Confirmation - Party?

[mrsstats]

Do most people have a confirmation party after the service? What type of party? Large or just close family.

My niece will make her confirmation next year at age 15. We are Lutheran and other than my brother & I (we are in our 60's) will be the 1st in our family to make her confirmation in our religion. My DS is just wondering what she should do.

Thanks.

 

[ahutton]

We had a small family gathering, had what the DD of the day wanted for lunch and a cake of her choice. We did invite a family friend who celebrate religion like we do too but they had a schedule conflict. It was fun to see what each girl picked!

 

[FlightlessDuck]

My parents threw a party with friends and relatives. I don't recall any of my friends there, mostly relatives. But then, most of my friends weren't Catholic.

I remember food, and a cake, and I got over $100 through congratulation cards.

 

[*pixie*dust*]

Do most people have a confirmation party after the service? What type of party? Large or just close family.

My niece will make her confirmation next year at age 15. We are Lutheran and other than my brother & I (we are in our 60's) will be the 1st in our family to make her confirmation in our religion. My DS is just wondering what she should do.

Thanks.

One side of my family are all Lutheran. They have always had an open house type party afterwards with a full meal,cake, punch, gifts etc.

 

[momtojandj]

My son is making his confirmation in May. I am sending out invites, and having a party of about 30 here after. Mostly family and close friends. Also around here most people do parties either out somewhere or at home. I am not making it huge, Ill be doing cooking etc. But I have heard people make it big, catered and favors etc.

 

[Southernmiss]

Our parish (Catholic) has a reception for all of the Confirmation students after the mass--may need to see what the church's plan is too. Our masses for Confirmation are usually in the evening, so by the time you have mass and the reception it's 9 p.m.

Often families will have a personal gathering honoring their student the next day/weekend.

 

[NAB]

My son had his Confirmation last year and we had a family and friend party after. It is the same type of party we had for his Baptism.

Lunch, cake , snacks etc.

 

[Tinker'n'Fun]

Both of my children had a small reception afterwards sponsored by the church (Catholic if that matters). We would go, spend a little time, then I would take out my child, their sponsor and family, and a few friends if asked out for a nice dinner. One child picked a small local restaurant in the "artsy" section of our city (it's an area we don't get to go to very often, but both of my children love the cute/unique restaurants and shops) and the other picked P.F Changs.

It actually may have been less expensive to have a few people at the house, but they enjoyed being all dressed up and going out as an "adult" for dinner.

 

[MichelleinMaine]

DS was confirmed last year (UCC). We offered to take him (and his sponsor and his wife) out to dinner. He didn't want to. Ok.... we had pizza at home at his request, lol.

(They'd had a cake/small reception for all the confirmands at coffee hour.)

 

[AllisonK]

My parents had a party for me with family/close friends/a few of my friends because my confirmation was about a week after my 16th birthday and I didn't want a huge party so agreed to a family party for my confirmation/birthday (my dad's family is Jewish so it couldn't just be a confirmation party - we had birthday cake!).

Right after the confirmation Mass my parents/mom's parents and I went out to eat as the rest of my mom's family doesn't live locally.

 

[charming23]

I am Catholic and was confirmed when I was 14. The church had a small reception afterward but my Dad decided he wanted to take us out for brunch instead. It was just close family and we went to our favorite place. We got a substantial meal rather than just cake and punch. Afterward we went back to our house and just spent the afternoon together.

 

[cntrygal]

We are lutheran too. I had a small party relatives from out of town some church members and some family friends in the back yard.
My sons conformation was two weeks before his jr high graduation. We had one party the week inbetween rented the local fire house had about 130 people. He is currently a pre seminary major at a lutheran college.

 

[aprilgail2]

My son is making his confirmation in May. I am sending out invites, and having a party of about 30 here after. Mostly family and close friends. Also around here most people do parties either out somewhere or at home. I am not making it huge, Ill be doing cooking etc. But I have heard people make it big, catered and favors etc.

That is how it is here- you always have a party but most of them are out someplace, not many at a house. Baptisim=big party. Communion= big party. Confirmation= big party. 1st birthday=big party. Sweet 16=really big party. Engagement=party. After the funeral=party. You don't do anything here without a party LOL and most are not in peoples homes!

 

[SaraJayne]

DS15 will be confirmed (ELCA) in a couple months and his party will be at home with relatives. So probably about 25 people.

Around here, parties at home with relatives are the norm. DH, myself and all my friends had parties at home after our confirmations.

 

[goofy4tink]

Dd was confirmed several years ago...Episcopalian church. We invited family and church friends back to the house after the service. Dds friends were invited to stop by as well. We live in a town with a very large Jewish population....dd has been to many bat mitzvah's...so, while we weren't trying to compete with what her friends had, we felt it was a very special time in her life. Many of the same people were at her baptism and first communion as well...nice sense of continuity for her.

 

[nmmom95]

DS will make his Confirmation in April. We are Catholic. We are just going to a nice restaurant after.

 

[violetrose]

Our kids (raised Catholic) all had their confirmation at 14 and we had parties at the house for all 3. Nothing elaborate, just a small gathering with extended family and close friends.

 

[mjkacmom]

That is how it is here- you always have a party but most of them are out someplace, not many at a house. Baptisim=big party. Communion= big party. Confirmation= big party. 1st birthday=big party. Sweet 16=really big party. Engagement=party. After the funeral=party. You don't do anything here without a party LOL and most are not in peoples homes!

Around here, Confirmation, not so much. Everything else is a big party, but, for some reason, Confirmation isn't the same as the other sacraments (maybe because they keep changing the age - poor ds13). For dd15, we just went out to a restaurant with the grandparents.

 

[kimmar067]

....we gave all 3 of our DS's a party for their First Eucharist, but took them, along with their sponsors, out to dinner [with our immediate family] after they were confirmed...

 

[englishteacha]

Another UCC person here. Usually in our church they have cake and snacks after worship for the confirmands. In my family, when I was confirmed, we had a nice Sunday dinner at home after for family. I got a pretty cross necklace and a few books as presents, but nothing elaborate. In the UCC, confirmation is twofold: you confirm your baptism and also become a voting member of the church. It was cool, as a teen, to be able to officially have a say in the matters of the church.