Confirmation - Party?

[meyerjd77]

Lutheran here. I had a somewhat large party as did my brother and sister. My son is getting confirmed this spring. I'd like to have something for him but my wife hates the idea. She attends church with us but does not believe in God. It won't be what my family is used to but, we will not have any party or acknowledgement whatsoever for our son.

 

[runwad]

Lutheran here. I had a somewhat large party as did my brother and sister. My son is getting confirmed this spring. I'd like to have something for him but my wife hates the idea. She attends church with us but does not believe in God. It won't be what my family is used to but, we will not have any party or acknowledgement whatsoever for our son.

That's kinda sad, the day isn't about her but your son. Most Mother's would put their feelings aside for their children. Kinda surprised she wouldn't celebrate this milestone for your son.

I know this is an old thread but since it's going again, we just celebrated the day with our kids sponsors with a dinner after our church's social hour.

 

[L&Lfan]

We didn't have confirmation parties. Our immediate family (parents and kids) went out to dinner after the ceremony. Our family is mixed religion (Catholic and Protestant) and spread out all over the country, so that might have factored into our tradition.

 

[goofy4tink]

Lutheran here. I had a somewhat large party as did my brother and sister. My son is getting confirmed this spring. I'd like to have something for him but my wife hates the idea. She attends church with us but does not believe in God. It won't be what my family is used to but, we will not have any party or acknowledgement whatsoever for our son.

Welcome to the DIS. I have to ask....if your wife goes to church but has no beliefs, why is your ds being confirmed? I figure that if you have strong enough beliefs to have a child confirmed, it's not a stretch to do something to acknowledge that. Each family has to do what they need to do, but I find it strange that it's okay to confirm but not celebrate, especially when it's the norm (which seems to be the case) for the family.
My sister-in-law really didn't care about baptizing my niece, although she had gone to Catholic school, 1-12. She as much as said that they really didn't care but wanted to have a big party, so why not baptize her. I think many people feel this way. I guess the reverse could be true as well.

 

[usnuzuloose]

Need to be eaqually yoked.

 

[nkereina]

We are Catholic and traditionally among our family and friends we've seen only small family-only gatherings or just immediate family and sponsor going out to dinner after a confirmation ceremony. In our church, the confirmation ceremony is on a week night besides. We tend to throw the bigger parties for baptism and/or first communion.

 

[aprilchem]

We are going to a confirmation party in a few weeks. It's for girl in a family that's Catholic, and they are having a large family and friend gathering the day before and then a smaller gathering just after the mass on the day of the confirmation.

When I was a kid we were really poor, so we didn't do anything after my confirmation that remember. We did receive a bible from the church as a gift, though.

 

[princesspiglet]

Our Methodist church family doesn't really have confirmation parties. The kids all go through the ceremony together (usually about 10-15 of them) and afterwards there is punch and cake in the fellowship hall. But after that, pretty much nothing. Rest of the day is normal.

 

[meyerjd77]

In response to why my son is being confirmed, first off because he wants to be. His faith is very important to him. It's something we both share. I know this whole party situation is just another way for my wife to put us down.

 

[3DisneyBuggs]

My DS is being confirmed in May. As we did with our other kids we will go out to dinner with the grandparenrs and sponsor. In our family we have big christening parties and small Confirmation.

 

[Hopscotch]

We are Catholic and traditionally among our family and friends we've seen only small family-only gatherings or just immediate family and sponsor going out to dinner after a confirmation ceremony. In our church, the confirmation ceremony is on a week night besides. We tend to throw the bigger parties for baptism and/or first communion.

Same here. We are hosting Easter at our house for about 40 relatives. DD is getting confirmed 6 days later so i’m quite sure everyone would not be happy if we invited them to that too. My sister is her sponsor so we’ll probably go out to eat with her and my BIL and probably my dad.

 

[wgeo]

In response to why my son is being confirmed, first off because he wants to be. His faith is very important to him. It's something we both share. I know this whole party situation is just another way for my wife to put us down.

I grew up Lutheran and I remember all the parties and such for Confirmation, lots of family members would show up to church to watch the ceremony and then had back to the house for a party.

As an adult I don't go to a Lutheran church anymore and we are no where near any family. It has donned on me that confirmation is really about helping the young adult grow and develop their own faith - and their accomplishment in finishing years of education and study is certainly worth celebrating, but you can do that without a party. We let our son pick what he wanted - and he asked to go to a special restaurant so we did that and had an amazing day.

 

[AustinTink]

Our parish (Catholic) has a reception for all of the Confirmation students after the mass--may need to see what the church's plan is too. Our masses for Confirmation are usually in the evening, so by the time you have mass and the reception it's 9 p.m.

That's how my son's was we were at the reception until 9:30 on a Wednesday night. There was no time for a separate celebration afterwards.

 

[jevs]

Lutheran here. I had a somewhat large party as did my brother and sister. My son is getting confirmed this spring. I'd like to have something for him but my wife hates the idea. She attends church with us but does not believe in God. It won't be what my family is used to but, we will not have any party or acknowledgement whatsoever for our son.

In response to why my son is being confirmed, first off because he wants to be. His faith is very important to him. It's something we both share. I know this whole party situation is just another way for my wife to put us down.

Just have a party for him, or acknowledge the day in some way. Your wife doesn’t have to attend.

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