DBF not supporting my Disney plans.....

[Magic Mom]

I agree with this and the others. Are you more serious about Disney or your wedding? He may be feeling that there is a conflict. Not everyone wants to do disney every year, and as a partner part of the deal is respecting one another.

 

[PrincessBelle09]

I have to agree with all of the advice you've been given so far. It sounds like your DBF is just being mature and financially responsible. If this relationship is serious enough for him to be asking you about wedding plans, you both need to sit down and discuss your future and finances. Disney may just not fit in to the picture right now.

 

[zscfan]

Thanks for everyone's input.......I should clarify....I actually enjoy working OT for my trip, because it gives me more shopping money. I actually don't have to work overtime to afford the trip. I am very blessed to have a good job and low bills. But every dollar from the OT gives me more $$$ to travel with.

And as for my fiance.....he is a horrible saver!!! I promise, trust me on this! It is just that travel is a priority of mine, and he would rather fritter away money (eating out, always buying snacks at movies, etc.).

We are engaged and I do have a ring, but we decided on a "long" engagement. I don't know what that means yet.

Also, when I do travel , whether Disney or not, I always travel cheap. In the case of Disney, it is always Free Dining at a Value resort during hurricane season.

But for the posters who mentioned that he might not want to go 3 years in a row, you might have a point......

Anyway, it was good to hear some other opinions on this subject.

 

[Disneyrsh]

ok

 

[crisi]

I think it's odd that you called him your DBF in your first post and now he's your fiance.

Why? Sometimes people slip up. I call my son by the dog's name. Fiancee is a hard word to spell, she may have simply been avoiding it.

Anyway, I agree that you should save - if he wants to save for a wedding, that's a good long term goal - and I think people are right, he's a keeper. Right now, with few responsibilities you can spend the cash you have in hand - rent, feed yourself, gas insurance - DISNEY. As you get older life gets more complicated and its going to be a lot easier if you start getting used to the idea that large vacations might not happen every year - or every other year.

 

[Mrs. Charming]

I think it's odd that you called him your DBF in your first post and now he's your fiance.

I actually don't like the word fiance, so I called DH my DBF up until we were married! (LOL, the whole 9 months we were together...)

 

[Indiana Rose Lee]

What us wrong with the word fiancé?

 

[Mrs. Charming]

What us wrong with the word fiancé?

I just didn't like it. It was too formal for us He's Jay, the guy I love.

 

[cm8]

Thanks for everyone's input.......I should clarify....I actually enjoy working OT for my trip, because it gives me more shopping money. I actually don't have to work overtime to afford the trip. I am very blessed to have a good job and low bills. But every dollar from the OT gives me more $$$ to travel with.

And as for my fiance.....he is a horrible saver!!! I promise, trust me on this! It is just that travel is a priority of mine, and he would rather fritter away money (eating out, always buying snacks at movies, etc.).

We are engaged and I do have a ring, but we decided on a "long" engagement. I don't know what that means yet.

Also, when I do travel , whether Disney or not, I always travel cheap. In the case of Disney, it is always Free Dining at a Value resort during hurricane season.

But for the posters who mentioned that he might not want to go 3 years in a row, you might have a point......

Anyway, it was good to hear some other opinions on this subject.

, and because you have chosen to respect his feelings, this will be remembered then next time that you want to go to WDW.

 

[tigger51276]

My husband hates Disney, I got him to go once, not his thing, so I leave him home and I go with my kids and usually with my best friend and her husband and kids or with another good friend of mine. Find a girl friend or family member who would like to go and enjoy yourself. I say you only live once! It doesn't sound like you are getting married anytime soon and it sounds like DBF isn't saving any money for the wedding so do what makes you happy.

 

[PixieDustandEeyore]

I dunno about the fiance dbf comment... I call my fiance my boyfriend and my fiance...its not that i am any less committed etc. just I got used to boyfriend so it comes out that way sometimes

Lets just call men our DSO... teehee disney significant other works well for me

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

Why? Sometimes people slip up. I call my son by the dog's name.

We do that too.

What us wrong with the word fiancé?

Personally, it never rolled off my lips comfortably. Reminds me of this Seinfeld episode:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=04ueFND7JT4

Luckily, I was only engaged 5 months. It doesn't bother me when other people say it (except the woman in the video), just sounded awkward for me.

 

[MMluvsWDW]

I agree with another poster. What about doing a long weekend trip, hotel and everything to Disneyland for a Disney fix. That way you're saving money (for DBF) and doing Disney (for you). Might be a decent compromise. My now husband and I had many of these same discussions, he's wasn't a disney lover (it's growing on him) back in the day.

 

[wide awake]

I adore travel, and hate frittering money away on things I feel are dumb...movie snacks, eating out, etc... But that is me, and it also sounds like you. It also sounds like DBF or fiance or whatever doesn't want to go to WDW this year. Fine !! Life is short. Go with a friend or relative, and have a good time. DBF will be happy that you're not pressuring him and not giving him any guilt feelings. As for saving for the wedding...GAG !!! The honeymoon trip yes...a party for a bunch of people you may/may not know well...NOPE !!! Justice of the Peace, then use your money for something worthwhile. I let my fiancee talk me into an expensive wedding. Huge mistake. I've always regretted that my parents spent the money for something I feel is a big waste of time. I should have refused and said if it was that big a deal to him his family could pay...which wouldn't have happened in a million years. People make a big deal about weddings. Trust me. You're not going to come up w/ something fab that no one else has ever thought of/done. If this has to be the one day in the sun for you in your life...that is a problem right there.
Take trips, enjoy yourself, if people want something you don't then THEY can pay for it !

 

[zscfan]

I can't get used to calling him a fiance.....he was my DBF for 3 years!!!!!! And I personally think that finace is a very "formal" word.....I know it is silly, but I just don't like the word.

 

[cheerforchelsea]

My DH can't understand why the rest of the family loves to go to WDW - so we leave him at home. He spends his money on clothes and eating out. I hate to shop and don't mind eating at home so it is WDW for me. I think if WDW is what you enjoy doing and you can afford it - go whenever you want.