debbieandroo
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ohhhhhh, Tink..........
God rest her little baby's soul
Someone out there sure would have loved to take that little girl home with them...
and I'm going to visit with my friend and her twins - who were born just little later than this little one...and they're doing magnificently...
what a world we live in...
I'm sorry for everything you guys are going through SD. I've read your post several times to make sure I understand what you are saying. I know you don't want your mom to have to have chemo, and I understand you are feeling confused because the majority of the other doctors said she wouldn't need chemo, but they are not oncologists, right? If the oncologist is recommending chemo for a valid reason, such as the cancer being caused by hormones, and there is any chance that the cancer could reestablish itself later on down the line because it is hormone driven, then I would take the chemo.
It sounds like you guys need to go back and talk to the oncologist again, and have him explain again why he feels the need for chemo. He may be basing his decision on the rate of reoccurance. I would ask him point blank if this type of cancer has a high recurrance rate, and if it being hormone driven has anything to do with that. I know you don't want to hear me say that it doesn't matter what every other nurse or doctor told your mom regarding not needing chemo, but they are not the doctors who deal with treating cancer patients day in and day out. I am sure the oncologist would not recommend chemo if he didn't feel the benefits outweighed the risks.
Try to take a deep breath, and only focus on one day at a time. If it were me I'd put the Disney trip on hold for awhile until you have a more clear idea of what the treatment plan is. It really sounds like you guys need to absorb all this a little bit more, and then go back to the oncologist for more questions and answers.
I know how overwhelming this all is as I went through the same thing with my dad and I was totally upset over his treatment plan, and his physicians. I felt they treated my dad like a number and not a person. As an RN I've seen it way too often. You and your family must take control of the situation and not be afraid to ask questions, voice concerns, and make yourselves heard.![]()
SD, what she said...
and more
your way...I hope you get some sleep - things have a way of gaining perspective in the morning...and I understand about not telling your grandma, I've done that a few times myself.
This girl was 23 weeks pregnant.
). He said he's on the fence and could go either way, hormone pills and chemo or just hormone pills. So, he's ordering the $3,000 test on the tumor to find out more about its cause before making the decision. That will take three weeks to get those test results back, 2 if we're really lucky. So as of now, we're looking at being in a holding pattern until March.
How old is he again?
Then he ended it with, "Good night. I love y'all."
. We've got to stop these people!
and state how horrible we are and how wonderful it is that we finally have a President that doesnt give a about this country and wants it destroyed.
That's not fear-mongering?
this man is. He isnt. If they were paying any attention to him (then, again, if they were paying any attention to him they never would have voted for him) but had they been, they would have noticed just how much he has to reign in that temper of his. Ive seen him almost lose it to start to lose it several times. The man has a serious temper that connects directly to his oversized ego. So far hes managed to keep it out of site of the camera, but behind closed doors
. A man who is calm and in control doesnt shove another man up against the wall in a heated argument.