Cosmetic Surgery - would you?

[poohandwendy]

I totally agree with those who mention how important appearances are. I see the saying "it's not what's on the outside, it's what's on the inside that counts" as pure balony. It is ALL about appearances. Those who look good do better in life - they usually get the jobs, get the dates, overall are treated better by others. No doubt in my mind.

Wow, that is very superficial and sad, IMO. One does not need surgery to have a s'uccessful' appearance, ie get the dates, get the job.

 

[momof1princess]

thank you cindy *HUGS* (i don't know how to do the hug smilie, lol) before surgery, i had rotten health and NO life-i couldn't stand up or walk for more than a minute or two, barely fit behind the steering wheel of my car, and spent almost all my time on the couch. now i exercise 5 days a week for no less than 45 minutes, i eat the right foods, and i can go anywhere and do whatever i want because my back and feet don't hurt anymore!

 

[arminnie]

Well I'm almost 60, and I guess I could afford to have some work done. Especially since one of my long-term friends is an excellent plastic surgeon.

But since I haven't done any of that, I guess I really don't want to.

An observation that I've made over the years - I've known many women who are significantly overweight or not particularly specimens of beauty that have very successful marriages. I've often thought that the man that they married picked them for who they are "inside" not their external attributes. And in the long run those marriages seem to work out better than the ones based on looks.

 

[macraven]

if money were no object, i 'd have a tummy tuck in a heartbeat.

 

[luvnmy2bys]

I am an OR nurse so I see the standard breast reductions/augmentations, tummy tucks, lipo ect. But the other day I saw one I had never heard of before, a ***** reduction. The lady was in her late 30's and had just always felt that they hung too much. Not a porn star just an average married mother of 2.

If I was going to have something done I would get my teeth bleached.

luvnmy2bys

editing to add they took my word out. Lets just say she had her lips reduced and not the ones on her mouth.

 

[Mandabella]

editing to add they took my word out. Lets just say she had her lips reduced and not the ones on her mouth.

Have I heard it all yet?

 

[mickeyfan1]

Sometimes how a person looks to themselves really affects how they feel about themselves. It is hard to feel beautiful on the inside it you see a lot of ugliness on the outside. I think there are a lot of women and some men who have gone way overboard with the "cosmetic improvements", but for me knowing that i don't have sagging jowls, droopy eyelids, a large deposit of fat under my chin and a sagging neck makes me a lot more confident when I meet people. I know the face is one of the first things that people see. You can wear all types of clothes that cover up and support the sagging areas, hold in the "not as tight as it was at 18" tummy, etc. But it is hard, even with great make up applications to disguise what gravity is doing to your face.
I am not saying that cosmetic surgery will improve everyone's self confidence, either. But it can give many people that little extra nudge that they need. If you think that your nose is too big, and you think that it is what everyone is looking at when they see you, maybe cosmetic surgery will help. I have seen a 180 turnaround in some people, people who would not go out in public exceot to work and necessary things (grocery store, doctor, etc) because they hated the way something looked and knew everyone was focusing in on that same thing. After surgery, they became more self confident. If you are not concerned and don't think anyone else notices, then you probably have no need for cosmetic surgery.

 

[HugsForEeyore]

Wow, that is very superficial and sad, IMO. One does not need surgery to have a s'uccessful' appearance, ie get the dates, get the job.

I so wish not to believe this, but in ALL my experience, it's true. Everyone I know who is pretty/attractive has done well overall in life, and advanced at the job. Society and human nature favor the attractive ones. Always had.

I recently had lots of work to correct a palate deformity on the inside of my mouth (which caused my adult teeth to grow in completely out of whack!) and the difference in how people treat me is AMAZING! It is really night and day in the way I am perceived now that have a nicer smile and more symmetry to my face. Especially on the job, where is where I seen the biggest difference.

No doubt in my mind that appearances are the most important thing!

 

[Marseeya]

I so wish not to believe this, but in ALL my experience, it's true. Everyone I know who is pretty/attractive has done well overall in life, and advanced at the job. Society and human nature favor the attractive ones. Always had.

I recently had lots of work to correct a palate deformity on the inside of my mouth (which caused my adult teeth to grow in completely out of whack!) and the difference in how people treat me is AMAZING! It is really night and day in the way I am perceived now that have a nicer smile and more symmetry to my face. Especially on the job, where is where I seen the biggest difference.

No doubt in my mind that appearances are the most important thing!

Could it possibly be your newly found self-confidence shining through that people are reacting to?

 

[mtblujeans]

I would like to have my eye lids lifted just alittle. Droopy eye lids run in my family. My Dad had his eye lids lifted when he was a bit older than I am now and his insurance paid for it because it interferred with his eye sight.

I always thought that, if I every had breast cancer and had to have my breasts removed, I would want to have implants that are larger than what I am now, if possible. Woo-hoo!

 

[Marseeya]

An observation that I've made over the years - I've known many women who are significantly overweight or not particularly specimens of beauty that have very successful marriages. I've often thought that the man that they married picked them for who they are "inside" not their external attributes. And in the long run those marriages seem to work out better than the ones based on looks.

I know what you mean! I have a friend who works so hard on her appearance because she's afraid her husband will cheat on her if she loses her good looks. Um, Elizabeth Hurley, anyone?

 

[momof2inPA]

I know a few moms who choose friends based purely on looks and money. It's pitiful. How can a person get to be 35 to 40 and be so shallow? This one chick recently was telling me that all her friends were professional women at one point, and I thought, who the heck cares? They are all SAHM's now. I don't need a resume or a reference from a plastic surgeon, if someone is nice and has decent personal hygiene, we can be pals.

 

[Mandabella]

if someone is nice and has decent personal hygiene, we can be pals.

You sound like a good gal pal to me!

Those women you describe remind me of some the girls I went to middle/high school with....but never quite grew up themselves.

 

[lucyanna girl]

Yes, I would love to have some of these wrinkles and lines that Father Time and six children have etched into my face. It was easy to say at 30 that I would take what came and be happy with it but I am starting to look older than I feel. My youngest DD who is 14 says I just smile too much.

 

[Feralpeg]

No. The only cosmetic surgery I would consider would be to remove the implants I had put in during reconstruction. I've had surgery ten times. There is no way I'd do it unless absolutely necessary.

 

[nwdisgal]

I think self esteem and attitude go a long way. There is always going to be someone who is prettier, smarter, in better shape, or richer than you are. How do you possibly keep up with that mentally if you don't have your own sense of worth.

BTW, I've seen lots of people with average or lesser looks get ahead with their confidence.

 

[wide awake]

I think there is a misconception here. I have loads of self-esteem...but I had a tummy tuck last year because I didn't like the way my stomach looked. Now it looks great, I check it out about 50 times a day...it has made me very happy...much more so than someone else's "keep up w/ the Jones" expensive car or jewelry. Life is short...if I can pay for something that makes me happy, why not ? I didn't have my surgery for anyone but me, I've only recently started changing my wardrobe...hard habit to get out of...looking at a piece of clothing, thinking I can't wear it...now finally the realization...YES I CAN !!!

 

[momof2inPA]

I think there is a misconception here. I have loads of self-esteem...but I had a tummy tuck last year because I didn't like the way my stomach looked. Now it looks great, I check it out about 50 times a day...

I don't have a problem with a tummy tuck, but 50 times a day?? Girl, you need to find a hobby.

 

[GoofieRuthie]

With the quest for perfection so rampant these days - if money wasnt an object, would you get something done? Have you had something done? Would you admit it, if you had/did?

I would - not anything crazy and extreme (well, I dunno.... )

There was a girl on DR 90210 whom had her butt - hole bleached. Oh yes - apparently they have special bleaching cream for this spot....

OMG! Where is a tissue?? I literally just snotted on myself laughing! I couldn't even imagine going to a doctor about that! ROFL

Anyway, yes I would go for some surgery. I had gastric bypass and lost 165 pounds. I didn't exercise like I should have so I have really saggy skin now. I joined curves to try and firm up some, but it will take LOTS of work if it improves any at all. I am actually more embarassed about my naked body now than I was at 330 lbs. I have been talking non stop lately about getting a full body lift and some beautiful breasts. A young girl at work just got hers and now I'm more determined than ever. I think I'm happy with the color of my uhm, butt- hole though.

 

[lookingforward]

I am going to have a tummy tuck within the next year. Two c-sections and a burst appendix and it needs some help My self esteem is fine....I just want a tighter stomach which can't be attained by any amount of time in the gym. I figure there is a risk but I am healthy and relatively young. Give me some good medicine and wake me up when it is over. I have a high pain threshold anyway!