These have already been answered...
- You wait at the merge point for your party, or your party waits at the merge for you. No additional process involved.
- If you believe you need a longer break, speak with the CM and find out if some form of Rider Swap may be an option. You may need to pre-plan with your family and tell them not to wait for you. I highly doubt the whole party will be granted a Return Time.
- After the merge can be managed as well. People have already reported how this works with young kids. No reason to think it's different. Again if you need longer - see above.
I'm not sure I agree that absolutely everything is predetermined, but yes I do think there are defined processes - whether or not a process is put into action depends on factors that cannot always be preplanned. Do you know the exact evaluation details for each attraction? What about for the park in general? What if there is a fire? A fire at a restaurant vs a fire on your attraction? Believe me, there are defined processes but the guest is simply told to follow instructions from the CM. Defined processes don't have to be publicly posted. Pretty much any job, any company, has policies and processes that are only internal documentation.
AQR also has defined processes but there is variation depending on certain factors. The general public does not need a flowchart of how AQR
might be handled because 1st it would likely confuse more people than it helps; 2nd it gives the impression the guest has control to select which option; and 3rd it could very likely lead to abuse.
The basic process for AQR is known. It's been explained. The different factors that impact it have been explained. At this point you simply seem to be arguing for the sake of arguing. I'm very sorry this
DAS change is causing you so much consternation. It's been known since early April there would be changes. It's been known since the latter part of May what those changes really mean. Anyone with a trip in August had opportunity to cancel if this was a deal breaker. I certainly understand not wanting to disrupt the family's vacation plans that may have been in place for a year, but that means you are actively choosing to roll with the changes. You do have control, you simply don't like those choices.