Had a short wait for DL chat today, apparently sunday mornings are better than other days. My HFA son was denied and they suggested return to queue which is disappointing on a family vacation to be separated. I'm also not sure how it actually helps on rides with no cell service like indiana jones. How would we know when to return? She said we could just wait for our party at the merge point but that defeats the purpose of avoiding the sensory experience of the environment that's over-whelming him.
I really don't know why he didn't qualify. They wanted to know school accommodations, but not sure how those relate to lines at all? And they wanted to know how he deals with other lines but that's the thing - he doesn't. We avoid him waiting as much as possible because the situation quickly degrades and that's not an episode we want to deal with on vacation (which is why we've continued to vacation at disney. We know how to make it work for him).
Anyone know if we can try re-applying for this trip? My son is very worried now. We haven't done disney without DAS since we learned about it after he was diagnosed, so maybe it'll be better than he thinks. I'm willing to try and trying to convince him too. But if he's going downhill while we're there, can we ask again there?
I wanted to give an update since we went to
disneyland 10/15. RTQ didn't really work as I hoped. The first time was Snow White, they wouldn't let my son join us in the queue with his food. We were gonna use it on Indy, but the line was moving fast enough that we weren't sure how to reconnect in time so we just convinced him to stay with us. Then we had no cell or wifi service once we were deep inside Indy anyway, so I'm not sure why they told me it had improved. We managed to use it on Toy Story on our CA day, but I'm not really sure if we even used it "right." We just had him join us when he was ready. He told the CM he was using RTQ, but really, he wasn't with us when we first got in line, but the CM let him meet us.
I planned out our day so most of the lines were less than 30 minutes, which can be the same as LL lines anyways, so I thought he should be fine. The big thing I didn't realize until we were there was how much more his anxiety increased by having follow my plan and the LL return times, rather than deciding together in the moment as he's been used to. And because we were following LL and my low line/crowd plan, we crisscrossed the park several more times, doing about 50% more steps than we usually did on a DLR day. This, of course, made him more tired and irritable.
By 4 pm he was determined to apply for DAS again. He went to city hall and they sent him outside to a kiosk but he couldn't find it and thought it was closed. Went back to city hall and they called, confirmed it was open, sent him back to the kiosk (apparently there's two buildings). They asked him the same questions, went to call for a supervisor the same as they had when I had initially called with him, but he told them a supervisor had already been called the first time and they ended up approving him before the supervisor got on for some reason. I have no clue what he said, but he gets very loud and progressively physically aggressive when he's perseverating, so I have a feeling his autism was shining in all of its glory by that point since he was very frustrated.
After he was approved, we just used our LLs we had collected for the evening and DAS for 1 ride, but his anxiety was noticeably improved. His mood was better in the morning at DCA on 10/16 but quickly degraded as the day went on because he was still very tired from the day before even though we slept in. Only needed DAS for 2 or 3 rides there.
I'm not sure what we'll do for future trips and have nothing planned. Since DAS is less guaranteed than ever before, it's making me reconsider taking him. I didn't realize how mentally he depends on it, so we'd really need to work on that skill-building. His emotional dysregulation can be so exhausting for the rest of us it stops being a vacation. My 14 year old typical daughter doesn't want to go with him anymore. So we probably need to accept the fact that family vacations need to be elsewhere that work for my son, and I'll do disney girls trips with just my daughter.