DD is seeing "the film" today - LOL

[shatzjsl]

Lauren (5th grade) was nervous and had butterflies in her stomach this morning because they are seeing what she calls "the film" today. I told her that it is nothing to be afraid of that it happens to every woman. She said "But Mom, the boys will know that we've seen it!" She wanted to know if I would come and get her if she got grossed out and threw up.

I don't remember being this traumatized over seeing "the film" when I was in school. I told her that if she needed to, we would talk about it some more tonight. I also told her that there shouldn't be any surprises because I have already told her most of what she will see. Can't wait to talk about this tonight!

 

[pfishgirl]

we were shown the girls film first, then the next class, we were shown the boys film... will she see both ??

ds told me he was grossed out by the baby coming out of the poor woman on the table...

good luck to your daughter NOT to get too grossed out!!!!

 

[shatzjsl]

I don't think they will see the boys film. At least the permission slip I signed didn't say anything about it. She would probably still be hidden under the bed if that was the case!

 

[laurie31]

I also remember being mortified. Not from the info - as with your dd, my mom had told me such things, but to me as a 10 year old, it ranked in the same catagory as other private bodily functions. Something one didn't discuss in public. I wouldn't have wanted to watch a film about urination either. Sure it's perfectly natural how the kidney makes the urine, it stores up in the bladder until...well, you get the idea. All highly embarrassing to a pre-teen.

We wouldn't even say the word "period." We called it (in whispered tones) "the dot at the end of the sentence"

Hope everything goes well with your dd's film viewing, and maybe the boys won't make too many crass jokes. I think lots of the sexual harrassment rules in school today are too over the top but I would have loved for someone to put a stop to those jokes! We wanted to sink into the floor!!

Laurie

 

[SC Minnie]

DD's class does theirs in 3 weeks. They do the girls and the boys separate but don't talk about each others. They don't show a film but the school nurse comes in and talks to the girls and answers questions (I didn't ask about the boys since I don't have one ). Her teacher also told me that they are all instructed to not talk to each other about this outside of class. If they have questions they should talk to their parents or an adult they are comfortable with. So no boys making fun of the girls etc and no girls spreading misinformation.

DD and I have talked some but I will have a very indepth talk with her before the school talk. I don't want her to be totally freaked out by anything. My mother never really had the 'talk' with me so it is important to make sure DD knows what is going on.

 

[HauteCuisine]

We wouldn't even say the word "period." We called it (in whispered tones) "the dot at the end of the sentence"

 

[Idahomom]

When ds13 was in 5th and 6th grade they would spend about 3 days learning about the human body. So watching "the film" was part of it. Before school on the first day of this he said "it's going to take them 3 days to teach me what I learned in 15 minutes on a fishing trip with dad!"

 

[MUFFYCAT]

My DD saw it 2 weeks ago. She already has her period, so she knew most of most of the girls movie. She thought the boys movie was icky.

 

[SPAM]

i remember seeing "the film" in 5th grade. we got a little deodorant, a pad, a booklet. we also watched the boy's video.

 

[NMAmy]

I don't know why they get so traumatized over the film. DD knew everything there is to know long before they talked about it in school and was never shy about asking questions or hearing the answers but was totally freaked out about seeing the film in school. She even wanted me to write her a note to skip it but I told her that would single her out and was that what she wanted?

After she got home, she told me, "That was no big deal. They didn't tell me half the stuff you have. I don't think the school nurse knows as much about it as you do."

 

[jennyl772003]

I still remember seeing "the film'

The parents were invited to attend, and one mother actually did. Ironically enough, it was the mother of an especially developed young lady. It was common knowledge that this movie was a little late for that particular girl. The mother then proceeded to ask questions during the Q & A portion. At the time, we all thought this was VERY weird, but in hindsite, she was just trying to make things easier for us.

 

[always quiet]

My youngest will be seeing this in a couple months. She knows it about "puberty" but it's all the 'little details' I haven't share yet that she has no idea about yet. I plan to talk to her before than.

I remember my DS seeing this when he was in 5th grade. He came home from school, shaking his head, saying "Too much information!!" What I don't think is fair is that they allow the boys to watch both movies but the girls only see the girl's movie. I think in 5th grade, that's all they NEED to see!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Rock'n Robin]

I remember our 5th grade film (this was in 1974, it was actually a "film", LOL). It was sponsored by Kotex and talked about belts, etc. that no one was using anymore by that point. It was a cartoon; actually I think Disney may have helped with it.
The boys got to go play baseball!!!!
Now where I live the kids see films in 4th AND 5th grade. I signed a form for DD#1 but didn't know exactly when she would see it (I could have previewed it on an evening prior, but was busy that day). I remember I happened to pick her up that day and it was SO QUIET in the 4th grade hallway--boys and girls saw separate movies--they were all barely speaking, whispering if at all. I asked DD what was up and she said "we saw the pancake movie today". (this is because the 4th grade movie involves girls on a camping trip, one starts for the first time, mom somehow explains using pancakes-believe me, I'm going to the preview this time just so I can figure out what she's talking about!)
DD#2 will be seeing this soon.
Robin M.

 

[monarchsfan16]

Guess I got lucky. Never saw "The film". Apparently my school district thought it was mom's duty to fill us in. Freshman year of high school though (I'm a senior now), we had to see the Miracle of Life. That was traumatizing
And the poster that said they wouldn't refer to it as periods, my friends and I still have nicknames for it. Otherwise the boys pass out

 

[Mandabella]

There is a boy's film? When did that start?

When I was in school, only the girls got to the watch the movie, get samples, and talk to the school nurse. We also received a free copy of Are you there God? It's me, Margaret by Judy Blume. The entire time we did this, the boy's were outside playing kickball! This was in the mid 80s. I think I did this more than once, because I changed school districts during the 4th-6th grade periods. (no pun intended)

My movie had the girl that played Annie in it.

 

[boucheresq]

the funny thing is that we all automatically knew what the OP was talking about with the "film".

 

[Thumpershere]

"Her teacher also told me that they are all instructed to not talk to each other about this outside of class. If they have questions they should talk to their parents or an adult they are comfortable with. So no boys making fun of the girls etc and no girls spreading misinformation. "


I would think doing it this way just makes it worse. Some will think it's a big secret and something to be ashamed of and the rest will already be planning the discussion for after class with their friends. LOL

At my DD's school they saw the movie at the end of 4th grade but it was after school and a parent went too. Out of about 60 4th grade girls, I think about 6 or 7 went to the movie with their mom. None of the girls seemed bothered or embarassed by any of it. The movie was beyond lame though. The mom in the movie told one girl that after you have your period a few times you won't even notice it anymore and will even forget about it WHEN YOUR HAVING IT! A few of us moms just


Gina

 

[shortbun]

A 7th grade girl got on my bus yelling, "we learned about p....... in health today!" The shrieking and yelling was so loud, I had to pull my bus over and tell them to change the subject. "But we're just talking about one of our classes!" said the precocious brat who will be attorney general of something some day! Change the subject, now! says I. I was pinching my leg to stop myself from laughing. The boys just sat there like stones.

 

[JennBon]

I remember seeing "the film" in 4th grade. We never saw the boy's one and we didn't see the video showing a baby being delivered until 8th grade health class. I remember in the period video, one of the women made pancakes shaped like female reproductive organs to celebrate her daughter getting her period. That traumatized me more than anything else...I couldn't eat pancakes for years!

 

[Danauk]

My class at school have to watch 'the film' in a few weeks and I have to be there with them to answer questions (although the school nurse takes the actual lesson, I am just in there with her.) In our school our year 5 girls (your 4th grade I think - 9 - 10 year olds) watch one film about periods. Then the year 6 (5th grade) boys watch it, although not at the same time as the girls. Then the year 6 girls and boys watch a different film together (the whole birds and bees thing.) I have found though that the kids I teach are very grown up and street wise and are very sensible about the whole lesson. Most of them know the information already, in fact a few of them have told me things I did not know!!!!