always let someone you know know where you are going, when you are going and when you will be home. Meet in a public place, and NEVER get into a car with him until you know him well. Also give a friend the name and phone number of the guy you are meeting, just in case.

 

[Tammi67]

Night Jennifer.

 

[Blueeyes101817]

Good for you, Jen! I was really nervous about it at first, and as long as we were emailing or IMing it was fine. When I had to make or take that first phone call I was petrified. The thing that attracted me to Bob right off the bat was how easy he was to talk to on that first phone call. We hit it off from the start! Good luck to you! But just be careful. Always let someone you know know where you are going, when you are going and when you will be home. Meet in a public place, and NEVER get into a car with him until you know him well. Also give a friend the name and phone number of the guy you are meeting, just in case.

Thanks Tammi--I was already thinking that it would be terrifying if/when a phone call and face to face meeting..The guy I talked to tonight was really nice to talk to and was funny..but i dunno if i could meet anyone-i dunno why i think that?!

But if i do..ill remember your tips---i would always go in a public place and i would make sure alot of people know where i was,,just in case

 

[Tinkaroo]

im glad you enjoyed it! Do you get the same type of massage each time or a different one each time?

I can get one of 4 "core" treatments each month - a massage is just one of the options. However, it's the one I love the most, so I'm sure I will be doing it the most often! But the plan will give me some freedom to try things w/o worrying that I'm "wasting" $$ so to speak.

It really is a cool idea - I can't believe no one thought of it earlier!

Here's their website to take a look: www.hiatusspa.com

Are they separate? I will only possibly use a couple by this weekend, if others are interested. (See above). Thanks!

They are separate, but if no one else speaks up, I'll just send you all of them!

I'm in need of some advice. Long story short, I found out that Nicholas had taken a $50 bill out of Alyssa's money and put it into his. I confronted him, he readily admitted to it, and when I asked why he said he wanted to get enough money to get a Wii. I had the whole stealing talk with him, how I'm not proud of him for this, if he were older he would go to jail for it, and that I've lost trust in him. I have no clue how to punish for this. Taking away video games for a week or two just doesn't seem to do it justice. I considered having him pay a "fine" to Alyssa, since she is the one he stole from, but I'm not sure about that either. Anyone have any suggestions or have had this problem with your kids?

At least he admitted to it - that's one step in the right direction!

What about making him do chores around the house, until he has effectively done what you consider $50 worth of work, and then I like Theresa's idea - have him donate it. So, he sees what is necessary if you want to earn $$, as well as have him give it away since he stole it orginally.

Whatever you decide - good luck!

Lindsay, I'm so glad you enjoyed your VD gift. I could use a massage right now. I have this one spot on my right shoulder blade that is in a complete knot.

Me too! That's where I carry my tension.

So....i have to tell you guys something that I havent told anyone...After chatting with some of you guys---and some of my friends---i have finally been convinced to sign up for an online dating site...
Then, as i was thinking about it, there was a post on the community board talking about some free ones..so i signed up and figured what the heck...i just signed up this morning, but have talked to one guy on instant messager.

So that was a big step for me..now we just see what happens...but i had to tell SOMEONE!

I think that's a great move, Jen. I was talking to some friends at work about this the other day, and I would totally do this if I were single. It seems so much more purposeful than just randomly trying to meet people. I hope it works out great for you!

 

[tinker1bell]

I'm in need of some advice. Long story short, I found out that Nicholas had taken a $50 bill out of Alyssa's money and put it into his. I confronted him, he readily admitted to it, and when I asked why he said he wanted to get enough money to get a Wii. I had the whole stealing talk with him, how I'm not proud of him for this, if he were older he would go to jail for it, and that I've lost trust in him. I have no clue how to punish for this. Taking away video games for a week or two just doesn't seem to do it justice. I considered having him pay a "fine" to Alyssa, since she is the one he stole from, but I'm not sure about that either. Anyone have any suggestions or have had this problem with your kids?

Tammi,

I think the "fine" idea is good. I agree about taking away the video games. Not really gonna do it. Maybe when he saves enough money, make him wait another month or two before he can get it.

 

[Blueeyes101817]

Well, i think im going to head to bed nice and early tongiht for me--have a great night guys!

 

[lovesdumbo]

And as for shopping, don't be too disappointed -- I got a contoured changing pad with my coupon. Exciting, huh?

Nice!

Has anyone heard from Kristine lately? Just wondering how the rest of her trip was.

I think she must still be shaken by the NIU tragedy.

So....i have to tell you guys something that I havent told anyone...After chatting with some of you guys---and some of my friends---i have finally been convinced to sign up for an online dating site...
Then, as i was thinking about it, there was a post on the community board talking about some free ones..so i signed up and figured what the heck...i just signed up this morning, but have talked to one guy on instant messager.

So that was a big step for me..now we just see what happens...but i had to tell SOMEONE!

Good for you!

Thanks. When I was talking to him I was telling him that when adults steal from other people they can go to jail for that. Then I said maybe you should have to go to jail....home from school and straight to your room. I told him he could come out for dinner but then back to his 'cell'. Then I explained that the only things prisoners could have in their jail cell were books and pencil and paper to write letter. He didn't like that suggested punishment at all!

That sounds good. I like the idea of "working" for the $50 too.

 

[PNO4TE]

Jennifer - the nursery is going to be precious!

 

[lovesdumbo]

So I crunched some numbers for May.

First you've got to understand Emma is my picky one! So I'm limited to any place that has chicken fingers/nuggets and hot dogs. She won't eat Disney mac & cheese, won't eat grilled cheese that isn't made at home with Velveeta cheese, won't eat pizza or Disney's new healty pasta (won't eat sauce so she doesn't like the look of Disney's pasta).

So I ran the numbers considering the following TS meals:
Crystal Palace breakfast
Tusker House breakfast
Cape May breakfast
Garden Grill dinner
Sci Fi lunch
Chef Mickey's breakfast.

If I assume each CS is worth $10 and each snack is worth $2.50 then those features are worth $150 for 6 nights. The DDP will cost me $287.88 for the 6 nights. With the meals above the DDP will save me $56.52 but typing this I realized that I forgot to figure in the meals tax so I would save even more. When I compare those same places to using DDE the savings for the meal plan is only $18 but again I forgot to figure in the meals tax so I would save even more.

I also figure out what it would be if I substituted 2 of the 1 credit meals with California Grill and the savings would drop to about $13.

If I could get a lunch at LeCellier I would save about $69 over DDP and about $27 over DDE.

I guess I should go back and figure out the meals tax thing but I honestly wasn't planning on doing that many TS meals with Emma. I don't know if that would improve our trip to have a few set meals or if it would just stress me more wondering what/if she would eat. CS might be easier.


ETA: I went back and added 6.5% sales tax is that right????

The savings of DDP over its cost would be between $60 and $80. The savings of DDP over DDE would be between $22 and $36.

Anyone have any opinions on my estimate of CS meals? I think my snack estimate is a bit too low.

 

[MrsHeg]

I'm in need of some advice. Long story short, I found out that Nicholas had taken a $50 bill out of Alyssa's money and put it into his. I confronted him, he readily admitted to it, and when I asked why he said he wanted to get enough money to get a Wii. I had the whole stealing talk with him, how I'm not proud of him for this, if he were older he would go to jail for it, and that I've lost trust in him. I have no clue how to punish for this. Taking away video games for a week or two just doesn't seem to do it justice. I considered having him pay a "fine" to Alyssa, since she is the one he stole from, but I'm not sure about that either. Anyone have any suggestions or have had this problem with your kids?

I often wished that my kids came with an instruction booklet, if they do this - you do this, unfortunately that isn't the case. I would definitely have him return the money to Alyssa himself with an apology. And I would make it clear to him that he would not be getting a WII because of what he had done.

 

[Tammi67]

I often wished that my kids came with an instruction booklet, if they do this - you do this, unfortunately that isn't the case. I would definitely have him return the money to Alyssa himself with an apology. And I would make it clear to him that he would not be getting a WII because of what he had done.

You and me both. He isn't anywhere near being able to get a Wii, maybe he has half of the money saved. And with his $2 a week allowance for helping out around the house, a whole new system will be invented and marketed before he gets $300!

Thanks everyone for your advice.

 

[MrsHeg]

Good night Jen, good luck with the dating service, just BE CAREFUL.

 

[Tinkaroo]

So I crunched some numbers for May.

First you've got to understand Emma is my picky one! So I'm limited to any place that has chicken fingers/nuggets and hot dogs. She won't eat Disney mac & cheese, won't eat grilled cheese that isn't made at home with Velveeta cheese, won't eat pizza or Disney's new healty pasta (won't eat sauce so she doesn't like the look of Disney's pasta).

So I ran the numbers considering the following TS meals:
Crystal Palace breakfast
Tusker House breakfast
Cape May breakfast
Garden Grill dinner
Sci Fi lunch
Chef Mickey's breakfast.

If I assume each CS is worth $10 and each snack is worth $2.50 then those features are worth $150 for 6 nights. The DDP will cost me $287.88 for the 6 nights. With the meals above the DDP will save me $56.52 but typing this I realized that I forgot to figure in the meals tax so I would save even more. When I compare those same places to using DDE the savings for the meal plan is only $18 but again I forgot to figure in the meals tax so I would save even more.

I also figure out what it would be if I substituted 2 of the 1 credit meals with California Grill and the savings would drop to about $13.

If I could get a lunch at LeCellier I would save about $69 over DDP and about $27 over DDE.

I guess I should go back and figure out the meals tax thing but I honestly wasn't planning on doing that many TS meals with Emma. I don't know if that would improve our trip to have a few set meals or if it would just stress me more wondering what/if she would eat. CS might be easier.


ETA: I went back and added 6.5% sales tax is that right????

The savings of DDP over its cost would be between $60 and $80. The savings of DDP over DDE would be between $22 and $36.

Anyone have any opinions on my estimate of CS meals? I think my snack estimate is a bit too low.

Bernadette, just off-hand, I think your snack credit estimate is likely a bit low. Also, are you talking $10 for each of you for CS meals ($20 total per meal), or would you be sharing, so the $10 is total? If it's the latter, that might be a bit low too, in some circumstances.

Good luck with the number-crunching! It begins to make my head hurt after a while. I'm glad I can't do it currently, since I'm staying at the Swan.