Or am I overreacting?
2 weeks ago I went out on a date with a very nice man. He is 35 and I am 31. We met off a dating website. When we emailed or chatted online at first, he did not type well at all and kept saying when he saw me he would explain why. Then he told me that he doesn't drive, not thrilled but I had an idea of why he didn't.
I pick him up, we go to dinner, it was very nice. However as soon as we sat down he said he always wanted to go on a Disney Cruise, maybe if things work out we could do that together. I thought wow, great a little weird but nice. He didn't know how much I loved Disney so I thought it was a good sign.
Then he started to tell me about his life. He is a recovered addict (drugs and alcohol) 9 years. Good for him. That was why he did not have his liscense. He can get it back soon he told me.
He also said that because of the drugs he has trouble writing.
That was a Saturday, we saw each other again Tuesday and then Thursday that same week.
My concern is that I am going to be his driver, he has asked me to take him several places over the course of the next few months. His mother will be dead 6 years this Feb. my birthday is in Feb. as well. He already wants to meet my family ( he knows my stepfather, they used to work together ) taking all of us out for my birthday.
He then asked me to drive him about 2 hours to visit his mother's grave. This is where my issue starts. WE don't know each other well enough and I think its weird. We talk often enough and I am happy about that but I am finding out more things about him and on our last date together we just went out for a quick bite of Pizza and well he took his teeth out in the restaurant.
Then he told me that he can't read or write well because he is Autistic. He wa also married 9 years ago but had it anulled because he was too high and drunk.
I am trying to give him the benefit of the doubt, but maybe its me I am overthinking things and everything will be fine. Should I just see where things go or should I be concerned?
You said you picked him up, so he doesn't know where you live right? My advice is to E-Mail him, no more face-to-face visits.
He does maintance in the Town Hall Building where he lives, so he can walk to work.
It's very political so he knows people, which is how he keeps his job.
I want to thank everyone for taking the time to read the thread and help me make this choice.
Or am I overreacting?
2 weeks ago I went out on a date with a very nice man. He then asked me to drive him about 2 hours to visit his mother's grave. This is where my issue starts. WE don't know each other well enough and I think its weird. We talk often enough and I am happy about that but I am finding out more things about him and on our last date together we just went out for a quick bite of Pizza and well he took his teeth out in the restaurant.
Then he told me that he can't read or write well because he is Autistic. He wa also married 9 years ago but had it anulled because he was too high and drunk.
I am trying to give him the benefit of the doubt, but maybe its me I am overthinking things and everything will be fine. Should I just see where things go or should I be concerned?
It was obvious from the details given that the dude lost his teeth due to drug use. Do I suggest a person who lost his teeth should never be involved in a relationship...no. Would I date a person who lost all his teeth due to drug use...no. I probably wouldn't date someone who had lost all their teeth for a good reason. Just one of those things I am particular about.
While I did end it yesterday, I am actually quite surprised at how quickly rumors actually start haha.
I never said anything about him taking Meth or Shaking.
My stepfather told me that he did do drugs but went to rehad and is now sober. He didn't know for how long, but he also said he has lots of money. Last year he got in touch with my stepfather because he was looking to buy a house. He told me that on one of our dates as well.
I don't feel this person is a stalker but he does not know where I live and I am not changing my email address or buying a throw away phone.
I sent him an email last night and have not heard back from him since. Done and over with.
I do appreciate everyone's input but its done now.